There is a concept in psychology called the law of attraction. When you feel pain, you will constantly attract those bad things to you, so you will continue to feel pain and enlarge it, which will only make you hate everything in life more and more.

Life is the projection of your mind. When you hate someone in your life, for example, you especially don't like a sharp-tongued, aggressive and controlling colleague in the company, you are probably a sharp-tongued and controlling person yourself. It is such a potential factor in you that makes you particularly sensitive to this. Just like people who have no good factors, they will not feel the existence of goodness.

If you feel that you are always encountering certain things, you are actually attracted by your own heart. Our own mode of thinking will attract corresponding things. For example, if you feel that you always meet people who are difficult to get along with, or people who always want to get something for nothing, or those who take responsibility are always yourself, it is probably because you are not good at communication and dare not say no or get angry.

Every day is painful, in fact, you are sick in your heart. If you want to jump out of this vicious circle, you must first stop yourself and remove the word "pain" from your head. You have the right to be happy. The external environment is not the cause of pain. Your view of the outside world is the root of pain.

At the same time, find a quiet night, write down why you feel pain, what it is, who caused you to feel this way, write down all you want to scold and shout, let yourself vent, and then reflect on yourself and your inner structure because of what factors attract these things. Only by recognizing the source can we eliminate the pain.

Finally, insist on writing down three little things you are grateful for today before going to bed every day, so that you can sleep beautifully.

Know yourself and understand others with psychology. Wechat official account: pea girl