Girlfriend Mengjiao divorced, to know that she and her husband have been married for seven years, the divorce so that people should think of whether the two out of any problem, but Mengjiao said that she and her husband and there is no so-called third party or the outbreak of serious family conflicts.
It's just that it's so bland, so bland that people don't see any hope, and the two of them are just like strangers looking at each other every day without saying a word. Marriage is like a pool of stagnant water, calm people collapse, divorce is the two people **** the same decision, feel this is also a kind of relief!
In fact, the reality is that there are too many marriages like girlfriends, love and romance have long been worn out by time, the only thing left is silence.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "If you do not explode in silence, you will perish in silence."
This tells us that marriage is inseparable from the "catfish effect", should be allowed to play a positive role to avoid the above situation, then, what is the catfish effect?
What is the "catfish effect"?
The catfish effect refers to the catfish in the stirring of the small fish survival environment at the same time, but also activate the small fish survival ability. The catfish effect is to take a means or measures to stimulate some companies to be active in the market to actively participate in the competition, so as to activate the market in the same industry.
Applying it to marriage tells us that when a marriage loses its passion and becomes lifeless, letting it go can only bring the marriage to the brink of irreversibility, and finding ways to energize the marriage is the best way to make it last forever.
Perhaps some people will wonder what we need to do to inject unending power into the marriage?
How to use the "catfish effect" to enhance the freshness of marriage? 1. "Surprise" is an indispensable preservative Roman Roland said: "All the joys of life are the joys of creation: love, genius, action - all rely on the fire of creation. -all by creating this fire into the shot." Life itself does have its boring and tedious, but life is the need for people to "operate", the operation of good, it will become a sound and colorful vitality, the operation of bad, they are dull and tasteless. So, in marriage, we must always be prepared for the partner some unexpected small surprise, it is like a small flame, from time to time to ignite each other's dark empty heart, so as not to fall into a desperate situation. These seemingly ordinary but unexpected little surprise, but also to each other both sides will bring more warmth and comfort, and thus willing to pay more love in this marriage. 2. Marriage needs a "sense of ceremony" Someone has to say, what is the sense of ceremony? What's a ceremony? Can it be more enjoyable than a big meal? Of course! Many people think that these so-called "sense of ceremony", but it is two words: "pretentious"! But it is precisely because of this onlooker's eyes do not care about the pretentiousness of the marriage to more solemn moments, so that each other know how to cherish each other more! For example, when the partner's birthday to her in advance to set up a pleasant party, or the anniversary of the wedding, to take her to eat after the delicious for her to buy a bouquet of flowers on one knee to tell her: "this life with you is my great happiness". Don't think that these things don't have a real purpose. There's a famous line from The Little Prince: "The ritual exists because it makes one day different from the others, makes one moment different from the others." And this "difference" is what gives a marriage more hope and expectation. 3. Learn to rely on each other Couples are legally married, but also emotionally dependent on each other, and to maintain their relationship, not only feelings, but also a sense of mutual "need". For example, if a wife can't do something when she expects her husband to help her, this expectation will become a sacred sense of responsibility, so that he feels that he is needed by his wife, and can produce a kind of protection; And the husband in the pressure of the wife's desire to comfort, the same will touch the wife's heart, so that she can't help caring for her husband, considerate of each other. This mutual need is also an important means of maintaining relationships. 4. With the partner to a few "say go" trip Goethe said: "The reason why people love to travel, not to arrive at the destination, but in order to enjoy all the joys of the journey. " Work and family give people too much pressure, and these pressures consume too much energy, the daily anxiety makes people have no time to feel the beauty around them. More and more couples have come to the "look at each other two speechless" situation, completely unable to feel the care or love from each other, once in a while to travel, unload the heavy baggage, to enjoy the strange scenery. In the unfamiliar place, the release, to feel life, to experience love, to wake up has been numb heart. The mother-in-law said: Marriage needs both husband and wife to *** with efforts to create vitality for it, there should be no mediocre marriage, only those who do not want to work hard for it, from now on, try to let you have been sleeping life awakening it!
This is the first time I've ever seen a couple of people in the world who were in love with each other, and I've never seen anything like it.