How do you know if you are a Switch? Just because you are neither a dominator nor a follower, it may be too simple to think that you are a Switch. After all, millions of vanilla people are neither dom nor sub, but that doesn't mean they are switch. I believe that there are some definite features and characteristics that most switch have. Let's look at them.
The first feature must be participation in the lifestyle of D/s or BDSM.
If you don't integrate into this lifestyle to some extent and be labeled as switch, then the word will be meaningless. Just because a person doesn't think he is a dominator dom or a submissive sub doesn't necessarily mean he isn't. Putting these people into the category of Switch by default will not help them, but will hinder their journey of self-discovery.
The second common feature of most switch is that they enjoy playing a dominant/submissive role depending on their environment, mood or partner.
Please pay attention to my careful use of the word enjoy. It is not enough to be able to play these two roles. After all, virtually everyone has the ability to show dominance and obedience. I personally know several die-hard followers who can play a leading role well, although they are afraid of doing so, and it really makes them feel sick. What we should ask is: Are they looking for such opportunities? Do they enjoy such an opportunity? Can they get satisfaction from it? Is this where they look for happiness? If so, they may be switch.
The third feature is related to the first feature, and it tends to be a question of degree rather than a yes or no proposition.
The real switch tends to those who have accumulated a lot of experience both inside and outside the lifestyle, and they have more than a few partners.
Why do we expect a real Switch to be at the end of the BDSM lifestyle? The most obvious reason is that most switch adjust their dominant orientation according to different situations, environments and partners. It can be seen that if a person's experience and the number of partners are extremely limited, then he may not have many opportunities to fully explore and explore the depth of his transformation. He hasn't met anyone who can help him show his inner self. Perhaps the key experience or event that determines this person is still in his future. It is a person who has only experienced several breakups and has less experience. More accurately, it should be described as a temporary Switch. In other words, he or she may be a Switch, or it may change. .