The famous ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle said: The secret to humor is surprise. This sentence translates to, the secret of humor is unexpectedness.

So, if you want to surprise and win in the opening game, it is crucial to master this secret. It will help you hit the ground running and leave a deep impression.

The secret of humor is to be unexpected. Not everyone can accept your silence

Of course, before encountering humor, you may meet N people who like to pretend to be cold. , they said, it is more mysterious and gives people a desire to find out.

Jiang Fei is such a person.

When the first food festival was held in the Waterfront Park, we made an appointment to dominate the entire food street together, and we would never go home without eating three times. Nina brought a strange friend, Jiang Fei.

In fact, when I define Jiang Fei as a "friend", I always encounter rebuttal from other friends: "Can someone with that ice cube face still be called a friend?" I want to say it is for Nina. To save face, they even said with disdain that birds of a feather flock together, and there should be no aloof and alternative creatures among a group of funny people.

That day, Nina was late. When she arrived, several of us had some delicacies in our hands and were tasting them, and our moods were constantly satisfied by the delicacies.

"Only food and beautiful scenery cannot be let down. If I have to give up one thing, I would rather live in the food street." Gu Gu's sigh caused us to laugh. From a distance, we saw Nina arriving late. , she teased again, "Fairy Nana, it's not easy to wait for you. Look, the aunt next door danced to 19 knots before you showed up..."

"Sorry!" Nina Although she said this, there was no trace of guilt on her face. She was known as the "late king", and we didn't care. Instead, we were attracted by the serious young man behind her.

"My boyfriend?" I poked Nina with my elbow and asked curiously.

"No, no, no, he is just a friend. My mother is the son of a little sister. My mother insists on taking him out to play, but there is nothing I can do about it. In fact, I am not familiar with him either. We were just kids. I've met him a few times." After Nina finished speaking, she introduced Jiang Fei to us.

Gu Gu has always been acquainted with Jiang Fei. Although it was the first time he met Jiang Fei, he did not show the reserve of a stranger at all. Instead, he greeted him enthusiastically: "Hello, handsome guy, we are both Nina’s little friend, please give me some advice.”

Compared to Gu Gu’s enthusiasm, Jiang Fei seemed much colder. He just nodded to us politely and seemed to be ignoring us. Looking around.

Self-indifference at the party

Gu Gu and I looked at each other, and Nina also felt embarrassed, so she could only smile and chase after her.

"Wow, what kind of uncle is this? He's so arrogant. Will he die if he says 'hello'?" Gu Gu couldn't control his fiery temper and said a little angrily.

"Maybe it's the aloof 'tyrannical president'?" I jokingly wanted to relieve Gu Gu's emotions.

"The 'tyrannical president' won't take the blame, and he's not a mute. What the hell are you looking at with such a glance? Are you looking down on people?" Because of his excitement, Gu Gu's poisonous tongue also started to attack, "Could it be that he is pretending to be cool? "Please, what age are you wearing, underwear or outerwear?"

"Okay, that's it." If she doesn't stop her, Gu Gu will become more and more excited, and other friends will also comfort her, "Let's play." "My own, let Nina take care of this kind of uncle."

Nina also knew that Jiang Fei's indifference offended these friends, so she said to him on the way home: "Those friends of mine are very nice." You are easy to get along with. There is really no need for you to be so silent. Instead, you feel alienated."

"I didn't mean to be like this, but I just don't know how to get along with strangers." Jiang Fei said. Explaining the misunderstanding to Nina, "Maybe after a few more contacts, they will be able to understand me, right?"

Nina thought to herself, expecting others to understand first, I'm afraid there won't be many people I can contact in the future. Opportunity.

Adding the label of "silence" to an originally unfamiliar relationship will not only fail to be understood by others, but will also leave a first impression of alienation and create an insurmountable sense of distance. The relationship that was originally able to progress has evolved into the ending of "perish in silence".

No one should adapt to your personality first. Silence cannot create a relaxed atmosphere.

On the day of the birthday party, Gu Gu specially booked a KTV box to treat guests, and she informed Ah Shang to come with her. Ah Shang was too embarrassed to refuse directly, so he had to say tactfully: "It's not that I don't want to come, my college classmate Dakui has been playing here these two days, and I have to accompany him. It's not good to leave him alone at home!" < /p>

"It's okay. You can bring Da Kui with you. They are all young people. What are you afraid of?" Gu Gu has always been enthusiastic and doesn't care about having another stranger. "Isn't your friend our friend? As long as they get along, it's fine."

Gu Gu had already talked about it, and Ah Shang was too embarrassed to refuse anymore, so he agreed.

After hanging up the phone, he said to Da Kui: "My good friend's birthday is today, and I want you to go with me. Is that okay?"

"Not so good..." Da Kui hesitated, "You know Yes, I’m not very good at talking.”

“My friends are all easy to get along with, so don’t worry.” Ah Shang comforted him, “If you really can’t stay any longer, then we’ll come back early. "?"

During dinner, Ashang took Dakui to the agreed place. After a brief introduction, Dakui was not as cheerful as everyone expected. He just sat in his seat and said nothing.

We were afraid of neglecting Dakui, so we specially picked some neutral topics to talk about that he could participate in together. We even discussed the game with him when we learned that he was playing Honor of Kings with Ashang. .

"Dakui, which hero do you usually play?" Gu Gu is also a game fan. Although she often cheats her teammates, she doesn't care about winning or losing, she just wants to have fun.

"I don't play much." Dakui's words were like a ladle of cold water that dampened Gu Gu's enthusiasm to continue talking.

Good friendship always makes people feel comfortable

"Dakui is preparing to take the civil service exam. He doesn't have enough time to study, so he doesn't play much recently." Ah Shang quickly added, and everyone suddenly understood , without delving into it.

"It's amazing. I can still make up my mind to take the civil service exam. I gave up long ago." I have also taken the public exam. As we all know, the public exam is highly competitive.

After hearing what I said, Dakui glanced at me and said softly: "It's okay."

Dakui's voice was not loud, but all the friends here heard it, but they didn't know what to do. How to answer his questions, the idea of ????wanting him to integrate into this environment has faded a lot, and he started to talk about his own topics.

For "topic terminators", people have always felt unfriendly.

Singing and drinking, everyone around her was having a good time. Gu Gu was in a good mood and said to Dakui: "This classmate, can you sing a song too? Let's have fun together!" Her The original intention was to use the lively atmosphere to try to get Dakui familiar with everyone.

"I'm not very good at singing, I just want to listen to you singing." Dakui rejected Gu Gu's proposal without thinking, and Ashang on the side could only sit with him and occasionally chat with us. .

"Let's leave first. We have to get up early to go to Mount Putuo tomorrow." Ashang made an excuse and left early with Dakui. Gu Gu did not stop him and waved his hand as a farewell.

As soon as Ashang and Dakui left, Gu Gu said impatiently: "Do you like to pretend to be a 'tyrannical president' these days? Have you read too many romance novels?"

< p> Anyone who knows how to chat knows that silence cannot mobilize a relaxed atmosphere, nor can silence deepen the first impression of strangers. It will not only create barriers, but also make people more likely to be labeled as "difficult to contact".

However, not everyone understands this truth, just like Jiang Fei and Dakui.

You must understand basic courtesy. A good opening statement can promote the development of friendship in the future.

I remember when I first met Amu, it was in a Northeastern restaurant.

A while ago, that Northeastern restaurant launched a discount on the island’s official food account. The discount was very strong. The original set meal for four people was discounted to nearly 30% off. The cuisine included Northeastern classics. Some "hard dishes".

Taking advantage of the discount, our circle of close friends launched a group "crossing the Black Jiliao" operation. Amu joined our circle during this event.

Originally, I had no special impression of Amu, who was silent in the corner. He was just listening to the chats of a few friends we knew well. It was not until the set meal was served that I had an impression of him.

For a group of foodies like us, the portion of the set meal for four people was a bit small, but in line with the principle of "don't be picky when it comes to freeloaders", no one of us spoke first.

"They say Northeastern cuisine is generous in portions. Is this for one person?" Amu suddenly said a sentence that immediately made people's eyes light up. It was our true voice!

The waiter on the side looked a little unnatural, but he still patiently explained to us with a spirit of service: "Hello, this is a set meal for four people."

Because it is a new store, the store owner also pays special attention to the experience of every customer. Seeing that our place was very busy, he walked up to us and asked with a smile: "Can I help you?"

Originally it was just a group of friends having fun, but due to the shop owner’s participation, it might turn into a quarrel. We were afraid that the situation would get out of control, so we hurriedly explained to the shop owner: “We are just joking. Look at our group of people. I thought it was a portion for one person."

The shop owner quietly looked around at the friends present, suppressed his laughter, and felt much more relaxed, and said to the waiter jokingly: "This is it. Please tell the kitchen about the dishes that have not yet been served."

The shop owner's words adjusted the awkward atmosphere, and Amu on the side also spoke up: "Don't underestimate us island people. Wow, that’s a lot of appetite.”

“That’s right, there are a lot of people on the island.

"The shop owner also laughed with us after saying that.

Your humor can infect everyone present

After the shop owner left, we continued to chat, and Amu suddenly became You are the center of attention among your friends.

"You are so humorous when talking, but you are not like me, especially in unfamiliar environments. I will blush whenever you speak. "Aji blushed again in embarrassment.

"Amu's sense of humor is comparable to that of Gu Gu. " Hua Yu said.

"Nonsense, Gu Gu obviously has a poisonous tongue. "I also chimed in.

"Ahem, eldest sister, are you talking about me? I'm still sitting here, please treat me as a person, okay? "Gu Gu was unwilling.

Amu looked at us and talked to each other, and the sense of alienation when we first came into contact had long since disappeared. Since then, he has often attended our gatherings. , has become a member of our circle of close friends

A well-chosen opening can promote the development of our subsequent friendships - coupled with polite and humorous words, it can not only resolve conflicts and conflicts in an instant. Embarrassment can also eliminate barriers and bring each other closer

Happiness is so simple

"Speak Well: Fresh and Interesting Words" produced by "Qi Pa Shuo". It is mentioned in "Improving Skills" that humor is the ability to create an atmosphere, not just telling jokes. It is important to avoid accidental injuries. Skills are skills, and you have to relax your mind.

Therefore, if you want to have a good opening, Please relax your mind, release your humor, and become the shining focus in the crowd.

Recommended book: "High Emotional Quotient Expression" Tips for chatting:

Atmosphere Setting Principle 1: A humorous way of speaking can surprise people, bring mature communication to an otherwise unfamiliar environment, resolve embarrassment, and enhance mutual feelings.

Atmosphere Setting Principle 2: Distinguish. The difference between humor and comedy is that humor can make people feel the speaker's wisdom and guidance ability, while comedy seems a bit superficial.

Authorization|Ziyu Culture

Typesetting|Hongguo

Review|Li Ziyu

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