Whether or not to use the action of "beating" to discipline children is really a question that every parent will think about on the road of raising children, but it is very contradictory in actual implementation.

Sometimes children will do dangerous actions. If they don't fight, it seems that something dangerous will happen now. But after the fight, they are worried that they will have to fight in the future to be obedient.

There are two kinds of "beating", one is the beating of discipline, and the other is the beating of venting anger and emotion, which is very different.

Disciplining children is considered a rational behavior, but if emotions get out of control, it will be regarded as violence, not proper discipline.

Let's look at the examples and experiences of parents in their own homes:

1. Some physical pain is better than losing him forever, right?

In spring, my mother said:

Too many people confuse spanking with corporal punishment, right? And not all children need to fight to be obedient.

My son is two and a half years old. We have a pause chair at home, and we have to sit there when we are disobedient. Will he still test my patience? Of course I will, but he also knows that if he makes another mistake, I will really spank him.

Most of the time, because he ran into the road, and I couldn't let him know that it was dangerous in other ways, so I would rather let him feel some physical pain from me, but let him know that I still love him, and I don't want to risk losing him forever.

2. Other punishments made her dislike it even more.

Little finger mommy said:

When my daughter was two years old, she would throw things or kick me in the head when I let her sleep. I told her I would count to three, and if she didn't stop, I would hit her. She said it would be useful, she would stop, and she didn't need to talk about it when she grew up.

Other punishments made her dislike it even more, for example, not watching TV, staying alone in the room, not eating candy and so on.

3. Move out and beat as punishment, but the child is unwilling to obey. ...

Mommy malt said:

My son is ten years old now. I used to hit him a lot, but that was because I lost my self-control and didn't change his behavior.

I believe that in grandpa's generation, there may still be people who often say that "children nowadays have no rules" or "they need a good lesson", but I don't remember being beaten often. However, every time my other half says to the child, "Go clean your room, or you will be beaten", my son replies that he would rather take off his pants and let his father beat him up than clean the room! !

4. How to explain to children why adults have the right to hit children ...? Should adults be beaten when they do something wrong?

Haiyang Mommy said:

I don't even spank my son, but I find spanking is one of the most popular parenting methods in France. My husband is French, and it takes time and effort to convince him that I won't discipline our children by telephone. Many French parents say they don't want to hit their children either, but there is no other way.

My experience is that if they are disobedient, they are usually invited to their own rooms to be alone. I will calm myself down and keep my emotions from getting out of control. At the same time, I calmly told them what to do, so that they wouldn't disrespect me and their father.

It is difficult for me to explain to children why adults have the right to hit children. When I was young, my parents gave me the feeling of disgust when they hit me. I don't want my children to feel the same way. At the same time, punishing them by beating them didn't make me more rational or a better person, so why use this way? Or is it just because we are tired of arguing and discussing with our mouths ...

Beating is one of all forms of punishment.

The reasons, occasions and ways of doing this are determined according to the right or wrong of each parent's consent. However, before using this method, perhaps parents can confirm that there is really no other punishment? Also, each child fits in a different way. If you have a good-looking child, isn't it best not to punish it privately in front of others? How important is it to consider the dignity of children in front of others? Finally, after the punishment, do they really understand what they did wrong? This is the real purpose of punishment and discipline, right?