Quiet: I especially hate watching this kind of program now. Parents are kicked out by their children and their sons are disobedient. The kind where a son helps his daughters-in-law and makes their parents miserable. When I saw this kind of program, I said, I deserve it. Why didn't I screw you up? I don't understand how he became a bad guy and you became a poor guy. I told you it deserved it. What's wrong with your child? Has he been so cross since he was a baby? So I think there is nothing wrong with the child, never wrong. You taught him this way, and now you let the society know that he is a bad person. I really hate these people.
These are her original words. As soon as these words come out, many people will definitely spray her. After all, her point of view is different from our previous traditional ideas. When we encounter this situation, we will almost accuse the children of being unfilial and the daughter-in-law of being unreasonable.
In fact, it makes sense to savor what she said. Of course, what she said is not completely right. She said that children are always right, which is also too absolute, because some children are indeed ruthless and ungrateful. However, what she said is very important. Most children are taught by their parents.
In fact, some netizens agree with her point of view. They think that parents are their children's first teachers and children are their parents' mirrors. So they think that how parents educate their children will become what kind of people when they grow up. For children who are unfilial and ungrateful when they grow up, there must be something wrong with the way their parents raised them.
What kind of children whose parents are easy to educate are not good?
Parents who don't know how to respect their children since childhood, often beat and scold their children or all kinds of cold violence. In this process, whether it is corporal punishment or scolding, it will bring great psychological pressure to children, make them live in anxiety and fear, and even often have the idea of fighting violence with violence. When they were young, they couldn't reach their ability and had to endure these dissatisfaction. When they were old, they would rebel against their parents. Beating and cursing too much will even make them doubt themselves and cause inner self-distrust. Moreover, studies have shown that beating and cursing will affect the development of children's IQ and EQ.
Parents who are always nagging and not filial. "It is easy for nagging parents to make their children dislike it, which is not worthy of respect. The number of nagging is more, and the words spoken are even less authoritative. When the contradiction gradually expands, the relationship between parents and children will be alienated. "
Parents who overindulge and pamper their children. For a long time, children will feel that their parents' love for them is taken for granted. Their parents' sacrifice and sacrifice are logical. Once parents can't meet their children's requirements, children will hate them and even fight them when they grow up.
A good education also comes from the little things in life. What impressed me most was what I really heard.
At the entrance of an underground passage, a mother used her left and right hands to shelter her children from the rain. At that time, her right hand was holding an umbrella, but this umbrella was used to shelter an old man with a bent waist. The old man is a tramp, and the mother has been following him slowly.
When waiting for the subway, a baby asked what the footprints were. Mom, Dad and Grandma patiently explained to him that they were in line and lined up neatly for the baby to see.
On the subway, a young mother sat on the seat, holding her child in her arms, and the child fell asleep. The mother protects her child with one hand and holds the soles of her shoes with the other. This way, you won't get dirty or touch others.
When crossing the road, the pupils bent down to thank the driver who gave him the first place.
These examples tell us that parents are role models for children. The subtle influence of parents is the most profound. I read a foreign news not long ago.