No matter what channel we met, plus WeChat, at least they expressed their willingness to get to know both parties again, but many people don’t know what to say? Or you can’t take the conversation and just chat awkwardly. What are you doing every day? Have you got a meal yet? What to eat? It’s weird that there is a follow-up... I wasn’t very good at chatting before, I was a chat terminator. But after some exploration, I found that the key to deepening the chat is to be curious about the other person.

In fact, we didn’t know each other well at the beginning, so there were still many topics we could talk about, such as the following 8 aspects:

1. Talk about the same things

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Talk about your similar preferences, or what he likes, and you happen to know a little about, to build compatibility. You can find clues from avatars, sharing in Moments, shared playlists, activities, check-ins, etc., which can all be used as entry points.

2. Talk about food

If you are in the same place, share a restaurant that you think is pretty good and you often check in. People from different hometowns can share their favorite cuisines and local dietary differences, which can also pave the way for subsequent dinner dates. Food is the most important thing for the people, you can’t go wrong with this.

3. Talk about hobbies and interests

You can talk about music, sports, games, fitness, good habits, etc. If you can chime in on his hobbies, then you can discuss it. If it is your blind spot, then use the attitude of asking for advice. For example, I happened to be doing a strategy guide recently, but I don’t know where to start, what equipment to buy, etc. The attitude of asking for advice will enhance the other party's self-confidence and appropriately express appreciation and worship?!

4. Share things you find interesting.

This sharing is not just about sending the other person what you are eating and what you are doing, but also making the other person find you interesting, such as your style. Strange clouds, funny emoticons, funny jokes, etc. The other party's response attitude can also tell whether you are on the same channel.

5. Talk about movies, TV series, books, and variety shows

It is best to be a work that you are familiar with and well-known, and can cause a stir. Some girls will share it with you. In idol dramas, boys will be confused and have no idea!

6. Talk about some hot events

Everyone’s well-known celebrity hot topics or social hot topics are fine. If there is controversy, there will be topics.

When the other person states something to you, such as a current hot topic or something that happened around him/her, it means that this matter gave him/her more feelings.

If you say "What do you think about this matter" at this time, it means that not only do you think the other person has wisdom to share, but you are also very curious about what he shares.

This sentence is often a key sentence that opens the other person's conversation box and even their heart.

7. Talk about travel

As long as you are not a deadbeat, you should always go out to play. You can talk about the cities you have been to, humanities and food, including during travel. Anything fun or adventurous is fine.

Don’t expose your low value in the early stage. When you first get to know someone, show more of your strengths and less of your shortcomings. Don't think that revealing your shortcomings to the other person is sincere and that it can bring you closer. The premise for the other party to tolerate our shortcomings is to see our advantages.

Practical tips for chatting:

1. Chat on a topic for a long time, rather than asking and answering questions

Chat is based on one principle: I would rather not chat at all. Don't chat awkwardly, just talk for as long as possible.

Don’t always reply to the other party with summary words, learn to break down the key words to extend the topic:

Two steps:

1. Break down the key words Words

2. Grab a keyword and extend it

If you really have nothing to say about this topic, quickly switch topics. Be sure to switch quickly. The shorter the time interval, the better. .

As the other party said: I am so tired from work today.

Your answer: Thank you for your hard work, pay attention to rest.

It’s really hard to continue the conversation. The key words in the other person’s sentence are “work” and “tired”. You can focus on these two points, such as:

Is the task completed?

I know there is a good way to relieve work stress...

2. Use more exclamation points

Send "Good night!" instead of "Good night" .

Pronounce "What a coincidence!" instead of "What a coincidence."

3. Send more pictures/emoticons

Share the daily formula: pictures/emoticons + your feelings

The benefits of sending pictures/emoticons are:

1. Good-looking, cute and funny pictures/emoticons can easily arouse the other party’s desire to chat.

2. Pictures or emoticons can show more details than text, making it easier for the other party to answer the call.

3. It can reflect your interesting soul.

Now when I meet new friends and chat with them on WeChat, I try to chat with them in a pleasant tone, try to create a relatively relaxed atmosphere, and then find some Chat with the other person on a topic, such as sharing the delicious/terrible food you ate today, the funny movie clips you saw, etc. If you really don’t have time or don’t want to chat anymore, just say you have something to do and end the topic~

In fact, when chatting, you should relax your mind. Don't be too nervous and entangled in what others say. Use "you xx" sentences instead of "I xx" sentences. Sentences starting with "I..." focus on your own perceptions and opinions, what you know and have done. Once the gushing "I..." starts, the other person will lose interest in continuing the conversation.

If you then ask a question that starts with "you", the situation will be very different. The other person can feel your sincerity and that you really want to understand the other person. There are many routines and methods for interacting with people, but the biggest routine is sincerity. When you are curious about the other person, are willing to listen to the other person's expressions, understand the other person's opinions, and focus the conversation on the other person, you are conveying sincerity and showing concern.