Wen | Mummy Fulin

There is such a clip in the video of the public service advertisement Chopsticks:

During the Chinese New Year, when the whole family gets together for dinner, the child will grab the chopsticks and grab the food. Dad quickly stops the child, so that the elders can say their blessings first and move the chopsticks first.

this is a courtesy.

In many families, the children are the center of the family, and the elderly are also very fond of their grandchildren. More often, the elders wait for the children to serve.

As a result, many children don't understand this etiquette at the dining table. Some children even "go their own way" at the dining table. While the whole family is eating around, the children occupy their favorite dishes and are not allowed to move a chopstick.

We will say that the child is "uneducated".

In China, table culture is very important: family reunion, friends getting along, business contacts, celebrations and other major events are inseparable from the interaction at the table.

The dining table is a place where people get to know each other and get to know each other deeply. From eating behavior and attitude, we can see a person's instinct. The performance on the dining table is also considered as an important place to test people's self-cultivation.

children's behavior at the dinner table will also be enlarged by others: knowing table manners will be praised as "polite" and "educated", while doing excessive things at the dinner table will make everyone frown silently and make people dislike.

For example, in the above, children and other elders move chopsticks first, and then move chopsticks by themselves, which shows respect for elders; If children occupy a favorite dish and pick it everywhere, it will be considered selfish and self-centered.

Therefore, it is also important for parents to teach their children table manners.

1. Parents set an example for their children

At the beginning, children may not understand table manners, but they know how to imitate them.

When children eat, they will imitate their parents' actions:

If parents like to smack when eating, then children also like to smack when eating;

If parents like to watch mobile phones while eating, children will also want to do other things while eating.

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Parents are children's first teachers, and so are table manners: under the influence of getting along with each other day after day, children's table habits will tend to be more and more parents.

2. Set rules for children

Professor Li Meijin once said that rules should be set for children before they are 6 years old. And table manners are one of the rules.

When children have bad dining table habits, such as wasting food, disrespecting their elders, eating half-heartedly, etc., parents should make their children realize that this is wrong.

Parents can tell their children what is right and what is wrong by telling stories.

You can also use children's favorite cartoon images and heroic images to make them want to be better people in their own minds.

1. Respect elders at the dinner table

At home, elders habitually spoil their children, but parents should know how to make their children respect elders.

For example, in the above-mentioned public service advertisement, the elder didn't move chopsticks, and when the child wanted to move chopsticks, the father stopped the child's behavior, letting the child know that it was impolite and disrespectful to the elder.

2. Don't turn the food around

Some children like to pick their favorite dishes in a dish, but everyone is eating, which will make many people feel uncomfortable.

When eating, if you like that, just clip it directly, instead of rummaging through the dishes for what you like. On the one hand, it is children's respect for others, on the other hand, it is also children's self-restraint.

3. Don't yell at the dinner table

I often see children at the dinner table who yell at their parents when their behavior doesn't suit their own wishes, in an attempt to make their parents or others compromise in this way. Even when someone disciplined him, he directly lifted the table.

This kind of behavior is terrible, which will intuitively show the absence of family education.

4. Don't bite and lick chopsticks

Some people have some small habits when eating, that is, bite and lick chopsticks before picking up food.

When a child is young, others may be able to accept it reluctantly, but after entering the society in the future, this kind of behavior of the child will make him disliked by the people around him, and it will be more difficult to be accepted by others, which will have a great impact on interpersonal communication.

5. Don't sneeze at the table

It is common sense not to sneeze at the table: when people sneeze, bacteria will be ejected. If children don't understand, parents should teach them.

table manners are not only these, but they are the most basic.

Many times, there are two fundamental reasons for children's bad behavior at the dinner table: First, children are too "self-centered" to think of others; Second, parents have never taught them, resulting in children having no basic common sense.

Therefore, through children's habits at the dinner table, we can not only see a child's character and upbringing, but also see what the family behind him is like.

When visiting relatives during the Spring Festival, parents should pay more attention to educating their children, which is the best time to show that children are polite ~