First popular science: Comfort zone is a psychological concept, which refers to an environment and habitual behavior in which a person feels absolutely comfortable and safe.

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The first time I came into contact with the concept of comfort zone was when I was volunteering about five years ago. The two-day Raleigh China Youth Camp was held at a good friend's private estate in Qingyuan, Guangzhou. Sister Jun invited me to participate. It was the first time I heard the CEO of Raleigh China mention the concept of out of the comfort zone.

Oh my god, on that dark and windy night with lingering drizzle, the third lady really jumped out of her comfort zone. Although it did not bring about any revolutionary changes, it was a rare experience. A memory that will never be forgotten in a lifetime, it may pop into your mind at a critical moment and make a face, giving yourself a "click" light.

At three o'clock in the morning, after a long day of hard work, the third lady, who was almost dead from exhaustion, was still sleeping when she was disturbed by a loudspeaker. I quickly put on my clothes and went out to gather. I couldn't help but blame Sister Jun for finding me a hard job.

The rain kept falling. I followed a group of sixteen or seventeen-year-old children from elite families in different cities, followed the team leader and several staff members from Lei Li to the wild in the rain, and practiced what I learned during the day. A series of skills for survival in the wild, including stretcher tying and rescue, crawling and crawling in the rain and mud. . . The kids did great, but I felt so awkward inside!

How hypocritical I was at that time! Once, a group of friends came to Sister Jun and her brother-in-law's villa to pick fruits and play and sweat profusely. The third lady had to wear Xian Xianer's lace see-through outfit, and the tree branches gave me a nasty scratch.

A complete change in a person requires an opportunity. The time hadn't come yet, but the seeds of change were planted, even though I didn't realize it at the time.

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The biggest reason why a person clings to comfort is the lack of a sense of crisis. Once the environment is turbulent and the comfort zone collapses, people who are content with the status quo will be the first to become victims.

A true story:

Lisa, a 34-year-old woman, started smoking and drinking at the age of 16, and has been fighting obesity for most of her life. She once borrowed money to survive, got drunk every day, and was divorced by her husband. For a long time, her life was filled with crying, overeating, insomnia, helplessness, depression, anger, and the feeling of being humiliated. At her lowest point, she stood up in the dark looking for a cigarette, and it wasn't until she smelled the smell of burning plastic that she realized she had lit the pen as if it were a Marlboro cigarette.

At a certain moment, she felt that she could no longer live like this. Make up your mind to go see the pyramids. Then she has to do a lot of things to achieve this goal. Of all the changes she had to make, first she had to quit smoking.

Four years later, she had lost 60 pounds, stopped smoking and drinking, ran a marathon, studied for a master's degree, and bought a house. He looks 10 years younger than the profile.

All the bad things are caused by talking but not doing;

All the discomforts have the opportunity to make you grow.

When you make up your mind to change and practice it down-to-earth, the whole world will make way for you!

This is not chicken soup, it is the truth.

03

You are your time.

Wherever you spend your time, you will go;

You spend your time What you do, you become.

Those who are perfunctory in life will certainly be perfunctory in life.

After talking about boiling a frog in warm water for so many years, are you still pretending not to wake up?

The real time killer is not others, but yourself who has no self-control.

Self-discipline is a kind of positive thinking. This kind of positive thinking will certainly bring some inconvenience to individuals. They need to often fight against their own desires, endure the desire for pleasure, and make themselves serious rather than relaxed.

There is a beautiful neighbor who has known the third lady for more than five years because of their children. The beautiful neighbor is also a Northeastern girl. Like the third lady, she is also over 40 years old. Middle-aged women are all trying their best to lose weight, go on a diet, thin their face, and do all kinds of self-abuse. The reason is that their metabolism has slowed down, they have begun to have belly fat, their faces are no longer tight, and their chins are protruding. That’s right, no. One thing is enough. But in her case, eating and getting fat is a false proposition. Why?

It has been more than two and a half years since we lived in the same garden area. Whenever I get up in the morning, I will definitely see her walking around or doing leg exercises. If it is sunny, she will definitely wear a hat. Bingxiuer: After dinner in the evening, if I go out for a walk, I will definitely see her walking quickly and gracefully.

She is a hardcore yoga enthusiast for many years.

Even if you sit at home and watch TV after eating, you will never lie down. Instead, you will ask yourself a yoga pose that is conducive to maintaining your posture. For many years, strict self-discipline has long become a habit.

Writer Wan Qing said: Life is your own, age is given to you by others.

No matter when, as long as you want, you can live the life you want anytime, anywhere.

There is also a friend in the industry, a big shot in a marketing group, who had a serious health problem and began to seek medical advice. He was on the verge of collapse. After receiving advice from an expert, I started to eat vegetarian food and strictly managed my diet and health. The colorful life that used to be like "a rich family's wine and meat smells" has taken a 180-degree turn. The whole person's condition is getting better and better, and he is getting younger and younger as he lives.

I watched a CCTV program in which 7 aunts with an average age of over 54 years old, wearing hip-hop costumes, short shorts, and navel-baring outfits with hot bodies, danced crazily on the stage to rock music. The host was surprised and asked: "Why did you guys think of hip-hop dancing? It doesn't seem to be suitable for your age group?" One aunt's answer was shocking: "It's because of cancer." It turned out that all seven aunts were Is a cancer patient. Because they don’t want to stay in the intensive care unit and spend the rest of their lives undergoing chemotherapy, several aunts who love to dance came together and said: If you are not cured, let’s dance! Live the last part of your life happily! So seven people set up a dance troupe and rehearsed every day. The squares and streets were their stages. They also participated in various competitions. Over the past few years, various trophies filled the entire cabinet. What I didn't expect was that I just wanted to live a happy and exciting life in the last few years, "but then I forgot about cancer." By jumping around, I got rid of the cancer.

No matter what difficulties life brings, no matter what dangers there are outside the comfort zone, the only person who can ultimately rely on is himself.

Strict self-management and a self-disciplined lifestyle are the only way for us to move towards a better life.

American psychologist Martin Gardner said: "As long as you live a happy life, the cancer will recede."

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The third lady has always been a person who has not grown up. A temperamental person. My mind is active in various ways, my thoughts are jumping out of my mind, and I always take a detour when encountering difficulties, always looking for reasons for myself.

Life is very realistic and cruel.

The third lady’s obvious deficiencies brought her more and more troubles and misfortunes. The rhythm of life was once disrupted, and filming almost stopped. After struggling through countless, countless, countless sleepless nights and dark days, the third lady somehow became enlightened. She still hasn't figured it out yet. Anyway, it was that "point" that I finally waited for. arrive!

All these changes started when the third lady started cooking.

At first, the third lady had no choice but to walk into the unfamiliar and unfamiliar kitchen, picked up a kitchen knife, and was helpless with the potatoes, persimmons and Chinese cabbage. After a series of gnashing of teeth, heartache, and last resort, the plot unexpectedly took a delightful turn: the third lady fell in love with the kitchen! I fell in love with making and sharing food every day, fell in love with researching recipes, ingredients and utensils, fell in love with plate arrangement, photography and editing, fell in love with recording every bit of food. . . Step by step, I am running towards becoming a gourmet expert and I can’t stop at all.

Here I would like to introduce to you another psychological concept: flow

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi discovered a way to fully invest one's mental energy in a certain activity. The feeling above is called heart flow. When it occurs, there will be a high degree of excitement and fulfillment at the same time.

What does it look like to live life to the fullest and are you busy doing something right now? When happiness and creativity expert Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi was studying how painters work, he noticed something strange. When a painting is done well, the painter doesn't care about fatigue, hunger or discomfort, they just continue. But when the paintings are finished, they quickly lose interest in them. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls it “flow.” This is the feeling of devoting one's mental energy completely to some activity.

When you are in a flow state:

1. An hour passes in the blink of an eye

2. Everything you do feels important

3. Unconscious

4. Unity of knowledge and action

5. Feeling completely controlled

6. Feeling inherently beneficial

Food and beautiful clothes can save people from depression. The process of a person focusing on aesthetics is the process of accepting oneself and nourishing the body and mind.

The whole process of researching recipes, making delicious food, posing for photos and sharing, the third lady was focused and devoted, and an hour passed in the blink of an eye. The third lady experienced the impact of "flow" and felt what it was like to "live fully". Now the third lady cooks every day and researches new recipes every day. Every time she cooks, she has a flow experience, which makes her live happily every day.

"I love my dream

It warms my heart like a spring stream

My heart shrinks

Like a stone Sinking to the bottom of the water

My heart swells

Like a balloon rising into the blue sky

Let the sun and moonlight interweave

Let the past pass. Integrate with the future

Like lightning fireworks that shatter the night sky

Transform into strange waves of light

---- Gu Cheng"

Heart. Flow brings life and happiness to people.

Create and learn to live fully, infinitely extend the width of life, and experience a richer, more interesting and vivid life course.

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I have a WeChat group with some friends in the circle, and every day someone will share their voice about health and active life, which is full of positive energy. At the beginning of this year, the group leader proposed in the first group meeting that everyone set an annual small goal and made it public.

A group friend set a small goal of "hand-copying Chinese and English classics every day".

At the beginning of the formulation, he was very nervous and hesitated to take action, fearing that he would not be able to persist and it would become a burden.

On such an ordinary but special day, he finally started the first day of copying, and received encouragement and appreciation from many people. Since then, I have continued to meditate and copy for more than ten minutes every day without interruption.

This made him discover: Dare to make a promise to yourself and actually do it is the best practice. From the beginning, it felt like a burden, but later it gradually became a kind of enjoyment, just ten minutes a day Copying quietly is like a special reward given to oneself in the complicated world.

Every moment we live is a gift from God. What reason is there not to enjoy life to the fullest?

Miss San has a good friend from her school days. A few days ago, she posted some small hand-drawn sketch illustrations on WeChat, which amazed all the classmates!

This friend is not a professional at all, and has never studied in particular. He just bought books and taught himself based on his interest. He persisted in painting, and gradually developed a professional level of painting.

This made Miss San realize how meaningful a persistent lifestyle is.

As your hobby deepens, it will ignite different passions for you at different stages. You will live happily every day, and your life will be different because of it.

06

During the Dragon Boat Festival holiday, a group of students from my daughter’s class went to Liannan Yao Village to have an in-depth experience and provide poverty alleviation and education.

For lunch at Yao people’s house, you need to make a fire yourself.

The mother in the same group is a business elite. It is not an exaggeration to say that she is the eldest sister.

The third lady, who has been working on the kitchen stove for most of the year, is ready to be the chef. However, as soon as she entered the kitchen, the third lady was immediately dumbfounded! The kitchen conditions were pristine beyond imagination.

The third lady suddenly lost her order, but this elite mother remained calm in the face of "crisis" and immediately assumed the dual roles of commander-in-chief and chief executive. First, I was told to clean up the living room with my two children, tidy up the debris, sweep the floor, sort the garbage, keep the dining table clean, and wash and disinfect the dishes with boiling water. It's not okay to buy ingredients for Qian Yaomin, and then get into the kitchen, light the fire and wash the pots. I quickly washed the vegetables and helped prepare the ingredients. By then, the oil had been put into the pot and everything was in order.

The three dishes were presented in a clear process, with meat and vegetables, reasonable combinations, high quality and efficiency, and the third lady was amazed.

When the meal was on the table, she took out the drinks from the bag like a magic trick, one can for each person, which suddenly raised the whole meal to a higher level, okay? ! You know, she bought this drink from the canteen at the foot of the mountain in advance and brought it up the mountain. God, why didn’t the third lady expect this at all? If there is no drink, wouldn't it be possible to choke? On such a hot day, it would be even more unbearable to cook a large pot of steaming vegetable soup.

Looking at the lunches of other families in the group, due to insufficient ingredients, some only have two simple vegetables, let alone drinks.

Afterwards, she talked about her mother, her upbringing and family education, and the third lady became convinced. Her mother was an out-and-out lady. Even though her home was ransacked and her former glory was no longer the same, her mother's demands for life remained the same. No matter how poor you are, your home will always be spotless, and those who can pay attention to details will never compromise.

Paying attention to and making do with others represent differences in abilities as well as differences in values.

If the requirements are too low, you will be satisfied; if the requirements are too high, you will be disappointed.

Synchronize your own requirements with your life, and live the most exquisite life within your capabilities.

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The third lady thinks: The best love for life is to toss hard, burn to the fullest, and bloom hard!

You only have one life, and you may be a cow or a horse in the next life~

The philosopher Nietzsche said: "Your life will pass away sooner or later, so you might as well be bold."

The third lady said, no matter how old you are or what life situation you are in, just live so that you can move yourself.

May we all have the ability to live the life we ??love.

Donor, let go of the distance?

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