Last year's letter just talked about adolescence, which is coming in such a turbulent way. With the epidemic, I am even more emboldened and hit my middle-aged parents hard on the waist.
Your forehead is covered with acne, and your grin reveals your silver braces.
You are no longer well-behaved and quiet, and you especially can't stand nagging, but you can reply a hundred times to your mother's words, which are full of the strange logic of adolescence and the "fallacies" that cannot be refuted.
Looking back on my father's youth, he was still full of inexplicable anger, but most of the time he didn't dare to express it.
I heard that as a parent, the adolescence years of your children, whether long or short, are a kind of suffering. It is a time for debt collection from enemies in previous lives.
But fortunately, the storms in life are so intense that they make your parents doubt that they are short-lived. After the rain, the sky clears up, and you will come back to hug your mother and make peace. Listen to more words of encouragement.
It is said that the frontal cortex of adolescent children, which is responsible for rational control of emotions, is not fully developed, so they are particularly rebellious, aggressive, and adventurous during adolescence.
Humans are essentially animals controlled by genes and hormones, but never forget that the fundamental attribute of being human is that we can use reason to fight against animality.
The past year has been extremely unusual, and we can say that we are witnessing history.
The epidemic has impacted our work, study and life like never before, and countless human tragedies are taking place.
In the past year, we sent away your beloved grandma.
We watched her haggard day by day. After being tortured by cancer for more than 2 years, she left us peacefully on a spring afternoon.
As soon as your mother and I received the call, we immediately rushed back with you and your brother.
You kept crying in the car, and you kept saying, Dad, you said that grandma is so good, God will definitely care for her, and she will definitely not die, right?
I know you just don't want to accept this reality.
Daughter, there is only one first meeting and one separation in life. No matter how much we love someone, this day will always come.
This year's epidemic has allowed us to see too many separations and separations, too many joys and sorrows. Cherish the people in front of you, cherish every ordinary day together, and feel every beautiful moment in life with your heart, because the more beautiful the time, the shorter it is.
, the more delicate things are, the more fragile they are. Youth is short and time flies by.
You are in junior high school this year, and your academic pressure is increasing.
When you encounter difficulties and cannot solve the problem, when there are still a lot of homework waiting to be completed late at night, you will lose control of your emotions and want to give up.
You don’t know why you have to answer questions day after day. You always long for more time to play and more time to interact with your classmates.
Daughter, let me tell you why.
Exam-oriented education is the most fair rule of the game that our society can currently provide.
Just like leveling up and fighting monsters in a real game, society passes through layers of levels to screen out those who are determined, capable and willing to make unremitting efforts.
We can say that this system has various drawbacks, and we can say that answering questions day after day is a waste of life, but we must also respect the rules of the game and pass these levels and withstand these tests in order to gain more opportunities.
Stand at a higher starting point and create greater possibilities for your future.
Everything is the price we have to pay for our dreams.
What kind of future you want, you have to pay the price.
If you want to have straight teeth, the pain of braces is the price.
If you want to be in good shape and healthy, resisting the temptation of delicious food and sweaty exercise is the price.
If you want to realize your dream, giving up playing and working hard to pass the test-oriented education is also a price.
We need a vision in life, that is, what kind of person we want to be.
You are willing to pay an extraordinary price for this vision.
But the hardest thing is not to pay the price, the hardest thing is to find this vision, and thus find your life mission.
Maybe the ideals of youth are always a little frivolous and whimsical, but no matter what, they were not frivolous when they were young, so how much color can life have?
You have to keep looking for your life vision. There is no need to rush. You are only 13 years old and you still have plenty of time.
You want to ask me how to confirm that you have found your life vision?
I would say, if you're not sure, you haven't found it.
If you find it, you'll know it.
At that moment, all the efforts, all the costs, suddenly made sense.