On Friday night, I took out my skateboard and skated freely in the cool evening wind. With wide-leg pants with irregular abstract artistic patterns floating in the wind, I stretched out my hands to feel the touch of the wind, and then I fell down ~
"People are floating in the rivers and lakes, how can they not be stabbed?" I returned to the martial arts world this autumn.
"Flying snow shoots white deer in the sky, and the laughing god leans on Biyuan." Who didn't see these when they were young? In the martial arts world built by Jin Yong's father, there are many women, such as beauties, witches and leftover women ... Count them, and there are very few real chivalrous women. I think Guo Xiang is one.
Speaking of Guo Xiang, you can't seem to get around Yang Guo. They all say, "When I see Yang Guo, I will miss it all my life". Those sad essays that express Guo Xiang with beautiful and elegant words are exactly the way of "decadence+ambiguity+affectation+narcissism" of Anne Baby. This kind of tone is good for Gong Sunlue, Cheng Ying, Cheng Lingsu and others. Why do you have to write about Guo Xiang?
Guo Xiang's appearance in The Legend of the Condor Heroes is very similar to that of the old gentleman Jin Yong. His pen became clean and free after he got tired of Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl.
Guo Xiang is a man with deep feelings. As a naturally sensitive and delicate person, if you are not emotional, you will feel deeply, cry and regret.
But her life has not been destroyed and her quality has not been sacrificed. Out of Shaoshi Mountain, I began to visit famous mountains in Sichuan, see the local customs and make friends with people from all walks of life.
First of all, expand your thinking and sharpen your life. Reading thousands of books is better than taking Wan Li Road; Secondly, dispel the regret in my heart-after all, the flower of first love only blooms once.
How many things will Guo Xiang add to his heart in this decade? The ends of the earth, the bright starry sky, the towering old trees that have grown for hundreds of years, and the Ma Pingchuan that has been washed for thousands of years ...
The world of flowers, lively rivers and lakes, and quiet forests, when BLACKPINK came, left no trace when he left ... Isn't this more wonderful than a lifetime of struggle and bitter love?
Maybe there will always be a corner of Yang Guo in Guo Xiang's heart, but Guo Xiang will always live her own life-she has never been married, fully realized it, became a nun, and founded a famous Emei Sect ... When her life reaches that state, everything is her own choice, and everything has nothing to do with Yang Guo.
A girl L complained about her leader when consulting: I have worked in the company for three years. As an administrative assistant, I have endless things to do every day. My friend thinks that this company is run by my family. ...
I have a strong self-esteem since I was a child. I always work 100% hard, but even if everyone says I did a good job, the leader just nodded and said I know, never praised me, and I doubted my life. ...
After understanding, I learned that her leadership is like this for everyone, so it's good not to call names, let alone praise people, which is nothing.
L know that this is the case, I am not convinced and feel very wronged. Other colleagues have no such idea. They think that l has not been scolded by the leaders, and it is already burning with high fragrance. It's hard for them to think so much.
This question reminds me of a legend about Guo Xiang: According to the later generations in Heaven Through the Ages, before becoming a monk, Guo Xiang traveled all over Qian Shan looking for Yang Guo and the little dragon girl couple for 20 years ... What nonsense!
A Guo Xiang can't find them, just because of the tonality of the little dragon girl. Why does she follow Yang Guo around to avoid this little girl?
Second, there is no need for Guo Xiang to witness it, right? Gossip? Get to know it? Go to the bar? What exactly do you want? This brainless thing, is it the ice snow clever Guo Xiang?
On the one hand, based on Yang Guo's kind past experience, Guo Xiang has low expectations of him.
On the other hand, Guo Xiang's family background is profound, and his martial arts are complex. During his days in the Jianghu, he also learned a lot from others. Besides, she is talented and savvy, and she is good at her own skills. She also established a broad and harmonious mass base in Jianghu and founded Emei School.
Therefore, Guo Xiang's happiness in life is positively related to his ability and negatively related to his expectation.
Similarly, although L is capable, she expects too much from the leader. Therefore, it seems that her colleagues who are not as capable as her are happier than her, because they don't expect to be praised by the leaders, and they are more adaptable and accept the reality.
Ma De, the author of Let Yourself Be Idle, said: "I gradually understand why I am unhappy, because I always expect a result. If these preset expectations come true, I will be relieved. If not, I will feel sorry for myself. "
For the same reason, those happy people around us are nothing more than two types:
A person has high ability and low expectation. They are very capable and independent in the company, but they don't expect to be affirmed and praised by the leaders, which doesn't matter to them, so their happiness value is very high.
The other party's ability is average, but the expectation is low. They don't expect to have emotional intersection with leaders at all. As long as they don't touch my psychological bottom line, naturally their happiness value is also high.
When I understood this, he also understood what "no desire is just". After adjusting unreasonable beliefs, L decided to put aside persistent expectations and focus on improving personal strength and interpersonal skills.
What a real chivalrous woman does is to strive to improve her ability. The stronger your ability, the more elements you control, and the more paths you can take. The second is to lower expectations of others. The lower the expectations, the easier the relationship.
Life will be full of surprises when you lower your expectations and improve yourself.
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