Everyone needs the safest harbor in the world, and parents are the places we are most familiar with, have known for the longest time and get the most concern, and human beings are all stakeholders in the outside world, even including wives, and there are more needs and needs, but only parents are relatively selfless here. Therefore, where they are, we will think it is the most secure place, which is why everyone will feel particularly secure when they get home. And why do you want to return to the New Year? This is just a form formed under the accumulation of culture.
"Home" is one of the souls of our Chinese culture. The country is everyone, and home is a small family. No matter whether you are in a foreign land for a long time or in a foreign country, Chinese children miss their relatives every festive season.
My mother died of a heart attack when I was three years old, and my father married and gave birth to a younger sister.
He was in the south when he was in kindergarten and elementary school. I usually live in the teacher's house, neighbor's house, relatives' house and friends' house. Several north-south transfer schools. Junior high school came to settle in the south, and it didn't take ten minutes to walk from home to school, but he arranged for me to stay. After a few days of staying, I began to get sick, so I retired and stayed at home for three years in junior high school, but basically I went into my bedroom when I got home and came out after dinner. I wash my own bowls and clothes. When they buy snacks, they divide my part and put it on my bedside. I can't eat too much. Once I was scolded for eating half a can of eight-treasure porridge in the refrigerator because I had to go to the school orchestra to perform in the morning (I don't like eating eight-treasure porridge at all). In the second year of high school, they went to Shandong to settle down, and they filled in their volunteers when they entered the university. When I was in high school, someone once called my father. After I connected the phone, the other party said "Jia Jia" (my sister's name). I said I was Monroe, and the other party was stunned and said that it was not Jia Jia. I was looking for your father. Many people think that we are a family of three and don't know my existence. I came to Shenzhen in 26 when I was in college, and I have never been home.
From childhood to adulthood, there are many sad things. During the Dragon Boat Festival, the teacher asked each student to bring two dumplings wrapped at home. I went to the dining hall and bought two. When I was placed under the fence, I was asked by that person to pick up the jiaozi on the ground and eat it. When I quarreled with my classmates, I was told not to think that you would let you go without your mother. There were countless such things. I didn't know how to get along with others, which led to losses in college and society. It was difficult to have close friends.
Going home for the New Year is a family reunion in other places. It is a day when we look forward to meeting again for a year or many years when we are away from home. It is the support of our spirit, the warmth that we are most eager for when we are prosperous, and the freedom to get rid of the shackles of the cold city and return to nature.
I wrote it when I lived in the stairwell next to the boiler room one year. I wrote something every New Year, and then I turned it out on New Year's Eve and thought about my life. On the other side of Erdaowan, Xingfu Road, Urumqi, I forgot whether it was the terminal of No.2 or No.17 bus. After crossing a small slope on the road, the narrow alley entered, and the house was built into a circle, all of which were separated into single rooms for rent. The landlord is a Hui nationality, and now I don't know if there are any more. There are many reasons, if summed up in one word, it is probably: dissatisfaction. No matter you are dissatisfied with your present situation, your family, or the fact that you are dissatisfied but unable to change, you are dissatisfied. In essence, not going home for the New Year is unwilling to have something in common with opening a homecoming meeting. What is worse than the homecoming meeting is the question of not going home. I don't have absolute autonomy. I miss my parents, feel lonely when I am away during the festive season, the guidance of public opinion and the condemnation of psychology and morality make this decision difficult to make and painful to implement. People are different, and so are families and families. There are parents and families who love their children and understand their children, parents and families who are eager for fame and gain, laughing and laughing, and sometimes they can tell a white lie if they don't return-especially when they are outside like a dog or even worse than a dog, it is a relief for both sides to call and pretend to be busy (helpless) and tell them that they can't go back. Of course, you can go back or not, even if you leave after the first day. People's life is only a few decades, and the chances of being able to stay with their parents for the New Year will be reduced by half or more. No one knows when they will be able to return home in splendor. If they wait too long, no amount of success can make up for their guilt. Finally, it is good to have self-esteem, but don't stick to your self-esteem too much and miss many things more important than self-esteem. These words may not be understood by younger people, and I believe you will understand them gradually. I hope everyone who can't go back this year can try to go back next year and the year after. If the bus doesn't stop at the station and the ship doesn't stop at the port, what can we talk about before we start? Without a starting point, there is no end.
why do you have to go home for the new year? Hometown's home, hometown's clouds, hometown's water and hometown's people are intoxicating, warm, so amiable and full of memories, which makes us full of different happiness and satisfaction.
why do you have to go home for Chinese New Year? Being in a prosperous hometown with high-rise buildings, I hope to go home for the New Year to see the changes in my hometown, the changes in my hometown roads, the changes in the rural landscape, and the changes in my alma mater. I dare not hope that they will change too fast, for fear that I will not recognize them. I dare not hope that they will change too slowly, for fear that they will remain poor and backward.
Taking psychology courses at university, including brushing Zhihu over the years, made me deeply aware of how some of my characteristics came from. Although I have been able to look at the past objectively and know that everyone has their own difficulties, I don't want to hate them, and I have tried to approach them actively, but I am really powerless. My father was good, but he changed his temperament because of too many changes, and he used a wrong way of education. I was just a child at that time and didn't know how to change the relationship. His wife is also good, but she was just a little girl in her twenties with little experience, so she didn't know how to get along with me. It's just that I did suffer a lot in this environment, and I will feel sad when I recall it. One reason why I suddenly realized in college is that it is normal to say that my stepmother is not good in literature, film and television works. How can a woman feel good when she has to face her beloved man and her beloved children all day?
Men are drinking and punching around the dining table, while women are arranging dishes in the kitchen to clean up the stove. The old man and the children are sitting on one side, waiting for the men to finish their meal.
The child sniffed the rice and cried for hunger. The old man put a few pieces of meat from the pot and fed it to the child, saying: Adults can't serve children when they eat.
The child felt the smell of meat and understood it, so he sat aside and looked at the men on the table.
Erni leans back in the chair and plays with her mobile phone. I don't go to see the men who drink and brag on the table, and I don't care about the obedient children.
honestly, Ernie, don't bring those smelly problems outside home.
Last year, Ernie told her father how nice it was for men and women to have dinner together. Dad glared at her as if she had lost face in front of relatives.
This year, Erni is not going to say anything.
In the circle of friends, some people have a reunion dinner, some eat a big meal at home, some eat out in restaurants, and some eat seafood at the seaside in Sanya.
Erni remembered the joke in her circle of friends again. I really want to go to that friend's state and reply: I'm not without the internet, but I'm not in the mood.
I think this reply is another meaningless spoof or comfort. Forget it.
either close your eyes or shut your mouth.
erni chose to keep her mouth shut.
After eating, men sit at one side of the room to smoke and chat, while women, old people and children go to the table to eat the leftovers.
Mother gave Ernie a push and said reproachfully, This girl, why are you so sad during the New Year? She always looks at that broken mobile phone, so eat quickly! It's getting cold for a while.
got it, mom. Erni put away her mobile phone and moved to the dining table.
it's already cold. She thought to herself.
He came to Shenzhen to see me once last year. I really can't get along with him like father and daughter. He is like a strange middle-aged uncle to me. He should have felt it, too. When he got back, he wrote a long letter, telling the story from the time he met my mother to the time I grew up, and apologizing for the way he treated me in those years. I would cry every time I read it, but I still couldn't get close to it after that. < P > Why do I have to go home for the New Year? "Being a stranger in a foreign land, I miss my relatives twice every festive season". If you are in a foreign country, you can better understand the strong yearning for your hometown and relatives in Wang Wei's poems. Home is the place where he was born and bred. No matter how long the trees are, the roots will always be the safest, most selfless and most reliable backing.
why do you have to go home for Chinese New Year? Because there are too many relatives, too many memories, simple customs, cheerful running water, the smell of cooking smoke, the laughter of family celebrations, the festive atmosphere of the year, the happy New Year and the vision to welcome the new year.
to be honest, what do people want in this life? Life, love, money, or whatever. In my opinion, the most important thing to cherish is your own life. Everyone wants to live in this colorful world, no matter how rich or poor, whether in cities or villages, whether in prosperity or adversity; Whether we are in our native land or wandering in a foreign land, when we calm down, we will be grateful to the person who gave you life and brought you into this world. "I miss my parents twice during the festive season", and my parents are as kind as a mountain! Once parents are gone, how can they be redeemed? One year has passed in a hurry, and there are more than four monsoon rains. The person who loves you the most is always looking forward to your return and reunion. For family, for filial piety, for Do not forget your initiative mind, for tracing back to the source, for remembering homesickness ... Go home for the New Year if you have money! Rivers, lakes and seas, distant mountains are calling!
A friend forwarded a joke: It's the Spring Festival, why can't you see the food, co-pilot and reading circle of friends sent by Jony, Eric, Viven and Cindy? Did you go back to your hometown and become Cui Hua, smiles send us light, swallow, Ernie, and the dog left? Why not send a circle of friends? Is there no net in my hometown?
with a wry smile, she turned off the screen, thought about it, turned on the phone again, and turned on the airplane mode.
She has a common name that is neither stunning nor rustic, which was given by her parents. When someone calls her that, she is a girl of flesh and blood and character.
She also has an English name that was originally very foreign, but was later called rotten by the paragraph hand, which was casually coined by herself when she joined the company. When someone called her that, she was a beautiful white-collar worker at the age of 28.
She is the Cindy who always appears in jokes. After getting off the bus, everyone will call her Ernie or Liu Jia Ernie.
she knows that when someone calls her that, she is nothing, and she is nothing more every year.
Liu Erni can't work, Liu Erni can't make clothes, Liu Erni doesn't earn any money when she goes to town, Liu Erni can't wait on men, and Liu Erni is almost thirty and has no object yet.
But the Chinese New Year is coming, Liu Erni must go home, with steaming homesickness, carrying a heavy plastic-sealed roast duck, putting on a thick cotton-padded coat, smiling with a little tears, and returning to this land where she was born, raised and missed.
When the bus stopped, Cindy officially changed her name, smiled and shouted Happy New Year to the driver, got out of the car and strode towards the old house.
who says there is no internet? the internet speed is very fast. It's just that I have nothing to share.
it's Chinese new year, ah, it's Chinese new year again.