Focusing on the social topic of "family of origin", once "In the Name of Family" was broadcast, the popularity kept rising. After suffering the pain brought by family of origin, three half-children and their two fathers formed a new family, and they were not related by blood. The story happened in dad Li's small noodle restaurant. "Good old man" Li Dad not only has to raise his daughter Li Jianjian alone, but also takes care of his son He who was abandoned by his blind date. Ling Xiao lived on the top floor of Li Jianjian in the name of his family. Because his parents lost their little daughter, he spent many days and nights arguing with his parents. In the end, mother Chen Ting chose to divorce and left home alone. In this way, Li Dad and Ling Dad jointly raised their three children. In this new family, there are trivial daily necessities and the warmth of mutual companionship. They are hurt by family relations, but they are also happy by family relations. This drama is a group image of post-90s life, from which we can find countless shadows of our own families.
Friends say that their deep sense of powerlessness when they quarrel is a feeling they will never forget. One more word to either side is adding fuel to the fire. Parents' quarrel is a contradiction that will appear in most families. Even trivial things can be used to stir up a few words. But sometimes, such an environment or improper handling of problems will bring deep harm to children.
The handling of family relations in the play resonated with the audience.
When we grow up, we can learn some ways to deal with family relations. If we can't interfere, we can give our parents some space to solve their own problems. Face up to the problem and learn to reconcile with yourself when you feel powerless. Maybe the shadow will be illuminated by the sun. For thousands of years, China parents' earnest expectation is that their children will succeed and their daughters will succeed. "I don't want to go to cram school this weekend." "You should study hard and work hard. We can't live up to our hard work. Parents put all their efforts into their children's education by self-sacrifice. In the Chinese educational environment, such a situation is not uncommon. In the play, Li Jianjian's classmate Qi grew up under strict education, and her mother had a strong desire for control. She is afraid to choose and be accused, but she has excellent grades and decent manners, and she has also become a "child of other people's families." Sometimes, the "painstaking efforts" of parents may be the biggest motivation for children to move forward, or they may become a heavy mental shackle, and the rights and wrongs need to be analyzed in detail.
Let us understand the truth of life.
When we are not understood, we often make habitual choices, and we will not reveal our emotions to our parents or communicate with them about the current situation. But in fact, no one can be absent from a healthy family relationship. We can try to communicate with our parents by telling stories; You can talk to your friends first to relieve the pressure, and then talk to your parents calmly about the difficulties; You can also ask others for help, so that your parents can know and understand you from another angle. There are many ways. No matter what the problem is, having relatives is a kind of luck in itself, and we should try our best to maintain this inseparable feeling. More empathy, more understanding and mutual tolerance may make family relations more harmonious. There are still many family problems that have happened or may be happening. How to correctly handle family relations has long puzzled countless family members.
Limited by past experience, we may feel isolated and confused when dealing with some family problems. At this time, asking for help from others may lead you to find a way to break this situation. No matter which fork in the road you are standing at now, Youmeng will always help you behind you. In addition, we have prepared special topics related to family relations for you in the video course, and there is a growth coach to support you! No matter how to define "family", what happens, love is the constant fetter of family, and affection is the most sincere emotion in the world. May we all reconcile with the problems of the past, heal each other with our families and embrace the future.