Let me tell you a case first to help answer this question: After Lin Zi joined the company, his performance during the internship period was acceptable.

The leader appreciated him and took him on business trips to other places for meetings.

After the meeting, the female classmate whose leader is in the local city wants to treat her to dinner.

The leader asked Lin Zi, "Do you want to go together?" Lin Zi thought to himself that he wanted to serve the leader well, so he nodded vigorously.

The whole night, the leader and the female classmates chatted in a dark manner, and Lin Zi felt like a light bulb.

At the end of the internship period, the leader commented that Lin Zi was "too down-to-earth" and seemed a bit dissatisfied.

Lin Zi was puzzled. The leader invited me to go with him. Why was he dissatisfied with me?

The workplace is a small society, and the people you encounter are no less sophisticated than those in daily life.

Some people say that the workplace is like a river and lake, and the rivers and lakes are not about fighting and killing, but about the sophistication of people.

Accompanying leaders on business trips is a "double-edged sword."

Distance creates beauty, close distance destroys beauty.

When accompanying leaders on business trips to other places, it is common for them to meet classmates, friends, and relatives to treat them.

If you encounter this kind of thing again, grasp these three principles, and you can "remain unchanged in response to all changes."

1. We must listen to the leadership’s opinions and judge the leader’s true intentions.

When on a business trip to another place, the leader invites local classmates and friends to dinner and catch up on old times. It is purely a private banquet or class reunion and has nothing to do with work.

A straightforward leader will say to you, "I have a class reunion tonight, you can arrange your own time." When meeting such a straightforward leader, subordinates will feel relaxed.

When encountering a leader who is "pretentious" and says, "My classmate invites me to dinner tonight, you can go too." This is just a polite word from the leader, just like what we usually say, "I will invite you to dinner another day."

Don't be like Lin Zi, who is "silly and honest" and just follows along, acting as a light bulb and making people dislike him.

2. If the leader asks you to go, you should participate and thank the leader.

When you are on a business trip to other places, local friends invite the boss to dinner. If the boss thinks it is necessary to bring you to attend, he will use such words to invite you.

The leader will say to you, "My friend is inviting me to dinner tonight. Please go with me and get to know more people." This kind of rhetoric tells you that you must go.

If you're still not sure whether you should go or not?

You can test it again, "Boss, if your friends are getting together, I won't disturb you. I'll go eat some delicious food myself." The leader has his own intentions. If he says, "That's fine, in case you can't get involved."

Mouth, if you don’t feel comfortable eating, please make your own arrangements and pay attention to your safety.” You will also be completely relieved.

If the leader insists on inviting you to go, of course he has his own reason, "Friends are also bringing colleagues with them, so you can expand your social network." This kind of rhetoric is already very clear, and you should accept it happily.

3. If your leader instructs you to go, you must go and serve well.

Since he is the leader, he has some authority.

When traveling to other places on business, friends treat guests to dinner, and some gatherings have different purposes.

The leader has his own account in his mind, and he will tell you using these three techniques.

A way of saying: Some friends are inviting us to dinner tonight, and they may want to ask us for help.

You should also go along and step in to pay the bill if necessary. Look at my gestures when the time comes. If we don’t agree, we will take the initiative to pay the bill. Don’t be short-tempered.

This kind of talk is very clearly arranged, and you can just follow it.

A way of saying: My friend invites us to dinner tonight, and you must accompany me. This guy is very good at getting drunk. If I get too drunk, be sure to bring me back.

Don't be dragged to places like bathing centers by him. This guy is self-employed. He doesn't care, but we can't care.

This kind of talk is to let you supervise him and prevent bad things from happening.

A kind of saying: A few classmates are inviting me to dinner tonight, you go with me, you come out to pay the bill, and I will give you money when you come back.

This kind of rhetoric has a profound meaning. The leader takes his younger brother to socialize. This is to ask you to gain face for him.