To own is to be owned.

This is a sentence in Fu Peirong's book, which I deeply believe in.

I have a friend who has just started to learn how to drive, so he goes to check on the car every week. He said: A car is equivalent to a man’s second wife.

He finally married his second wife. After a month of honeymoon with his new love, he was obviously tired of it and no longer keen on going out for a ride every now and then. Fighting for parking spaces every day made him upset. He thought he would be able to go to work later after buying a car, but it turned out that in order to avoid peak hours, he had to leave half an hour earlier every day.

After buying a car, he had another worry. He said: I possess its entity, and it possesses my time.

I have a colleague who is a very prosperous girl.

Learn to make pastries, make various types of coffee, practice yoga, raise more meat, and read. I love food and eat without fear. I once said: "Except for the table, there is nothing with four legs that I won't eat."

Later she stopped eating anything. Ask her why the sun rises from the west? She smiled shyly and said her boyfriend didn't like it.

Such relationships often do not end well.

When we broke up, everyone invited her to dinner. She cried and stuffed her mouth with roast goose and beef brisket... She said: If you follow him, you will have no meat!

For a long time, I lived in a rented house.

Excluding the rent and monthly fixed expenses, I still have a good surplus to do the things I like, such as traveling, eating rare food, and enrolling in a training class with a famous teacher.

Later I got a house. I was stabilized by the house, and I also had a new role: house slave.

I am inexplicably reminded of what Jostan Judd said in "The Secret of Solitaire": When the inner box opens the outer box, the outer box opens the inner box.

The more you have, the less free you are.

Freud, the ancestor of savage analysis, believed that people have a kind of psychological energy called "libido". In the process of growing up, we encounter such and such scenes, which cause us to invest our libido in different objects. These objects on which psychological energy is invested will affect our life. Especially those objects that have condensed too much energy, such as mothers.

Let us understand this simply: If you invest a lot of psychological energy in an object, the object will control you in turn.

So, why do you always feel unwilling to give up when breaking up and want to get it back, or the breakup is ugly? You said: I have paid so much and this should not be the result.

At this time, it has nothing to do with love. The energy you have given condenses on this person, and it looks golden and makes you reluctant to let go.

It is extremely difficult to let go.

An eminent monk was about to pass away. Someone came to pick him up. He asked: Are you going to the Land of Ultimate Bliss? The visitor said: No, I am going to hell. The eminent monk was shocked and asked: I will go to hell after practicing all my life. The visitor pointed to the monk's hand and said: Because of it. The eminent monk took a look and saw that he was still holding the rosary beads that had been used for decades in his hand.

Once you get it, it’s hard to give it up.

Psychologists conducted experiments and found that for the same thing, as long as the statement is changed to "You may lose...", the subjects will care more. If you call a rich man, tell him: You have a chance to earn 10,000 yuan. Nine times out of ten, he will call you crazy and die. If it says: You may lose an opportunity to make 10,000 yuan. Nine times out of ten he will listen.

The more we have, it means that we invest more and more energy, and it also means that we are afraid of losing more and more things.

In Japan, Matsushita Eiko proposed the concept of "cutting off unnecessary things, getting rid of unnecessary waste, and getting rid of the obsession with objects."

To reduce the obsession with material things is to reduce the investment of psychological energy. The incorporation of energy will greatly nourish oneself and enrich the heart.

In the West, this is called "minimalism".

Regarding minimalism, a netizen said it very well: We exchange our lives and time for meaningless industrial copies, and these copies have all become a burden because we have to use more. More time to collect, use, and care for these replicas. When we complain about being buried by the trivial matters of life, perhaps it is precisely because we are buried by our own belongings. This is the alienation of things from people.

Minimalism allows us to put our lives and time on the things that are most important to us. "One of the world's largest real estate companies," said Gary Keller, chairman of Keller Williams Real Estate: "The most important thing is only one thing.

At a certain point in time, everyone's energy is limited Yes, betting too much will inevitably cause the dispersion of energy. When the sun's rays are continuously concentrated to one point, it can burn everything.

The same goes for human energy. Concentrating on one thing can create miracles.

Reducing desires is the only way to make your heart rich.

You may say, how can a person obtain wealth if he does not even have the desire to achieve success and wealth? It is said that the law of attraction tells you that you must "visualize" wealth vigorously in order to attract wealth from the universe.

That's so wrong. Reducing desire does not mean reducing enthusiasm.

Desire means that you hope to get something, and it also means that you believe that you do not have such a thing now. In other words, you are in a state of scarcity.

"The Secret" mentions a lot of things about the law of attraction, which is extremely easy to misunderstand. It seems that as long as you intensify your desire for something, you can attract it.

Wrong, a lack of heart can only attract lack. Even if you get abundance by chance, a lack of mentality will make you lose it eventually.

I have a friend who is a woman with a negative sense of security and has found a boyfriend who loves her very much. The lack of a sense of security made her constantly suspect that her boyfriend might cheat and leave, so she kept calling, following, and investigating. Finally, her boyfriend couldn't bear it anymore and left angrily.

An abundant heart is not filled with desire, but with passion.

When you have a rich heart, you will live seriously and do the things you like, without any utilitarian goal, just because you like it. You never feel that you are lacking anything, just doing this thing makes you very satisfied. The so-called utility is just a by-product of doing this. This is the true law of attraction.

You put your efforts into the journey and thus gained the best scenery.

Therefore Laozi said: If you don’t fight, no one in the world can fight with you.