Sister Mei, who is 38 years old and has been married for 15 years, told me her story.

fifteen years ago, just after graduating from college, she knew her boss who was five years older than her, and soon fell in love. At that time, everyone was not optimistic about office romance, but after a year of love, Mei Jie got married happily.

After getting married and getting pregnant, Sister Mei quit her job and worked full-time at home to have a baby. After three years and two births, Mei Jie devoted herself to taking care of the children at home. After the eldest daughter went to kindergarten and the younger son could walk, she wanted to go to work, but found that she could not find a suitable job at all. Moreover, the cost of hiring a nanny is not low, and I am not at ease when I ask my mother-in-law to bring it. After consulting with her husband, Sister Mei began to live as a housewife.

In those years, my husband's career was on the rise, and the children slept dishonestly, and they had to get up and make trouble almost every hour at night. In order to ensure her husband's sleep, she offered to sleep in separate beds.

In the first few years, my husband's career was good, he was not short of money, and he often loved Sister Mei. But later, my husband's company's benefits became worse and worse, and his income became less and less, while his family's expenses became bigger and bigger. Sometimes, when Mei Jie wants to buy something, her husband will turn his face and scold her for not being a housekeeper, thinking that the money is blown by the strong wind.

Sister Mei, who has no economic income, will complain at first and argue with him, saying that housewives are not so easy to be. Later, I didn't even bother to argue. Since you are the father of the child and my husband, you have the obligation to pay for our life.

Under this concept, Mei Jie and her husband went from sleeping in separate beds to a completely asexual marriage. For nearly six years, they have never been married.

At the beginning, Mei Jie thought that her husband was a love rat, a man who had no skills and only blamed his wife for being useless. Later, when I was reading my daughter's homework, I saw in her composition "My Mom and Dad" that "Mom is a useless woman, who will only scold my brother and me and ask Dad for money and flowers", while "Dad is very hard and comes home late every day". Mei Jie felt that she had been feeding the dog for so many years, but on second thought, there seemed nothing wrong with her daughter's description.

Although there are many trivial things in the life of a housewife, it's not that she has no time at all. It's just that she chats more on WeChat groups or watches dramas on her mobile phone. The cooking is basically a few years, and there is no innovation. Although it is said that clothes are washed by hand and the floor is dragged every day, there is no good face. I often scold my husband for neglecting my family and my children for disobedience.

Sister Mei said that the key for a woman to get filial piety from her children and love from her husband lies in how you do it yourself. From a painful experience, I feel that if this continues, only Mei Jie, who ended up divorced, began her own transformation process.

In the family eating and drinking, I downloaded a lot of delicious food software, spent the time of playing drama and gossiping, carefully cooked the delicious food that children like, and learned more and more home cooking. Although there was a period of dark cooking at first, slowly, the children became more and more obedient, and even the husband who had not had dinner at home for many years often came home from work to eat on time.

to lock a man's heart, you must first learn to lock a man's stomach. Most men are afraid to go home, often because they can only eat leftovers when they go home. On second thought, intrigue in the workplace during the day to earn some money, and go home at night without even hot meals and hot dishes, even if his wife is exhausted at home for a day, can he feel the same way? I just feel that she is incompetent.

Sister Mei also began to tidy up her external image. Although she said that she stayed at home almost every day, she no longer just wore home clothes, but occasionally went out to have her hair done, treated her personal maintenance and paid attention to it. Even, sometimes I will deliberately ask my husband on WeChat whether a skirt looks good or not. Although he is not very enthusiastic, every day when he comes back from work, he gradually smiles at the corners of his mouth when he sees how clean she is. Even, sometimes I will tease her and say whether she is going to do live broadcast.

A man is still a visual animal. Even if he has been with him for more than ten years, he wants you to be beautiful. At least, once or twice occasionally, it is a beautiful thing to remind him of his attitude when he was in love.

The housewife's mentality is very important. After her mentality was reversed, Sister Mei started the road of self-improvement and self-improvement. Although my husband always said that she didn't need to make money, when she really made some small achievements in writing and gained some benefits from writing from the media, her husband said that she didn't like it, but her attitude towards Mei Jie obviously changed a lot.

In marriage, men don't really need you to earn much money, but more often, they want you to feel the same way. Instead of treating men as ATMs, he wants you to understand that making money is not easy.

Sister Mei said that after so many years of asexual marriage, it took her less than half a year to solve it. I thought that when the children were older, they could only get divorced. Now, her marriage is alive again, and her husband is full of interest in her again.

actually, things in marriage are far from so difficult. When you find that there is something wrong with your marriage, you can definitely find the reason. As long as you admit it boldly and solve it with your heart, there will always be a beautiful spring.