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Recently, the variety show "Chinese Restaurant 4" was launched as scheduled, and the manager Huang Xiaoming returned strongly together with the new financial director Zhao Liying. No sooner had the ship's restaurant opened than Zhao Liying was scolded for hot search. It's a bad start.

In the picture, Huang Xiaoming, Zhao Liying, Sean and other five people are having dinner together. But one of Zhao Liying's actions was caught by a busybody: the chopsticks were pulled in the bowl. As a result, the overwhelming comments were hurled at Zhao Liying.

Some people say, "Chopsticks are stained with saliva ..." Others say, "I just have no quality. I have been rummaging for a long time, and I don't know what I am looking for. I want to slap my face when I eat with such people." .....

it's really speechless. Everyone eats together, and a normal dish-picking action can be scolded, which should not happen. Maybe it's the leftover bottom of the dish, so as not to waste it, I just fished it. Or maybe the vegetable block is too small and needs to be pulled to find it. In short, there is nothing wrong with it.

But this incident was infinitely magnified by netizens, who mocked her for being rude, uneducated and from the countryside. This makes Sean, the chef who eats at the same table, very unbearable. Then, in their own Weibo voice, this just blocked the mouth of some people.

Sean wrote: "These 21 days have been hard and stressful. We help each other and have fun in hardships. Of course, there is no shortage of delicious food. Some dishes are cut too small by our kitchen, and the slightly larger ingredients are eaten first by our grandfathers, and the containers are deep. Plus, the dishes are really delicious, so everyone is not willing to waste them! But our staff dining ladies are really much more elegant than us strong men. "

I didn't want to waste it before. Only the people present know the truth, and only by a few clips, they simply and rudely jump to conclusions and attack people. In fact, this kind of people are just picky, jealous, and happy for a while.

It's like a line in the movie "Love for Liberal Arts": "You think criticizing things makes you look cool, but it's not. You're bored."

they don't care what the truth is, so they take it out of context. Perhaps it is because verbal violence is too cost-free, so open your mouth and come. But has it ever occurred to you that your thoughtless and angry words will cause great mental harm to the parties concerned? Whether in real life or in film and television dramas, this phenomenon is everywhere.

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In the hit drama Nothing But Thirty, Zhong Xiaoqin, the marketing manager who works in a large shopping mall property company, was subjected to cyber violence.

Originally, Zhong Xiaoqin was making a routine inspection in a shopping mall. At a shoe store counter, she saw a female customer making a big noise at the shop assistant, pointing to a pair of worn-out shoes and asking if it was fake. Angry, like a wild animal trying to eat people.

Zhong Xiaoqin hastened to mediate. Unexpectedly, the female customer didn't buy it, so she reached out and pushed the shop assistant. In the chaos, Zhong Xiaoqin pulled a stunt, which happened to be recorded by onlookers and posted online, claiming that large shopping malls sold fakes and led people to beat people.

The video of Zhong Xiaoqin's beating people went on a hot search. Affected by it, not only was the property leader persuaded to go home, but he was also besieged on the bus.

What's even more frightening is that it has risen to intimidation, extortion of human flesh and mailing packages of dead birds. Zhong Xiaoqin was in a state of anxiety all day long, and even his parents were implicated in this and had to take refuge in relatives' homes.

fearing that the world would be in chaos, they began to denounce it on the internet before the situation was fully understood. Under the banner of speaking out for the victims, it seems to be fighting for justice, but in fact it is malicious speculation.

Also, at the large-scale party of "Youth Mango Night" two days ago, Wan Qian was the host and He Jiong, the gold medal host, co-hosted. For the first time, Wan Qian was a little nervous.

But many good people start to find fault. It is said that Wan Qian not only presided over stuttering, but also "grabbed words" with He Jiong: It is an honor to host the party with Wan Qian. Wan Qian answered with a smile: Yes.

In order to verify whether it is true or not, I read it carefully again, but I didn't find anything that Wan Qian stuttered, and I didn't find anything wrong when I answered He Jiong's sentence, which was naturally followed.

If you insist on saying something wrong, Wan Qian is really a little nervous, and when he answers the words, he is a little quick and is mistaken for immodest. Strictly speaking, it is the over-interpretation of Keyboard Man.

papi sauce once said in Weibo: "There will always be a group of crazy people who are picky on the Internet and around them. They can find out what others say, and they think there is something wrong with what others do. I really don't know if there are too many points that can offend them, or if picking out other people's faults can make them feel superior. "

to put it bluntly, these people have malicious intentions. They never put themselves in the other's shoes. How would the client feel if he were himself? Be kind when you are born. Being tolerant of others is actually letting yourself go.

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Similarly, in Nothing But Thirty's plays, Xiao Sanlin was reviled by fans. In the end, it rose to attack Zhang Yue, the actor who played Lin Youyou, which added infinite distress to her. At one time, Weibo's comments were closed for seven days, but after seven days, people still "came here to scold".

Although Zhang Yue made the same denunciation of "Lin Youyou" in Weibo, hoping to arouse empathy and make himself less harassed and abused, he still couldn't calm down and completely became the "scapegoat" of the role.

this is not just about getting into the play too deeply. As an adult, if you can't even distinguish between drama and reality and can't control your emotions, are you really naive, or are you just a picky person?

In the play, Lin You really deserves to be scolded. She destroyed the happy family of Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan, resulting in their divorce, the explosion of fireworks factory, Xu Huanshan's imprisonment, and the loss of all his possessions, but it is by no means a reason to go to Weibo, Zhang Yue to scold.

Good acting skills are not respected, but humiliated. This is the most chilling thing for actors. It is conceivable that who will want to play the villain in the future?

If you can't let it go, you can think about it from another angle: Zhang Yue's acting skills are good, and she can give a shock and warning to girls who want to get the upper position without effort, so that they can stop their losses in time. Because the outcome of mistress is not good, she is either abandoned or her life is in danger.

in fact, "she" is just a person's design to adjust the ups and downs of the plot. After all, every drama should use negative or gray people to set off the growth of positive characters. Otherwise, there would be nothing wonderful in the play.

every negative person's design is the most important point for the audience to think about, with the purpose of giving people enlightenment: the distorted three views will pay for themselves sooner or later. This is the real purpose of writers and actors playing negative roles.

When watching a play, swearing is a normal emotional reaction, which is understandable, but when you go to the actor Weibo to scold, there is something wrong with your character or psychology.

Most of the time, this picky "keyboard man" is not ignorant of this truth, but relies on suppressing others to raise himself. In the final analysis, it is to find a sense of accomplishment for inner inferiority.

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Alfred Adler, a famous psychologist, believes that many people who love to find fault with others have a deep sense of inferiority, low self-evaluation and inner timidity, so they need to find fault with others to gain psychological advantages. Although this kind of self-deception and boasting by language is annoying, it can give them a sense of strength and stability in their hearts to "save" a little self-esteem.

this is undoubtedly "one thousand injuries to the enemy, eight hundred self-losses". It's a sign of futility.

It is true that the rapid development of the Internet has brought unexpected convenience to people's lives, but it has also given them too much freedom and casualness. Because there is no cost, it is easier to become a window for keyboard man to vent his emotions and show his superiority.

Just like attacking Zhao Liying in Chinese Restaurant, this kind of abnormal psychology will hurt yourself sooner or later.

Of course, there are also many good phenomena happening. For example, not long ago, a bus in Guizhou broke through the railing and fell into the river. Before the official gave the truth, netizens waited rationally and did not make any unfavorable remarks, for fear of causing secondary harm to the parties and their families.

Even if the parties are at fault or guilty, please be merciful and don't use malicious language to attack. Everyone has both good and evil sides, just like a coin. Be more tolerant, give more warmth, and give the wrongdoer a chance to get lost.

Lewinsky in the United States only got out of the psychological shadow after 2 years of cyber violence. In her speech, she exhorted from the bottom of her heart: "You should be sympathetic to others, even a little sympathy may save another lost soul."

Yes, only those who have really experienced cyber violence can personally understand that the humiliation suffered in the darkest hour is a pain in the heart. You really have to be kind.

At present, our life cannot be separated from the Internet, so it is up to everyone to make concerted efforts to maintain and purify the network environment. Think about it, the ultimate benefit is ourselves.

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