Do you have such confusion? You have a desire to learn and grow, and you want to use 24 hours a day as 48 hours.
the first stage is to know what you don't want.
this stage is usually the period from high school to entering the society. this time is the period when we leave home and go out to study alone. at this time, we are particularly aware of what we don't want.
I don't want a nine-to-five job, a life arranged by my parents, being a good baby, and becoming like those people I hate.
The second stage, I don't know what I want
This stage is the stage when we step into society and gradually work and live steadily. This time is a time when we think about life and strive for the future. At this time, we often fall into the confusion of not knowing what we want.
there are two types of this stage.
the first type is the drift type.
The characteristic of this stage is confusion. The cruelty of real life will make people want to pursue stability. People gradually drift with the flow for life, and after a long time, they will become what they hated when they were young.
Look at the people around you. How many people's increasingly bloated faces and bigger bellies have become middle-aged greasy thermos men. These are all lost in not knowing what you want.
the second type is continuous exploration.
This kind of people are confused, so they keep exploring. By trying all kinds of things, they keep themselves in a state of continuous learning and cover up this confusion with busyness.
In the third stage, know what you want
People of this type are very clear about what they want, and they are single-minded. They will devote all their time and energy to it, accumulate constantly, and finally achieve their goals.
Some people are going through the first stage, some people are trapped in the second stage, and some people are growing and evolving in the third stage.
are you satisfied with your job? Are you satisfied with your present life? Do you want to change to a new job? Do you want to try a new life?
when you have this idea, you may encounter two problems.
first question, which bowl of rice is suitable for me?
that's the second stage of our life. We don't know what we want. At this stage, we are extremely eager to grow up. We try all possible foods as if we were hungry. We want everything for fear of missing something.
but the reality is that our time and energy are limited.
we study hard, for what?
why do we sign up for various courses, buy books that we can't finish reading, and try to devote ourselves to all activities that can grow?
it's all about growth and getting better. This is absolutely right.
Besides, you're not the only one who thinks like this. You're not alone.
If you have only eaten a few restaurants downstairs, you are deceiving yourself by telling me that you want to be an inspirational gourmet.
But if you eat all the eight major cuisines, Chinese and western food can be as rare as a few treasures. You tell me that you want to be an inspirational gourmet, and I believe you can do it.
So, in fact, we are all going through a stage, that is, the stage of tasting delicious food all over. We are ignorant and lack of skills. The people we meet have experienced too little, in short, they have too little knowledge.
We join various communities, sign up for various courses, buy books, participate in Xiao Quexing, English corner and so on. These are all the processes of tasting delicious food.
if in this process, you find that you only love Sichuan food, then you should concentrate on Sichuan food. if you find that you love western food more, focus on western food.
Before finding out what we really like to eat, we need to keep exploring and trying. This stage itself is a fascinating one. You need to invest a lot of time and energy. This stage requires us to try hard.
The so-called worry about insufficient time is just a "sweet excuse". Have you really tried your best? Have you really paid as much as anyone else's efforts?
explore hard, explore hard, taste all the delicious food and find what you want.
second question, I want to eat this bowl of rice, but I don't know if I can eat this bowl of rice.
For example, when writing is realized, there is a fish in the clear water. You have to write at least 5, words before you know whether you are suitable for this road.
This sentence can be explained by Charlie Munger's sentence: The best way to have something is to make yourself worthy of it.
5, words is a kind of accumulation and the cultivation of ability. Without this ability, you certainly don't deserve the ability to realize writing.
If you want to eat something, first tell yourself how I can eat this bowl of rice well. I don't want to taste it, not once a week, and second, I want to eat it stably for a long time.
3. Adults should talk about money
Frank once said something that greatly stimulated me, "We are adults, so it's time to talk about money."
We always hide it with our feelings. I just love to write, so just write normally. I just like it. I enjoy it. I don't want to talk about money. Behind all this is actually trying to say that I am lazy, I can't do it, and I don't have the ability.
If you understand the truth, you have to take action. If you are not skilled, you will start to struggle. Don't be afraid, struggle hard until you are proficient. If you are proficient, you will continue to act. If you continue to act, you will become a better yourself.
be a better self, and then what?
when we struggle painfully from the three stages of life, find the bowl of rice we want to eat, and constantly let ourselves have the ability to eat this bowl of rice, this is a question we need to think about, that is, "what is your personal business model?"
The following three personal business models, we must think very seriously, keep thinking and keep trying.
the first personal business model: one copy is sold once a time.
the second personal business model: selling many times at the same time.
the third personal business model: buy other people's time and then sell it.
Think about the "future growth curve" mentioned by Teacher Xiao Lai. Regarding learning and growth, we should all think about our own personal business model, find our own personal business model on the road of growth and evolution, find our own growth curve, and cross the cost line. That is real growth, and it is compound interest growth.
growth that does not aim at realizing cash is all about self-entertainment.
the first step, about time, remember the four laws of friends of time.
the second step is to think clearly about what you want, and then do subtraction, concentrate on improvement. If you don't know what you want, try hard until you find what you want.
the third step is to tell yourself repeatedly that everything has a methodology, and you can only do it if you think about it.
step four, always keep a goal in mind. I will not sell my time one day.
the fifth step is to constantly acquire skills and accumulate them. Meet milestones, cross the cost line and realize compound interest growth.
step six, always tell yourself whether your own things are valuable to others, and your products must meet the needs of consumers. Only in this way can it be valuable.
step seven, pay attention to and only pay attention to your continuous growth. It is most cost-effective to invest time in yourself.
Learning, growth and progress should be upgraded to evolution.
Think about you after evolution. It's so exciting and challenging. Aren't you excited? I'll go for it. Feel free.