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? Cowherd's ability, the average person can't stand it. I just heard it, but I didn't see it myself.

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Life needs novelty, but our life can't escape repetition.

Xiaomi always thinks that her husband has no interest, and his mouth is always full of those hard "uh-huh, oh, ah".

When the children's grades drop, the husband says "hmm";

When my mother comes to see her grandson next month, he says "Oh";

Xiaomi said that he just bought a LV bag. He said, "Huh?" .

You know, chatting is a woman's nature. Gossiping about a piece of wood makes Xiaomi feel like dying.

when I think of the endless love stories when my husband chased her, it seems to be a joke today.

Almost all married women hate third parties, fearing that they can't compete with each other. However, after the object was changed to "women who lost their feet", they stopped worrying. Although all men pay for it, the latter is just taking part in accidental amusement, but the former is not necessarily true, and there are often real feelings.

If you want to hear a good word, there is another job called Cowherd (including gigolo). That is not the husband of the Weaver Girl, but a "slip man".

Cowherd not only can't say "uh-huh, oh, ah", but also chooses what you like to say according to your mood, dress, talk and generosity, whether it's powerful, warm-hearted or cold-hearted.

But a cowherd is a cowherd, and it costs you money. If you spend money once, I will give you a nice talk. If you are lucky enough to meet someone who doesn't spend money, he is probably in love with you.

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A husband is a husband. What kind of bike do you want?

Xiaomi's husband, who runs a company, has always had good benefits. They have known each other for 1 years, been married for 8 years, and Xiaomi has been a full-time wife for 7 years. Her husband never asked her to go out to work and offered her as an empress.

Xiaomi pays great attention to the quality of life. She will choose those with quality clothes, shoes and cosmetics, but her husband never opposes it and encourages it. He said that he was usually too busy to spend time with his wife, and the money he earned was spent on his wife, so he was sorry if he didn't spend it.

There are always two or three times a month. My husband will leave the children with his family, go out with Xiaomi to find food, watch movies and go shopping, and arrange trips at least twice a year. Life is not moist.

However, after a long time, Xiaomi always feels that there is something missing in his life ...

Except for his company two or three times a month, he can't see his husband at ordinary times. He is too busy. After staying at home for too long, Xiaomi felt that he was out of touch with society. Now that the child is in primary school and spends a lot of time during the day, she feels empty.

My husband also invited her to take care of something in the company, but she didn't want to. I want to get back to my old job, only to find that the environment has changed greatly and I am no longer competitive. She is annoyed, but she doesn't know how to solve it.

can my husband solve this problem?

on TV, yes. The husband of a giant cow will tailor your life trajectory, and with the support of countless resources, you will be rejuvenated and reach the peak of your life immediately.

but is that possible?

impossible, the husband can only solve the problems he can solve.

If you want something, your husband can give it to you. Are you not a queen?

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There is such a story in Teacher Cai Kangyong's Speak Well.

The truth of this world is that everyone lives in his own world.

Zi Yu and A Nan are lovers, but they still live in their own world even in the most intimate and inseparable time.

On the night when a man stepped on a mine in his investment and lost 5, yuan, if Zi Yu happened to have a stomachache because of dysmenorrhea, then no matter how hard they care about each other, what really hurts them most is their respective pain points-A man's 5, yuan and Zi Yu's stomach.

This story happened to me, too. When I lost my cold sweat in the stock market, I pretended to be calm and chatted with my wife. Who knows what I said in my mouth at that time. All I can think about is what to do if I lose so much.

It's like talking to your husband. Next door, Xiao Wang's wife bought a new LV bag, but her husband is thinking about what the company can do to improve its performance this month. You share with him how fresh the food you bought today is. He is thinking about saving money and making some investment ... < P > We all live in our own world.

However, everyone's world should not be closed.

we are different from our lover, because we need each other, so we have an intersection. However, I don't know from which day on, we don't want to go to ta's world, and ta doesn't want to come to ours. Our intersection is getting smaller and smaller until there is nothing to say.

when we have nothing to say, we don't need each other. Note that ta doesn't need you anymore.

If you only want to expand your world, it's called spiritual aggression. Invaders, such as Japan, are not good for a long time. Only bilateral trade (communication) is popular with everyone.

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However, communication can't solve contradictions,

before both husband and wife understand the true meaning of communication.

do you remember that after every quarrel, you finally calmed down and wanted to have a deep communication with ta? But after chatting for a while, you find that communication can't go on.

Is your usual sentence pattern: "Husband (wife), I'm sorry, I was wrong just now, but if it weren't for you …"?

looking for an excuse and never admitting your mistake is also called communication? It's called preparing gunpowder for the next quarrel that will take place soon.

communication is when you come and go and reach an agreement. Just listen to me and don't contradict me. That's an order.

For example, my wife borrows 1, yuan from you and says that her brother wants to buy a house, but you say no, and we have to pay back the mortgage.

Your wife thinks she is very reasonable. It's human nature to help her brother. If she has the ability, she can certainly help.

For example, if you want to spend 2, yuan on a car, and your wife says no, you are vain.

you think you are very reasonable, because in your line of work, a car represents strength, and changing to a good car can bring more business.

everyone thinks they are reasonable, so they have to quarrel.

the first condition of communication is acceptance and equality.

the correct way to communicate should be to give up your own inherent ideas, listen carefully to the other party's opinions, know what ta really wants to say, and then see if he can solve it. Tell the solution if you can solve it, and tell the reason if you can't.

so, after a quarrel, there is usually an apology. Admitting a mistake is not just saying sorry foolishly, it is also a communication, and the correct way of communication should be adopted.

Admit your mistake, admit it for no reason, let go of your anger, give up your own ideas, listen carefully to the other party's opinions, and find out the fundamental points that the other party is most concerned about.

It's true that an elder sister cares about her younger brother; Buying a car is also right. If there is enough money, no problem; If it is not enough, then there is a weight, before and after. If you don't want them all, you have to quarrel.

The husband told his wife to buy a car first, and as soon as the business came up, the money would come back, and the younger brother would also have the money to buy a house. Give your wife a time to wait, she will understand. You didn't agree from the beginning and didn't give a solution. You wanted her to suppress her alive.

if a wife supports her husband, encourages him to buy a car and do business, and borrows some money from him, won't her husband feel comfortable?

people who quarrel simply don't listen to each other, but only talk about themselves. So you find that those who stand on the street and scold each other are unreasonable aunts, or two stupid men who blush and lose their minds. Because people who can understand each other can often reach an agreement quickly, if the road is different, they will immediately go their separate ways, and what will they talk about?

My wife said that sometimes it bothers me because she can't quarrel with me. No matter how noisy she is, I just don't quarrel with her. In fact, there is nothing to quarrel about between the two couples. If I am wrong, I will admit my mistake. If she is wrong, let her vent and calm down, and then we will communicate. Her views are based on her three views, which are formed by decades of life experience, knowledge and experience. If I want to convince her, it is to change her decades of history and experience. More importantly, quarreling is trying to persuade her and suppress her emotions. The best way to solve this problem is to make it not happen.

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This couple, like a lock and a key, are matched.

when they got married, they were all bitches and mung beans, and they took a fancy to it. Even if it is forced, it is the best choice at the moment. You and ta are both two pieces of metal of the same size. in order to find that key, you endured being punched in the body; He endured most of his physical defects in order to find your lock.

the weakness of a husband (wife) is your marriage point.

we all give up part of what we have for what we want. Please note that it is a part, not all. Give up everything, and you will not have yourself.

often what we want is something that we can't solve, just because the other person has it; And what we have is just what each other wants. If everyone else has it, will they still need us?

If flowers are inserted in cow dung, the cow dung must be particularly fertile, with extremely high gold content. What we often see on TV is a Cinderella story. If Cinderella is extremely ugly and has a bad temper, will there be this story? Cow dung also has the right to choose. If the flower is wrong, it will choose another one.

as much as we pay, we will get much. this is heaven. What we can't get is because we didn't give. Therefore, a girl who thinks her husband has no interest and doesn't listen to her gossip may be greedy for her husband's family's money; If he can coax girls and has money, he will probably find a girl with more taste.

if the lock is changed, the best way is to turn yourself into another key.

what if the body lock is sick?

of course, look for the key of spirit, change your way of thinking and your living habits, where is the disease?