It seems that how to deal with depression and how to understand it has become a matter that needs to be paid attention to in this society, but too many people really know too little about depression.
In the eyes of many people, the most common evaluation of depression is that people who attack depression continue to aggravate their harm both mentally and physically.
People with depression are not accepted by society, and their living space is getting smaller and smaller. Sometimes, you will think that most people with depression don't want to commit suicide, but are more "instigated" and "threatened" to learn about their own lives. Perhaps, more often, we are the real hidden killers.
are they crazy or are we too numb?
whether people are sick or society is sick.
And depression is gradually becoming a gentle reminder, whether it is directed at individuals, groups or the whole society, it is no wonder that we are a depressed age in the 21st century, and we are depressed, and more people are living in a depressed state or individuals, and there are many people slowly.
share a woman's life experience.
She is a senior executive of a technology company, and her ability is very good, and her team is first-class. Such plans are completed one after another, and the result of her mission is that she should treat herself well.
She will buy the latest clothes, make-up and delicious food. After the New Year holiday, she will go to the office as usual, but later she finds that she can't walk into that office building.
So she called in sick and went home that day. At first, she thought it was holiday syndrome and didn't care much.
however, the first day, the second day, the third day, and many days in succession, she couldn't walk into the office.
Later, she began to ask for help and found a psychologist. She was very anxious, saying that she only had two weeks' vacation, and the treatment would take a very long time, but no company could tolerate a senior executive not going to work for a month.
The psychologist said ok, let's give it a try, so two years later, she chose to change her life and develop in the direction of art..
after they started communicating that day, she never set foot in the office again.
What did she go through? She experienced that her ability began to disappear step by step, and she was no longer able to think keenly. Her good mobility began to disappear, and all she knew was disintegrating. She couldn't even sleep in bed. She wore home clothes and slept on the sofa in the living room. From morning till night, at night and during the day, she was nested in the sofa in the living room.
She is very scared, just like all depressed people experience: fear, helplessness, anger and sadness, but she doesn't know how to face it.
their only desire is to let the situation go.
the soul of the night: the world between death and rebirth.
such a space is so close to them, so dark, like a black sea and a dark forest, the soul can't find a way out after going in, just waiting for a long time, and no one can guarantee that we can come out.
It is a spiritual world that cannot escape helplessness.
Therefore, we often praise that this process is approaching death, and we are disintegrated and disappeared, while the new self is not seen and found.
The advantage of depression is to find a new river of life.
Our life is just like a river, and there is a period when something suddenly stops you. It makes you feel that your life has been stopped, and the things you like begin to dislike, and the foods you like don't like to eat. The state that you like to be with friends never appears again.
Maybe you need a new way to go on, which is an inward psychological process.
find a flow that you can really love.
In this process, the method chosen is basically useless in our daily life. Jung piles stones like a little boy by the river when he is depressed. Other depressed people choose to wander the streets for several hours every day, and some do nothing at home and have been playing with a fixed thing. These are the most useless things in our eyes, and it is such things that let them find a new meaning of living and a new life that can flow.
Zhuangzi said: Useless is for great use
It is precisely because a useless state opens another state and sees another world, which is completely different from what we used to be familiar with. In this state, you have no familiar direction, and there is no way to bring out any meaningful value by doing these things. You can become a painter by doodling, not by writing for becoming a writer, but by yourself.
We are doing all the things that are useful to us in our life, and one of them is left behind, which contains all the things that you feel useless, including nature, art, beauty, religion, philosophy, etc … and it is depression that is an opportunity to start your life reorganization.
All those things that you have forgotten and feel useless are helping you find this exit and awaken your inner desire to symbolize life. They need to be discovered, valued and seen by you.
when it is seen, we have developed a good reality, and the real self can make life no longer flat, and the depth of this depression has opened a high level with the integration of life pursued by spirituality and questioned by philosophy.
So this integrated life is developed because of depression.
and therefore more abundant.