-Silent fatherly love
Years are like the wind, and it is not the years that float away with the wind, but sweet memories. Touching the years is actually touching the joys and sorrows of life. Every time I think back to us when we first came to Shenzhen, yesterday's picture seems to reappear. My parents try their best to provide education for our three brothers. They seem to have a million bags on their backs.
A few years later, a strong wind from the Pacific Ocean blew the scientific and technological products across China. Internet craze swept across the country, and Internet cafes were everywhere. Even the closed hometown has embraced this new scientific and technological product.
Brother-in-law followed suit and opened an internet cafe, and it was full. At this moment, my hands began to itch, so that I had neglected any advantages and disadvantages and strongly supported my father to open an Internet cafe. Brother-in-law also lobbied his father many times, saying that "computers are becoming more and more popular now, and almost every family has computers." It is imperative to learn computer. This opportunity is rare. If you lose this opportunity, maybe it won't happen again next time. " Hearing this, dad seemed to suddenly realize and accepted it calmly.
Internet cafes have officially opened, but they are not popular. I use this free time to play computer games. To my surprise, there are more games in it than I expected. One of the most fun is CS! At that time, it had swept the whole internet cafe, and I was gradually addicted to it, and it was difficult to extricate myself.
After repeated exhortations, I persisted, and my father understood the seriousness of the situation. Once, when I was addicted to games, my father grabbed my hand, stared at me with sharp eyes and roared loudly, "Didn't I tell you not to play computer games?" ! How can you indulge in computer games all day now? There is a lot of knowledge waiting for you to learn online. Don't be seen playing computer games next time! "After that, I suddenly felt a thrill that lasted for a long time." Is it really addictive? Should I not exist in this game world? If so, where is my fate? "
Miraculously, I never played games again, not because I was not allowed to play, nor because I was afraid to play, but because I found the fun of surfing the Internet-chatting with others. I made many friends online, from Hainan Island in the south to Inner Mongolia in the north, which greatly expanded my range of friends, and some of them were my intimate friends. Sometimes talk about trivial things in life, sometimes talk about major events at home and abroad; Sometimes I stay up all night and feel dizzy. Even so, we still enjoy it.
Dad saw me doing nothing all day, worried, and I didn't know what to do about the mega-Internet cafe incident in Beijing. One day, when I was chatting online, the heavy footsteps made me feel uneasy, and the fast keystroke disappeared. I seem to be waiting for the end of the world. Dad sat down next to me and said quietly, "Can I talk to you?" I turned my head and my heart beat faster, but I still didn't say a word. I was introduced to a quiet room by my father. Now my heart is beating like a huge wave. Father broke the silence of the night and said, "I will be in the third grade next semester." This is the first important turning point in life. You should grasp it well, or you will not get it back when you regret it! " Do you know that?/You know what? "I nodded inexplicably, but I was still scared." I ask you to study hard at home until school starts, okay? "Dad kept asking, and I nodded sincerely, and my fear turned into heartfelt emotion." Is this a criticism of me? Don't! This is my father's love for me! This is unspeakable concern! "
In this silent night, I feel glad that this is the most sincere and patient education my father gave me. It is neither painful nor educational. This makes me understand that fatherly love is not always a storm, but sometimes it is like a warm spring breeze! Either way, it is full of deep love for children.
Four perfect compositions:
(2) Let me see you from a distance.
I am the continuation of your life. From the day I was born, the spirit of fate tied me with a long blood rope, and I couldn't get rid of it. We have been together for 18 years, but because we are too close, I can't feel the warm and heavy word that really exists between us during these 18 years.
In the future, let me see you from afar.
When I was very young, when other children were still in my hands, when other parents were carefully leading their children across the road, you took me to the swimming pool and said in a commanding tone, "Get in the water." How can a child, even in shallow water, dare to fear the unknown? You can't explain to me the importance of survival skills, nor can you teach me the traditional virtues of courage and fearlessness. As violent as you are, you will only pick up your little daughter and throw it into the water, stop your brother who is in a hurry to get into the water for half a minute, and let the little child struggle, shout and cry in the water. It was a memory as terrible as death. Such a close distance makes me hate you deeply. However, when I was ten years old, I joined the county swimming team at the first sight of the coach. When I went diving in Hainan alone, I suddenly found this skill so useful. At this time, I am far away from you.
In elementary school, when other children were sitting in the back seat of bicycles with marshmallows and other parents were cooking delicious meals for their children, you hung a shiny door key on my chest and inadvertently reminded me: "Keep to the right." So, after a long 20-minute journey, a girl who just went to Grade One learned to walk by herself bit by bit. Because of walking, I have to get up early every day for more than 1 O minutes; Because of walking, I have to go home more than 1 O minutes late every day. After returning home, there was no smoke and no sound. Do your homework first and wait for your parents to come back. You will never feel how horrible it is to stay at home alone. A strong man like you will only think it is natural. It was a dark and dull memory like coarse cloth, which made me deeply resent you in such a short distance. However, when I was in the fourth grade and was able to go to school by bike alone, when I was 1 2 years old, I suddenly found that my self-reliance was so superhuman, and at this time, I was far away from you.
In junior high school and senior high school, you transferred to other places and left me alone to study in my hometown. Mom still comes back once a week, and you, even if I go, may not be able to take the time to accompany me. I'm as strong as you, but occasionally I will complain about my homework when I meet you. As pale as a feather, I have a deep resentment against you at such a close distance. However, when I was successfully admitted to a key middle school, when I was able to settle down in high school, I suddenly found that strictness can stimulate a new growth, and at this time, I am far away from you.
This morning, you scolded me for not buying compasses, and forced me to buy two of the best ones on the street, deliver them to the classroom in person, and then turn around and leave. I stood looking at you from a distance, unlike being close to you, and suddenly I felt that you were a century older.
Father, my dear father, in the past eighteen years, we have been too close to each other to feel the existence of love, so let me see you from a distance. See how you hold up a love sky for your daughter with solid arms.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
"I got up at four o'clock in the morning and found that Begonia woke up." Kawabata Yasunari wrote that begonia is always open day and night. Why can getting up at four o'clock in the morning produce a different kind of beauty? That's because begonia flowers are completely integrated into our daily life. We bury our heads in study or work, but the beauty that is close at hand slips away quietly. When we take a step back and keep our distance from the begonia, we will enjoy different beauty like Kawabata Yasunari.
Why does distance produce beauty? Probably because distance allows people to grasp things macroscopically, and more importantly, distance brings unknown mystery and triggers people's beautiful fantasies.
Before the United States landed on the moon, beautiful legends about the moon, such as the Goddess Chang'e flying to the moon, were already circulating in China. However, when the astronauts brought back a few cold stones and sent back some "devastated" photos of the moon, fairy tales and legends ceased to exist. From then on, when people talk about the moon, they will only think of a desolate ball, not Jade Rabbit, Guanghan Palace and WU GANG.
Looking at the moon from a distance makes people have a beautiful daydream; Look at the moon carefully, and all people get are a few cold stones. This is the wonderful function of distance.
So how can we quit and experience the neglected beauty in life?
It is impossible for people to say that they suddenly immigrated to the moon collectively and looked after their homes on the moon. Then feel different beauty. The distance here is the distance of the soul. In a materialistic society, people's hearts are always wrapped in fame and fortune, so that they can't appreciate the beauty around them. So keep a distance from utilitarianism.
When we stop studying for exam scores, we will find that the knowledge in books is so interesting; When we slow down the pace of going to work and school, you will find how vibrant the green trees on the street are. Life is full of poetry. What people lack is a proper distance.
When our hearts are liberated and we keep a distance from foreign objects, we will find that the sky is the sky that gives me the desire to soar; The earth is the earth bearing all things; The ocean is the one that gave birth to the first life.
Let's take a step back and keep a proper distance, and the beauty around us will appear one after another.
(4) Far and near focal length
On the road of life, "looking up at the vastness of the universe and overlooking the richness of categories", we should adjust the appropriate focal length at any time and walk on the earth at the best angle.
There is a saying in Zen Buddhism that "eyes and flesh are narrow and dusty, and nothing in the heart is as wide as a bed." Whether a person's vision is broad or not determines his life values, world outlook and attitude. And broadening your horizons is determined by the distance you see things.
In life, we often worry about many things, just because you still have too much persistence and obsession with life. "If you look hard, you are blind." When you stand at a certain height, everything in front of you is as small as "fame and fortune": "Flies are like a drop in the ocean", will you still be unhappy?
"There were thousands of people looking for him, and I was the first to turn around, and that person was in the dim light." There are also three realms of learning: "seeing mountains and rivers is water", "seeing mountains and rivers is not water", "seeing mountains or mountains, and seeing water or water." You can't really understand when you are too rigid in class. When you grasp every word, how can you see the context of the article clearly, move towards it and grasp the deep meaning? After this hard journey, your mind will be broadened; At this time, you need to jump out of the shackles of thinking, guide this book with a broad vision, and grasp it macroscopically. You can "recognize the true face of Lushan Mountain."
The children in the ruins concentrate on reading because they yearn for the prosperity of the city, while the children in the city want to return to the lake of the soul and find the simplicity and poverty of life. For what you have, material and affectionate; Immerse yourself in it every day, just like the sugar in a sealed jar, and you can't feel the beauty and preciousness you have; But I think life is too busy and boring. Only when you jump out can you feel the beauty in life.
Awakening is always attached to distance, and aesthetic feeling appears. "The rain in the sky is crisp, the grass is close, but there is nothing." "Lotus can be seen from a distance, but it is not ridiculous." It inspires us not only to jump out of suffering and face everything optimistically, but also to transcend beauty and be grateful for everything you have. Spring is charming, but it disappears shyly when you approach it; The sea is blue, touching the spring, but it is pure and colorless.
Li Shutong, a brilliant man, could have lived a luxurious life, but he ran out of talent, shaved his hair and returned to Buddhism. Many people don't understand him, only he knows: life has its own taste. See through the world of mortals, "fascinated by five colors", have a higher vision and eventually become a master.
The streamer easily dumped people, turning cherries into red and plantains into green. Walking on your own life, it is sometimes difficult to see if you have taken a detour. You might as well jump out and adjust the focal length to show the best life. (