On the eve of Christmas in 214, I received a blessing from England. Jasper, a good friend of Bear, was in middle school with his mother in England. His letter reminds me of a memory ... In March, 211, Bear made up a vacation for the school sports meeting, and the mother and son visited Huabo with the goal of Yuanshan Park. ? Mother J, the neighbor, also brought Ja, the bear's good friend. On the eve of Christmas in 214, I received a blessing from England. Jasper, the bear's good friend, was in middle school with her mother in England. His letter reminds me of a memory ... In March, 211, Bear made up a vacation for the school sports meeting, and the mother and son visited Huabo with the goal of Yuanshan Park. ? Mother J, the neighbor, also went with Jasper, the bear's good friend. Two third-grade boys opened their eyes to admire orchids from all over the world in the Zhengyan Pavilion, and ate Huabo cuisine on the east side. Next, they went to see the FE EcoArk built by recycling 1.52 million bottles of Baote. J's mother is a working mother, and she is on special leave today. She took Jasper, her only child, to see Huabo for the first time. She is very casual, and she doesn't have the ambition to see many scenic spots at once, and neither do I. My goal is only to visit the Yuanshan Park. So we walked slowly and saw a lot of perfume lilies, cyclamen, tricolor Jin and Wuzhu …? Go out at 8 o'clock in the morning, and it's almost 2 o'clock in the afternoon after watching the ark? Two mothers' legs were really sore, so they sat in front of the maze flower wall in Morning glory and watched two energetic boys running around in the flowers. J's mother sighed lightly and said, "It's nice to sit here and look after the flowers and children without thinking about anything else! It was really rare, and we started chatting and talked about what happened after two little boys were hours. ? Jasper was born in England, and has lived in Oxford campus since childhood. Both parents are doing research at Oxford University. Mom J said that the couple had been married for a long time and had no children. They probably liked the British environment. They moved to Oxford from the United States for more than a year and gave birth to Jasper, who was still a researcher at that time. ? "My boss gave me a whole year's parental leave, and I didn't have to work for a whole year and got full pay! "J mother said with a smile. ? I listened, incredibly wide-eyed. ? Mom J continued, "I went back to work a year later, but about two and a half months later, I left again … because Jasper didn't adapt to the nursery, I couldn't bear to see him crying often, so I decided to take care of the children myself." Although my boss was reluctant to part with me, he still blessed me and sent me away. 」 ? What a rare good boss ... Next, tell her a different experience:? Eight months after Bear was born, I got a new job, a well-known foreign company, with a high salary as a manager. During the interview, I told my new boss (a married and childless fashion beauty) that I need to breastfeed regularly when I go to work, and I will ask for leave if the child has something to do; She readily agreed and said that she could understand. ? But this is not the case; My colleagues in the company are very strange about my milking, and often advise me to buy milk powder. To make matters worse, getting off work on time will be scolded by the boss. She said:? "Look at Manager M (an unmarried lady) next door. She joined the company at the same time as you and didn't get off work until 1 o'clock every day ... Should you reflect? 」 ? But why stay in the company after the business is finished? The boss's statement is: there should always be other busy business! ? ? One day, the boss finally opened fire, because one day I had to ask for leave to take care of the children. ? At that time, the bear took care of her mother-in-law during the day. Her mother-in-law was a devout Buddhist. She told me in advance that there was a non-holiday every month, and I had to ask for leave because she was going to the temple to worship the Buddha all day. She said it was very important and told me not to forget to ask for leave to take care of the children! ? I did the same and told my boss about it in advance. At that time, my boss was noncommittal. Unfortunately, I once asked for a holiday, just the day before the company's annual meeting? I hurried to finish the report first, but the boss didn't think it was good enough, and there were still some places to be revised. ? So I told her, "Although I will ask for leave tomorrow, I will still take my children into the company to deal with it. Please Email me the data to be corrected, and it will be corrected immediately! 」 ? The next day, I really took the bear who was still learning to crawl into the company. Colleagues teased him curiously, while I changed the slide in my seat … At this moment, the boss appeared with a livid face, and she asked me to hold the bear and talk with her in the conference room. ? As soon as I entered the conference room, the bear crawled around and played. I will never forget the way the boss looked at the bear: she squinted, just like watching flies flying on rotten meat, and how disgusted she was when she said not enough! She began to take a breath and said to me forbearingly: "Do you know that tomorrow is a big day for the company? You want to take a leave of absence? Finally, you brought your children to the company? What a shame! 」 ? I explained to her the background that my mother-in-law can't take care of the children, and she also asks for leave early. ? But she didn't want to accept it, just said with an attitude of trying to solve the hot potato quickly. "You should find a licensed babysitter! The kind that doesn't take time off with the poop … anyway, your mother-in-law doesn't help with the children for free, so since everyone has to pay, find a professional one! Do it tomorrow! 」 ? It is worthy of being the elite of foreign companies who have been rolling around for many years. Solving things cleanly and to the point! It's just that professional nannies don't just snap a finger and appear at your side at any time; And how do you say to your mother-in-law who takes good care of her children: You want to change your babysitter just because she has to pay homage to Buddha once a month, so taking care of her children is not serious enough and professional enough? ? So I regret to realize that this is not a family-friendly and working-mother-friendly enterprise ... Soon after, Papa Bear decided to go abroad to study. Although my parents-in-law wanted me to stay in Taiwan Province to continue making money, as long as they took care of the children, I decided to go out together. ? I introduced a friend R to take my seat, and the boss kindly said goodbye to me. ? A few months later, I asked R if everything went well at work. R said loudly:? "You said this boss is very kind to you ... I'd say she is really a two-faced person! You don't know how ugly she said about you … especially when she took the children to work! 」 ? I can only smile when I hear this. Because this kind of boss is not a special case, she is just a miniature of many bosses. After many years, when I returned to Taiwan Province again, was the enterprise better for my family and working mother? I once read an article about family-friendly enterprises, which mentioned that there is a law firm in Taiwan Province, where working mothers don't have to fight internally, because the office has a baby-care mechanism, so that work and child-rearing are no longer parallel lines that are difficult to meet. The person in charge of this enterprise said: "Enterprises must be able to take care of colleagues and society at the same time. I look down on profit-making enterprises. Our company is trying to challenge the mainstream! 」 ? When I saw this report, I thought: It's a pity that I can't work in this company, and it's a pity that there can't be more such business owners. ? However, I believe that Taiwan Province will make progress gradually. At least, I will return to my first job in Taiwan Province, where many working mothers are very happy, and the boss is very respectful and considerate of their feelings and difficulties. ? Sincerely expect that there will be more family-friendly enterprises in Taiwan Province, and also expect more empathetic and soft-hearted bosses. * This article was published under the authorization of the family in a beautiful place: Little Bear Tribe, and it is forbidden to reprint

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