"My dear, marry me, I will make you happy!" The male protagonist knelt down on one knee, holding a diamond ring in his hand, and said this line to the female protagonist affectionately. The female protagonist's eyes were full of happiness, but her face was full of shyness.

He nodded "Yes" and then hugged and kissed passionately.

Does this scene look familiar?

Such scenes have appeared in too many film and television works.

But how many girls have thought about it, do men really think this way?

No!

What a man really thinks is: Marry me, you will make me happy!

At the end of 2018, there was a "marriage list" on Weibo that became popular on the Internet: a 29-year-old Dalian guy, a migrant worker with a monthly salary of 4,000, met a girl on a blind date who made a "marriage list": the man needs to provide a house, a car and a 200,000 gift.

, the woman does not have a dowry and will not go out to work after marriage.

It is said that the girl has an ordinary appearance and an ordinary family background. Her current monthly salary is 3,000, and there is nothing special about her at all.

The only special thing is that I am extremely confident in myself.

I believe that if the young man agrees, the girl will definitely find happiness, but will the young man say the words "Marry me, and I will give you happiness"?

They have never gotten along before, let alone fell in love. If they just put forward such a condition during a blind date, the young man can't see what happiness the other party can bring him, and even sees oppression and exploitation. How could he say "

Give you happiness”.

A truly good marriage is not about one party constantly giving and the other party constantly asking, but about mutual warmth, mutual support, and always being able to obtain happiness from each other. This is the true meaning of lifelong companionship!

In fact, these words when proposing should be regarded as a man's promise: "If you are willing to marry me, then I promise to give you happiness!" And he is willing to make such a promise because he believes that by marrying you, you can give him happiness.

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However, what kind of girl will make a man willing to make a commitment?

The most important point among them: be reasonable!

This idiom is definitely the wisdom of our ancestors.

The first is to be empathic, communicate feelings, understand each other's emotions, and understand basic human feelings.

Then there is Dali, which means knowing basic principles, understanding the principles of the world, and behaving in a reasonable manner.

There is a saying on the Internet: Smart women are reasonable, while stupid women are ignorant.

Take my two wives, Sister Lin upstairs and Sister Zhang downstairs, for example!

Sister Lin upstairs is in her 40s, and her figure and skin are well maintained. Just like the rice rolls she made just now, they are still in elastic shape.

Her husband is a company executive and often socializes from Monday to Friday, but Sister Zhang never complains. She also prepares various medicines for him to relieve hangover and protect his liver, and tells him to pay attention to his safety.

Occasionally, she can help him with ideas and favors at work, and she can even be his diplomat in the mall. Sometimes a man's war can turn into a good thing after she resolves the bad things.

As for her husband, as long as he is at home on weekends, he often cooks various delicacies in the kitchen himself, saying it is to reward Sister Lin for her hard work.

The two of them love each other very much and rarely quarrel.

Sister Zhang and Sister Lin downstairs are about the same age, but they have a round figure and a rough face that looks like the whitewash of an old house, and the skin will peel off if touched.

Her husband is the director of a public institution. He used to like to drink two sips, but now he can only drink two sips because he will be beaten if he drinks too much.

Sister Zhang said that her husband was not doing his job every day, and that he did not make money in his job. He was afraid of losing money when making money, and he was unwilling to do hard work.

In short, when her husband drinks, he says he doesn’t do his job, and when he doesn’t drink, he says he’s incompetent. This makes her husband use working overtime as an excuse to go out and drink with others every day. She complains constantly at home, and her life is a mess.

Jump.

Do many people also see their own reflections in them?

In fact, men are also trained by women. If you are reasonable, he will naturally take good care of you. If you are the roar of a lion from Hedong, he will definitely not treat you gently.

In fact, every man has his own pressure. What women should do is to relieve men's pressure instead of creating burdens.

Home should be a haven from the wind, but many women have turned their home into a dock from the storm.

Female writer Zhang Xiyan wrote in "Being a Reasonable and Graceful Woman": A reasonable woman is not only a wise wife, but also a lovely and kind woman, and a tolerant and confident woman.