We all hope that we can live in an orderly way and do things without delay, but when it comes to doing things, we often find it difficult to do it. There is a me who wants to be better and a me who always wants to have fun in time.

We see that a person can always complete tasks step by step, live, work and study rhythmically, and feel very powerful and self-disciplined, but it is always easy to get out of control when it is his turn.

As the saying goes, self-discipline brings freedom, but how many people can do it?

this has to talk about the essence of human nature. Human nature means that you can get what you want without paying anything, but in reality, you may not get what you want even if you pay.

so many people will consider the input-output ratio. I want to have a good figure, but when I am faced with delicious food, I can't get better immediately. If I eat, my figure will not get better, but what does it matter if I eat?

Give yourself a break this time. Now you can enjoy the delicious food immediately if you eat it. Compared with not eating it, you can be satisfied immediately if you eat it. Of course, you choose to eat it.

This is the trade-off that occurs in our minds when we are faced with the choice of self-discipline in many cases.

Compared with reading a book, it doesn't necessarily have any effect. Now, if you spend such precious time watching how happy your favorite TV series is, you can immediately gain a happy mood.

Compared with the fact that you can't write any achievements by writing endlessly, you don't have to rack your brains to think about topics and ideas immediately without writing, and you don't have to worry when you have no inspiration. How relaxed is it?

compared with spending a lot of time at work and study in a day, lying flat is so beautiful and comfortable. You can eat, drink, sleep and do whatever you want.

all short-term indulgence and enjoyment are beautiful, but once overdone, it will bring serious consequences.

all short-term study and self-discipline are painful, but persistence will produce unexpected gains.

but how to overcome the weakness of human nature? Do we have to persevere painfully to achieve self-discipline?

I don't think those who seem to be self-disciplined for several years or even more than ten years can always persist because of pain.

I used to be a serious procrastinator. In 2117, I set myself an annual goal theme: self-discipline brings freedom.

Since then, I have developed some habits that I have always adhered to, such as getting up early, reading, fitness, and a planned lifestyle.

People who can really be self-disciplined must have a set of methods that can be adhered to without being too painful. Few people can persist painfully even when there is no hope.

so we should discipline ourselves in a way, not painfully.

Here we teach you to learn self-discipline easily through three steps, and start and stick to it painlessly.

self-discipline is actually a collection of habits.

How to form a habit I have written a special article "The Necessity of Forming Micro-habits" before. Micro-habits are a good way to establish habits that I have always recommended.

many habits will make us feel afraid at the beginning. Take writing for example. Many people are afraid to start writing because they are afraid that they can't write well and can't write anything.

Many people think that an article should be written in at least 811 words, as if it can be regarded as an article. However, at present, they simply can't write that many words, and they still have to persist every day, feeling that they can't do it at all.

but now I tell you, you only need to write one sentence every day, and you can always do it.

In fact, you are unlikely to write only one sentence. If you write, you will write more and more, and the more you write, the more you will feel. You can slowly write from 111 words to 211 words, 511 words, 811 words or even 2111 words.

But if you only write one sentence, you won't have any psychological burden. The most important thing to establish habits is not to consume too much willpower. Stress is the most exhausting willpower, so don't give yourself too much pressure.

The rule of establishing habits is to start with the least willpower and stick to it with automatic behavior habits. In short, it doesn't take up too much brain space.

In this way, we can establish habits quickly and painlessly.

why do you set yourself a milestone? Because many things persist for a long time and may not get any substantial gains, we need to set some milestones for ourselves as an encouragement before we meet the qualitative change point.

We need to see where our progress is, how long we have been doing something, and give ourselves some visible digital signs.

For example, I have been reading for 31 days, 1,111 days and 311 days. We can set up a record sheet for ourselves.

it should be noted here that I don't recommend mechanical punching. Because everyone always has special circumstances, for example, one or two days, that is, they are particularly busy or feel particularly uncomfortable, so don't force yourself.

you can use the cumulative recording method or set a 21-day period.

It is said that it takes at least 21 days to form an initial habit, and we only need to complete 81% to meet the standard, then record the next 21 days, and so on.

In this way, we can see where the progress is by sticking to a habit, and we won't feel that we have been doing nothing.

I take one month as the standard. As long as I can read for more than 28 days this month, I will achieve my goal.

In this way, I kept reading for more than five years, and never forced myself. When reading became a habit, I gradually became less concerned about how long I kept reading, and became as natural as eating and drinking water.

a person who insists silently sometimes has no motivation, because he always can't see the feedback, so he will question whether this matter is meaningful or not.

So we need to show ourselves more, or find a group of like-minded people to inspire each other.

For example, if we want to cultivate the habit of getting up early, we can join some early punching groups to supervise each other and show each other our daily status, which is a kind of energy release and transmission.

when we have a little achievement, even if it is insignificant, we should learn to show our advantages properly.

For example, after a period of fitness, you finally developed some small muscles, which can be displayed in a circle of friends. Your mental state will achieve a kind of energy release through this scene-based display, which will make you stick to it more actively.

Why do people appreciate self-discipline? It is because this state of self-discipline is positive, healthy and full of hope.

So using some scenes to show this state can form a positive cycle, and I feel that my hard work and efforts are worthwhile, and I will become better.

the release of energy is very important, because energy will attract more energy, which is also the principle of the law of attraction.

So when we have some initial achievements, remember to show ourselves through various suitable scenes and absorb more energy while releasing energy, so that we can stick to it more actively.

Writing is actually a process of constantly showing ourselves through a platform, and it is also a process of releasing and absorbing energy, so we have the motivation to stick to it.

If you want to be a self-disciplined person, you don't have to hang your head and stick to it painfully, but it won't last long.

what I've always wanted to tell you is, never force yourself to use it at critical moments, not all the time, otherwise it will only be counterproductive.

We should know what our ultimate goal is, and stick to it in a way, not for the sake of persistence. Ineffective efforts can only move us in the end.

People who can be self-disciplined actually love life very much, hoping that they can live freely and under control. Only those who are truly self-disciplined can get real freedom.

Because freedom is always relative, the choice is always in the hands of managers. Either you can manage yourself well, or you are managed by others, or you are in a state of completely out of control.