Poverty can make a man feel very low self-esteem, and he will be unable to recover from it, and his life will be depressed like this.

But some people become more miserable as they get poorer. As Jack Ma said, you are originally a poor person, but if you work hard, you will live a wealthy life; if you don't work hard, you will still be poor at worst.

I have a classmate who is very handsome with thick eyebrows and big eyes. After graduating from college, he was assigned to a state-owned enterprise. At that time, I was very proud and smug. I was ready to combine my career vision with the long-term development of the company. My ultimate goal was to become a deputy factory director.

But the trend of layoffs is overwhelming, and my classmate has not escaped this "disaster".

Generally, people who have worked as management cadres or in offices in the company will have the most difficult life after being laid off, because they cannot achieve high levels and cannot work low, cannot let go of face, cannot let go of self-esteem, and cannot make money.

My classmate got divorced not long after he was laid off. He does not go out to work or start a small business. He relies on the luck of the times every day and wants to sit in the office and eat "national food" again. His mother is running a small vegetable business outside. She is in her sixties. Not only does she have no one to support her, but she also has to bear the burden of her unfulfilled son.

He sleeps at home every day. He doesn’t know what he is doing at other times. Anyway, he does not have QQ or WeChat. Nine out of ten times he calls him, he does not answer.

He turned out to be such a cheerful person, and a person full of longing for the future. Now life has completely defeated him, he has cut off all contacts in society, and he has completely closed himself off.

I despise this kind of person who "sorrows his misfortune and is angry that he does not fight".

There was a laid-off female worker in Xi'an City. After being laid off, she bought cold noodles and dragged her tricycle through the streets. Later, she used her brains and invented a kind of cold skin that was more delicious than others - Qinzhen cold skin. This kind of cold skin is chewy, soft and has a particularly good taste.

This female worker took one step at a time, first dragging a tricycle to sell goods along the street, then opening a store, and finally embarked on the road of chain development and achieved a career.

"There are no desperate situations, only people who are desperate for them." Life is like a road, how can there be no pitfalls? In the face of difficulties, we still need to improve our courage, use our brains and find ways to overcome difficulties, and move forward bravely to make our lives colorful and enjoyable.

When one is so poor that he has nothing to eat, dignity, etiquette, shame, and humanity are all rolled aside, leaving only humility.

In 1993, I finally couldn’t hold back my long-tempered heart, and desperately came to Guangzhou alone to explore the world.

Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that Guangzhou, then known as the “Flower World”, would have no place for me to establish myself. It has been 15 days, and I have spent all the 110 yuan I have, and I have nothing but the shabby skin on my body.

The southern sun was shining brightly, and I was walking on the crowded streets of Xuanhuo, listening to Teresa Teng's sweet "When Will You Come Again". In addition to still looking for a job, the most important thing now is: how to fill his stomach.

I haven’t eaten for almost two days, and for the first time I feel the feeling of my heart touching my back. I'm even jealous of the wild dogs running around on the streets. There are foods they're interested in everywhere, and they never have to worry about starving to death.

I stopped in front of the window of a restaurant. Through the glass, people at tables one after another were feasting. I imagined the taste of various foods to soothe my stomach, which no longer knew the taste of meat.

When I saw four people at a table standing up from their seats to say goodbye, the dishes on the table were still steaming hot, especially a plate of "Royal Chicken". The whole thing was lying quietly without moving a chopstick.

I had an idea and quickly walked into the restaurant. After confirming that the four guests were gone, I hurriedly took a seat at the table. Looking at the table full of chicken, duck and fish, I wanted to swallow them all in an instant. However, looking at the waiters around me, I controlled myself rationally and tasted the delicious food slowly and gracefully.

"The imperial concubine's chicken" I didn't move. I transferred the guests' leftover food to my stomach one by one, burped, stretched, then turned to the waiter and said: "Pack it!"

The waiter had already felt my It was an unusual behavior, but he was suspicious and he didn't dare to ask any more questions. When the "Royal Concubine Chicken" was safely put into the food box, I felt much more at ease: I don't have to worry about being hungry tomorrow.

After having the "Overlord Meal" by chance last time, I summed up my experience, perfected the plan, and copied three more restaurants. I spent my time eating other people's leftovers in these four restaurants in turn. My 46 days of "humble" years in Guangzhou.

It wasn’t until I was lucky enough to sell three houses at once in a real estate company that I gradually regained my human appearance.

To this day, when I think back to those "humble years", although my heart always hurts, I regard it as a precious experience in my life, which encourages me not to slack off and to always work hard and make progress. .

Hello landlord, I am honored to answer your question.

To what extent can poverty make a person feel inferior?

In fact, I have always been poor, and I have a bit of low self-esteem. It is not too serious to say that I am not enough, I can only say that I am used to being poor. But some people can really feel inferior to themselves because of poverty.

Let me tell you a real experience! My brother-in-law used to be a very confident man. He started his own business in the early days and also did business with Japanese people. I made 300,000 in the first year, when I was only 21 years old.

It can be said that he was very high-spirited during that period. His father often educated his brother, and you didn't learn from your brother. My sister married him because she saw him as young and promising. In fact, she always disliked his appearance. After all, my sister is also very beautiful.

Unfortunately, the good times did not last long, probably because he was young and energetic and succeeded too early. So after that period of time, I often went out and had a good time with some friends. I didn't pay much attention to business matters, and gradually I lost money on many investments. My temper became increasingly violent, and I even beat my sister. We got divorced because of this, but we later remarried.

One thing that impressed me deeply was that I had done nothing, and then he said there was a good project for me to work on together. As a result, I still lost money in the end. I still remember that morning, when I woke up, I saw him standing naked at the door, looking a little abnormal. Later, he went to the kitchen and brought out a kitchen knife. He was talking garbled words and asked us all to leave.

Then he said that he would call the police and said that you had defrauded me of my money. Later, he called his mother and said I was sorry to her! He said he was incompetent...

It took him a long time to calm down. According to what he said later, he saw me as another person. But even now, I can still feel that he has some inferiority complex. My sister is a Wechat businessman and often posts some advertisements on WeChat. She always says, be careful when posting to Moments and don’t let others see anything.

Many of his friends have also stopped working now. In addition to going to the workplace, he usually plays games at home, but he just lacks the high-spiritedness of before. , after all, it was so successful before.

I hope he can get rid of this inferiority complex as soon as possible. After all, his family is still there and his parents still have some money on hand, so he doesn't need to worry about it. I started from scratch at the beginning. I heard that I slept in someone’s underground garage for a year. Think about the fighting spirit at that time!

I happened to be reading a book "Inferiority and Transcendence" recently. The book said that many people have inferiority complex, and those who can eventually transcend their inferiority can achieve higher achievements.

You are very sensitive, especially when your family or girlfriend compares you with people who are better than you, or when someone looks down on you.

I have an average family, an only child, and a very easy-going personality. I was stupid and got admitted to a parallel university. I stopped studying after a few months. I found a job with a very low salary and worked hard. After eight years, my income has become much better than that of my peers, and my savings are also okay. Then at the end of last year, I decided to give up this career and return to my hometown to prepare for a big career. The child was just born last year, and now I am embarrassed. I lost half of my deposit when I came back. Anyway, I failed, so I found a job and went to work first. I only had 3,000 yuan after work. Now I am finished. I have paid off the 2,000 yuan mortgage. The remaining money is not enough for the car's fuel. I used to spend a lot of money on whatever I wanted and liked to buy some entertainment and luxury goods. Now I am fine. I don't even dare to leave the house after get off work. I used to eat out or treat others to dinner to connect with each other when I have nothing to do. Now I don't dare to go out to eat at all. My wife works in a bank, and I rely entirely on her to support the family. My brother-in-law is also a civil servant, and his family is all intellectuals. They look down on me because they think I have no education and no ability. My colleagues think I am stupid for insisting on returning despite being well treated.

However, I feel that these are only temporary and I will be able to make a difference one day.

Poverty can really limit a person's imagination.

When you live in a house with a leaky roof, you can't imagine how comfortable it is inside a mansion.

When you can’t go out to a restaurant once a year to save money, you don’t know what a Michelin-starred restaurant is.

When you are sick and just buy some medicine at a street pharmacy to make do, you don’t know when you will suddenly collapse.

I saw a man in front of the hospital. His wife was seriously ill but he could not afford the hospitalization expenses.

With only 200 yuan left, he knelt at the door of the hospital. His wife sat sickly beside him, wiping her tears.

Although in the end a kind person gave them money.

But I will never forget that man. He knelt down humbly and took the money until the kind man said: "If you don't stand up, I won't give you the money."

Then he got up from the ground.

But he never raised his head. From his face to his neck, everything was red. I think this was the most humbling moment of his life.

For his wife, this is the most difficult ups and downs he has faced in his life. Fortunately, he still had dignity despite his humbleness. He insisted on leaving the contact information of kind-hearted people and promised to repay the money.

A man has gold at his knees. He is forced to do this for his family, and he can be considered a responsible man.

I wish his wife a speedy recovery!

To what extent can poverty make a man humble?

"When I fell in love with you, I felt the inferiority caused by poverty"

This is a real example of my friend:

He is alone At that time, I lived in a basement in Beijing for 600 yuan a month. When he was single, he didn't think it was a big deal.

Until the appearance of my girlfriend...

Those shoes I can’t afford, the Western food I can’t afford, the hotel I can’t afford to stay in, and the tickets I can’t bear to part with are all like knives piercing my heart. heart.

When he didn’t have a girlfriend, poverty, to him, was just the difference between eating instant noodles at night and eating steak in a Western restaurant, and it did not harm his happiness.

But when he had someone to love, he deeply felt the inferiority brought about by poverty.

The good thing is that he has not been hiding in his inferiority complex.

The appearance of his girlfriend made him keep thinking about how to make money. How can he earn 1 million?

Later, he really did it and fulfilled his promise to his girlfriend.

When they were still living in the basement, he said: "You have to remember that others may still be living here in two or three years. By then we will have left long ago. We do not belong here. We are just making a transition here."

Every time I share his story with others, I feel envious.

First, he can have goals to work hard for and achieve them.

The second reason is that girls can be so lucky to meet him.

Being poor has not kept him humble. As he said, we are only like this temporarily.

This is what poverty should be like. Instead of complaining about poverty all the time, we should face the difficulties and find a solution to poverty.

First of all, I think inferiority complex is related to personality psychology. Cheerful and optimistic people, and people with strong hearts, will be slightly better off. In other words, it is a very common psychological state in our country. It seems that everyone Everyone has an inferiority complex, but some people express it more obviously, while some people are less aware of it. Some are innate, and some are caused by the environment, because people’s various psychology have been formed since they can remember. For example, other people’s children have beautiful toys and beautiful clothes, but I don’t have them. I feel very inferior. The more fragile my heart is, the more inferior I feel.

There is also the influence of the environment, such as parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, and the people around you, which are the result of mutual influence and infection. In addition, Chinese people want to save face and show off, especially now that they are heavily influenced by the idea of ??"hating people who laugh while others don't". Under the guidance of the prevalence of money worship and the unhealthy trend of focusing on money, the richer a person is, the more respected they are. Poverty makes people look down upon it more, so people learn to follow the trend and compare. The more they compare, the poorer they become. The poorer they are, the more they feel inferior. As for how low your self-esteem is, the most serious thing is to commit suicide. I feel that life is too tiring and I don’t want to play with you anymore.

There is another situation, that is, friends who grew up naked together, classmates, colleagues, and comrades with deep feelings, but later due to the gap between the rich and the poor, they gradually stopped contacting each other. This is all Caused by low self-esteem, there used to be no difference in the past, but many years later, I discovered that classmate Zhang was doing well and bought a luxury car, and Comrade Li was doing well and living in a mansion, but your current situation seemed to be the same. , has not changed for many years, then when I see or learn about the huge changes that have occurred in others, I lose my psychological balance and do not want to meet again. Even when invited by classmates and comrades, I want to find a reason to decline.

I watched a video on the Internet some time ago. It was a video taken by a netizen in Africa. It mainly introduced the cultural customs of Africans. One day he walked into an African family for interview and filming. The simple house was built in the desert wilderness. The owner of the house was an aunt who looked about 50 years old. There was no decent furniture except pots and pans. She said she was living in poverty, but she was very optimistic and answered every interview with a smile. The aunt introduced the black man next to the photographer and said that this was her son. She had two sons. The one was outside and had not come back. They were both in their 20s and lived separately from their parents. The photographer asked to go to his house to have a look. Unexpectedly, the African boy agreed happily and cheerfully. It was actually a dome-shaped mud house like a grain store. There was nothing in the house except two single beds separated by sheets, but he didn't feel anything at all. This is an embarrassing thing to do and seems very optimistic.

I have a strong inferiority complex. If this happened to me and I was in embarrassment, I would never welcome you to interview me, especially if it was filmed at my home. I was quite disgusted by the pictures coming and going. Not only was I not welcomed, but I was also very angry: "Why are you here? Why are you taking pictures here? Do you think I am poor and come to see me having fun?" Well, I felt embarrassed and my self-esteem was hurt. Therefore, it is normal for people to have a little inferiority complex, but it should not be too strong. If the inferiority complex is too strong, it is a kind of mental illness. So I do not deny that I have a mental illness. I have only listened to good things since I was a child, not bad words. , there is no room for criticism.

I haven’t been to my sister’s house for more than ten years. I didn’t even go when my sister and I got married. I don’t even remember the children of my relatives, let alone attend them. It’s my wedding. I don’t know how many children my cousin has, or how old they are. Of course, they don’t know me either. I haven’t been to my aunt or uncle’s house in more than 20 years. Of course, I also hope that on the day I die, except for a few family members who will help me scatter my ashes, no one will go there and just pretend they don’t know me. So did someone else offend me? No, did I offend others? nor. I just don't want to show up, mainly because of my personality, and also because I have some low self-esteem. I haven't made any money in recent years, and I'm not doing well.

I no longer worship my father-in-law for more than ten years, almost 15 years. My wife is from Laizhou. She used to worship her father-in-law every year on the third day of the Lunar New Year, and she prepared so much seafood in advance. One year, my father-in-law asked me how much money I earned this year. As soon as I heard a buzzing in my ears, I immediately realized that he was asking questions knowingly, because before that, could he not ask about my wife? Ask his daughter? I used to live on Kongtong Island, and he knew that the sea on Kongtong Island was contracted by an individual. Why did he still ask like this when he knew clearly that I couldn't make a lot of money? Isn't this intentional to embarrass me? I was very unhappy at the time, and I couldn't help but smile. I planned to go back the next day. Moreover, Chinese people have a habit of always asking you what you do for a living when meeting you. How much do you earn per month? This makes me very disgusted. What does your job have to do with you? I know so many netizens, but in the past few years I have never asked them what they do for a living or how old they are? The same is true in life. For the sake of convenience, the most you can do is ask someone's last name. I don't think it's necessary, it's not a relationship. Even if I'm in love, I won't open my mouth and ask: Beauty, what do you do for a living? How much do you earn per month? How many people are there in the family? How are your parents? Don't care about this, so what if she is an orphan? It's just that her appearance doesn't meet my aesthetic standards. As for whether her personality and temperament are compatible, I'll get to know her later.

What people fear most is poverty. Being poor has nothing, no money to spend, no wife, no circle of friends. The people you come into contact with are all poor. You have been living in this poor circle, and you always speak in a low voice. He just wants to hide himself. Poverty will make a man feel inferior. He can only stay in his own little world forever, close his inner world, and become more and more inferior and introverted.

Although money is not a good thing, you really can’t do it without money. Without money, you can only be a poor man. You don’t dare to marry a wife. If you marry a wife, you can’t afford it. You don’t dare to have children. There is no one to support the children, especially the poorer people always want to have one more child. This will only make them poorer and poorer. There will never be any way to change the status quo. They can only live and work at the bottom, making the hardest money every day, with a meager salary. The salary is not enough to support the family, and he cannot hold his head up in front of his wife and family. If a man cannot even support his family, the man will be hit by this matter, and he will either work hard or become more and more inferior and weak.

Poor men have no say in this society. They can only listen to the arrangements of those successful people. They work and live step by step like robots every day. They don’t know when the end will come. The edges have been sharpened by society, and I no longer have the heart to fight. When I am depressed, I buy a bottle to numb myself, forgetting that I am busy for money every day, forgetting that I am a poor person, and forget that I still have to support my family.

Poverty means having no money, not daring to participate in social activities, not daring to go home, not daring to attend class reunions, and afraid to go out to play. Apart from work, they just hide themselves, hoping that they can be part of the atmosphere of society and will not be criticized. I found that we are all people with no sense of presence in the corner, and they may have forgotten his existence.

Being poor in today’s society means having no social status, not having the money to marry a wife, not being able to go back to your hometown, having no friends, and just wanting to hide yourself. How do you hide yourself?

As the saying goes, it is difficult for a rich man to be a man without money. Poverty can destroy a man's self-esteem and make him feel inferior to the dust. The humbleness that goes deep into his bones can make a man feel sadness everywhere.

Because of poverty, men walk in a sluggish way, without energy, with no head held high, let alone high spirits, and timid in everything they do.

When facing a girl you like, let alone fighting for it, you don’t even have the courage to go up and strike up a conversation. Falling in love is not about drinking from the northwest wind. How can you have confidence when your pocket is empty?

Even if I marry a wife and have children, I don’t dare to ask her to buy the clothes she likes. When I see the delicious food, I swallow hard and feel uncomfortable; because I can’t buy toys and watch the children there. Crying loudly, feeling heartbroken and helpless, so sad.

The saddest thing is that because of poverty, I have no relatives or friends around me. When I'm sick, I can only take some cheap medicine secretly, and I don't even have the courage to be hospitalized. All this and so on, poverty is like a shackles, choking a man's throat and trapping his hands, making him difficult to walk in life and discouraged.

However, poverty has always been a double-edged sword. A real man will never be intimidated by temporary poverty. It is not terrible to be born in poverty, because after experiencing the suffering of poverty, they will burst out with endless fighting spirit and perseverance to change poverty.

Because a man only shows his true spirit when he overcomes difficulties and obstacles! come on.

The collapse of adults begins with borrowing money. Borrowing money, such a simple two words, but these two words have defeated so many people, and one penny has stumped so many heroes. Talking about money is so vulgar no matter what time it is. It is not as happy and touching as talking about love. However, these things are facts, and such facts can only be experienced. Only those who understand the pain and sorrow involved.

To what extent can poverty make a man humble? The key point is the man! Yes, you heard it right, not only love can make a person feel humble, poverty can also make a person feel humble. When you have no money, you will also find that there are many things that you really have no way to accomplish, and you have to keep your head down for many things.

If you say you can’t feel it, that’s just because you haven’t lived a life without money. If you haven’t experienced those years, how can you possibly experience that feeling? The helplessness of transferring all the money in your bank card to change just for a meal, the sadness of living with only two or three yuan a day.

Ten years later, I finally realized the sadness of being a noble person in the myth. Because you have no money and no rights, you deserve to be stepped on, bullied and respectful to others. When you have no money, everything you say seems like farts to others, but when you get up one day and fart, some people think it smells good.

When I was young, I didn’t understand. I thought that money is just a thing used to exchange material things, and there is no need to take it so seriously. Only when you grow up and experience a lot of things will you realize that once a person Without this thing, there is nothing. If you choose to live in seclusion, then everything will be fine, but once you appear, you will always be a disturbance to those who see you.

2017 was the most difficult year for the family, perhaps because it was the most difficult year for my father. He had a car accident and incurred a lot of medical expenses. Then one month passed. The injured person still died and needed to be compensated hundreds of thousands, but all the expenses were spent on medical expenses, so there was no money to pay. After several changes, a compensation of more than 100,000 was finally agreed upon.

My father said that from the time he started borrowing money to the time he finally returned to the starting point, no one had ever given an exact answer. It was always you who pushed me, and I pushed you. He was like A ball, kicked around. However, these are not the saddest things. The saddest thing is that when I pass by a relative's house and want to go in and sit, the door of that house is closed.

Later, my father sold everything he could sell at home. On the last day of the deadline, he collected all the money and saw a slight smile on his face. When you are down, you will see the faces of many people clearly, and you will understand how worthless those so-called family ties and so-called friendships are when you encounter benefits. There is no need to write down some things. It's so meticulous, anyone who has experienced it will understand.

As the saying goes: "If you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives; if you are poor in the city, you have no one to care about." This means that as long as you are rich, relatives will come to see you no matter where you are. As long as you are poor, relatives in good places may not remember you. Therefore, there is a saying that the poor do not visit relatives. When a person has no money, friends, relatives, and even brothers will look down on him.

Especially men, men are under a lot of pressure in their lives. The most important things in their lives are: house, car, marrying a wife, raising children, and raising parents. Which thing doesn’t require more money to support? So men, try your best. If you are poor, you don’t need dignity, because dignity also needs money to support it.

If you don’t borrow money, you will never realize what collapse is, nor will you feel humbleness. You will not feel others’ disdain for you, nor will you feel that you have no power. status, you won’t realize that what you said and what you did were wrong.