Life and death are predestined. When the terrifying man calls the roll, he can't delay for a second. You can't discuss with the terrifying because the Chinese New Year is coming or you have something to deal with at home. You can't leave for a few days later. At this point, no matter how big the official is, no matter how rich and powerful the family is, it is the same as ordinary people. Without privilege, the relationship between the world and the underworld is not good. The more Chinese New Year is celebrated, the colder the weather is, and the elderly are physically exhausted. Some cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases are prone to relapse in winter. Such things often happen. If the old man at home dies suddenly at the end of the year, how should we spend this Spring Festival?
I remember when I was about seven or eight years old, there was a child my age in our village, and his mother died on New Year's Eve. At that time, the countryside didn't seem to know about cancer, but everyone in the village knew that his mother had removed her breast, which is now known as breast cancer. When his mother died, he had a younger brother who was two or three years younger than him. The next day is New Year's Day. He and his brother sent their mother and father away together. I, a fashionable person who doesn't know the way of the world, want to know why someone died on the first day of New Year's Day. In my mind, I think there are only happy things in the Spring Festival, and no one will die, or it should not happen during the Spring Festival.
As long as an old man died in the family this year, no matter whether the Spring Festival is coming soon or not, Spring Festival couplets can't be posted this year. If you have to paste Spring Festival couplets, you can only paste green or yellow couplets. As the Spring Festival approaches, if an old family member dies, in our local custom, we can't give anyone a New Year greeting this Spring Festival except posting Spring Festival couplets. The old man in the family died, and he was a filial person. He can't go to other people's homes at ordinary times, let alone the Spring Festival. It means that people who are filial are too yin, and others will be taboo. On the first day, not only can't you go to other people's homes. You can't open the door early in the morning. It's best not to let others come to your house.
The first month is the time to visit relatives to pay New Year greetings, and the old man at home has passed away. In the first month, all the troubles of visiting relatives will be eliminated. Just stay at home honestly, and friends and relatives won't blame you for not paying New Year's greetings. It will be three years before everything can return to normal. In other words, within three years, you can't post Spring Festival couplets, and you don't need to go out to pay New Year's greetings. Although these are old customs in the past, we have been continuing these traditional customs in our local area. I wonder if other areas have the same customs and habits as our Jiaodong area.
The Chinese New Year is coming, and the old man at home suddenly died. This happened to us. The countryside pays the most attention to the New Year, so the old man died on the first day of the New Year's Day. What should I do?
When the old man died on New Year's Day, relatives and neighbors could not call the police. His family has settled the old man, such as wiping his body and changing into a shroud. Older people have made the longevity wood, that is, the coffin, to a carpenter in advance, and the shroud has been made in advance, just in case. In case the old man can't make it to the Spring Festival, where can he buy it? The rude words of rural people are to prevent him from being blind.
When these things are done, put the old man in the coffin, burn incense and put on offerings. Children are absolutely forbidden to cry and scream. It's not like that at all to the outside world. Whether it's Chinese New Year or Chinese New Year, because everyone is busy at home during Chinese New Year, and no one cares too much about it. Wait until the second day of the first month, and tell neighbors and relatives on the third day of the first month that everyone will help bury the old man.
Why doesn't the death of the old man in the New Year disturb others? First, it is unlucky. Everyone is happy during the Chinese New Year and can't cry. In the second township, it is said that the lower bound of immortals is not in the sky, just like the unit, there is a holiday for the New Year, and no one cares.
In this village, the old man died, and that's what we did. I don't know what other places are like. I hope you can leave a message.
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The Chinese New Year is coming, and the old man at home died unfortunately. How to deal with it? The premise of considering this problem is to see if there is enough time before the year. In the countryside, it depends on whether the days are auspicious or not. As long as these two problems can be solved, the old man will be settled years ago, and after all, he will be buried in the ground. If not, we'll discuss it later.
My father left on December 19, which happened to be the end of the year. That year's New Year's Eve was 29, not 30. It takes 10 days from the very beginning to the New Year. What should we do? According to rural customs, settling the elderly years ago means that the bad luck of the past year is gone. If you settle down next year, the next year will still be an unlucky one. According to people's opinions, and according to Mr. Yin Yang's calculation, the only day suitable for burying the elderly years ago was the 27th of the twelfth lunar month. At the end of the year, many villagers went back to the village to prepare for the New Year. With everyone's help, nearly 100 people went up the mountain to help bury the coffin. My father finally passed away years ago, and it has been more than 20 years now. I still thank the villagers for their concern. They put aside what they want to do during the Spring Festival to help. The next day, I thanked the people who helped me eat, but many people didn't go!
This topic is very appropriate. The day before yesterday was 13, which happened to be the twelfth lunar month 19, and it was also the 22nd anniversary of my father's death. I deeply miss my father who devoted his life to the national coal industry. His illness is an occupational disease: coal silicosis. He was 66 years old when he left.
In the year when my father left, who still had the heart to celebrate the New Year! Later, at the end of each year, when people are busy with the Chinese New Year, the feeling of "missing my relatives twice during the festive season" comes to mind, but I lost my closest father before the festive season came. No one can understand the feeling of pain. Only pain and suffering alone! That year, I wrote an article in memory of my father, Heart Sacrifice, which was published in the national newspaper supplement to remember my father's life.
Dad, I miss you [tears] [tears] Are you okay over there? [Tears] [Tears] [Tears]
Depends on what you think. You should live the life you deserve. Many times, I think the old people who left did more than we thought. Let me talk about my own personal experience. Here's the thing. The two closest people in my life, my grandmother and my aunt (because I grew up with my uncle's parents when I was young, so I called my mother with my cousins), my grandmother died on the sixteenth day of the first month, and my aunt died on the first day of the New Year's Day. Everyone in the village said that the two old people were blessed, because they were not only respected in the village when they were alive, but also took care of their relatives and neighbors all their lives and rarely caused trouble to others. And when they leave, they also take care of their children and grandchildren and don't embarrass them. I remember when my grandmother left, the reform and opening up had not been carried out, and the villagers had no chance to go out to work. I was at home during the Spring Festival, and it was even more amazing when menstruation left. She has been in bed for several years. The situation was even worse that year. Entering the twelfth lunar month, she especially wants to go back to her hometown. The doctor kindly reminded her that it was only ten days and a half. When she returned to her hometown, she was much better mentally. It was not until New Year's Eve that her family got together and kowtowed for the New Year. The next morning, she ate three jiaozi and had a rest. Everyone thought she was asleep, but in fact she closed her eyes and left. Our rule here is that no outsiders are invited to handle affairs in the first month, only the people closest to us attend, so the last two old people didn't give you any trouble. People in the village are still a little embarrassed to think about it, thinking that the old man's merits are complete.
I remember that my grandmother left for the Spring Festival recently, and it has been 29 years since her funeral! Dad has a heavy heart. The next day is New Year's Eve. The only time we didn't cook more than a dozen dishes, we got a hot pot at home, which was almost the same as usual. We won't post couplets or pay New Year greetings, so it's a simple New Year! In the month of Chinese New Year, my introverted dad didn't listen to him for a few words, knowing that he was sad!
I have experienced this thing personally! It was more than five years ago in the middle of June 5438+10, and my mother died of brain atrophy for many years. It was less than a month before the Spring Festival.
Because my mother died in my hometown in the countryside, and the custom of "doing white things" in the countryside is more complicated in my hometown, although it is different from place to place.
First of all, a seven-day wake is the basic requirement. This is troublesome, and it may be easier to handle in winter. At least the body won't rot quickly because of the high temperature. If it is summer, we can only ask the funeral service company to solve it. They usually use special frozen coffins to keep the bodies in the freezer, which can solve the problem of corruption of the bodies.
At that time, for various reasons, we also invited the funeral service company to help solve the problem of preserving the mother's body. This is a special kind of frozen coffin.
Secondly, seven days after the wake, there are a lot of other things, which are particularly troublesome for future generations anyway. What to ask a living bodhisattva to cross over, what to ask a choir to sing, and so on. It was about four days before my mother was sent to funeral home cremation. Then there are several tables of banquets, which is the transformation from "white things" to "red things".
In fact, we only need to pay for these follow-up operations. We don't have the final say in what to do, but the elders in the village have the final say.
Of course, this is the local funeral custom in our hometown. It can't be said that it is good or bad, and it can't be changed just because it was handed down from the previous generation.
In fact, according to the usual customs, because the old man at home died years ago, it is generally best not to visit relatives and friends during the New Year, so as not to become taboo in other people's homes. This may be considered as a more recognized practice.
On our side, whether in the city or in the countryside, if the old man at home dies, we won't go to other people's homes for a month, mainly because of other people's taboos. Doing so is not only a respect for others, but also a kind of self-discipline.
As for other things, it's time to eat and drink. Of course, after all, the old man at home has just died, so I think it is appropriate to reduce some unnecessary entertainment activities. This is also a respect for the late old man!
According to the natural law of birth, illness and death, according to the arrangement of the elderly, the living still have to live well, and the sadness is certain. It must be different from the atmosphere of Chinese New Year in previous years. These are really two feelings, because I feel the same way. 17 12 My father was hospitalized and was diagnosed with advanced cancer. /kloc-in February of 0/8, celebrate the Spring Festival. How does our family spend the Spring Festival? The mood can't be described in words. My father is strong and strong, and he also packed jiaozi with celery, cabbage, sauerkraut and meat. We normally set off fireworks and firecrackers at zero o'clock every year, and then pay New Year greetings to two old people in turn, and the old people give lucky money to the younger generation. My brother and grandson kowtowed to pay New Year's greetings, and then they ate a one-year-old jiaozi and had a sumptuous New Year's Eve dinner, and * * * enjoyed a family reunion. However, before 9 o'clock in 18, we held these normal annual ceremonies in advance. Our reason is that we fully tell our father that you are ill and need to recuperate. You can't stay up too late, and your illness will get worse. At that time, we were afraid to tell our father the real illness, saying that he was 79 years old, in May. Our whole family, old and young, know that this is the last reunion year of the Ke family, and all ages can't stop crying and will never forget it.
It's simple. Let the deceased be buried immediately, and then the family will spend the Spring Festival quietly ... On the afternoon of the 28th of the twelfth lunar month last year, my grandmother passed away on 20 18. We buried the dead on the morning of the 29th of the twelfth lunar month, and celebrated the Spring Festival [tears] [tears] without setting off firecrackers [tears] in the afternoon.
A man in mourning came to my house two days ago, and then I bought paper money to see the old man for the last time. There is no lineal relatives in this man and my family. He is my uncle's brother, which is my mother's cousin. When I went to see it, I found that many people had come, and their names could be seen on the gift list.
But before the old man's daughter came back, a grandson arrived in time, and the son-in-law was in charge of Dai Xiao. Their family belongs to the kind of son-in-law, and there is no son. Actually, it's good to look at it this way. Without a son, they can still support the elderly and die without worrying about anything at all.
In fact, birth, illness and death are the normal state of life. We don't need to hold too much sadness. Many old people have been tortured before they die, and death can make them better free. Take an old man in our village as an example. His lungs are rotten, and there is nothing wrong with other aspects. His son didn't treat him. As a result, I was left at home to die, and no one brought tea and water. The old man suddenly suffered for two months. He used to be a big fat man, but when he left, he was as thin as a man, which made people feel distressed. The old man loves to talk. When he is ill, many people go to see him. He always said that he had never been ill in his life. How did he fall ill after a minor illness?
We don't discuss fate, mainly because the old man at home fell ill and died. As juniors, we should also put it down. Maybe it's hard for everyone to let go in the first half of the month, just like when my grandfather died, I always think of his little things. However, it's time for New Year's Eve. Remember to send wine and vegetables to the elderly on New Year's Eve. Of course, this may be a local custom.
Generally speaking, people nowadays can be open-minded. If the old man is old, there is no need to be sad. After all, they are better than most people. Of course, we should try to keep a low profile during the Chinese New Year. We must stop setting off firecrackers and posting Spring Festival couplets, otherwise it won't be too festive. what do you think?