I forgot when I started, and I rarely took selfies to update my personal dynamics.

However, I finally know that I may have been "sick" ...

I still remember that in high school, there was a high-value female teacher. When talking about topics in class, I occasionally praise my face value. Then add, "occasional narcissism is still needed." ...

I didn't quite understand this sentence at that time. How can there be reasons for narcissism? Isn't it narcissism? Why occasionally?

Later, I also know a thing or two. In fact, a cursory glance at your circle of friends shows that most people can be roughly divided into three categories according to the frequency of "sun exposure":

Of course, the "drying" referred to here refers to the strength of release in a more meaningful sense. Can be random, can be a product; It can be a selfie or a landscape; It can be delicious food, of course, it can also be endless waves of "dog food" ....

For the time being, I will collectively refer to these as the products of "narcissism".

Of course, narcissism here is not a compliment in the original sense. Because there is no difference between good and bad in essence, there is naturally an intermediate dividing point and a critical value.

Not long ago, I read some similar remarks:

"selfie addiction is a disease that can be cured";

"selfie addiction is a mental illness";

"Crazy selfie takers, or people with mental illness" …

I didn't realize these words at first. After all, I thought that the so-called selfie was probably a narcissistic behavior, so I didn't think and judge too much.

It was not until recently that I saw some opinions and explanations in related books that I began to think about this problem.

In fact, it is not difficult to find that "narcissism" is an effect superior to ordinary people, and it is also an individual's conscious and unique inner feeling.

There have been experimental studies that show that more than 80% of the people who participated in the experiment thought they were better than the people around them. This is the "superiority effect", which is also called "narcissism".

Then the problem is coming. If you say, "then I choose not to be narcissistic, there should be no problem." ...

Sorry, psychologists have also studied, completely avoiding narcissistic behavior, or collectively referred to as "pessimistic wisdom effect."

In other words, if you are not narcissistic, then you may be "sick" like me.

Why do you say that?

Because narcissism can be divided into narcissism, self-confidence and inferiority.

If you are completely lacking in narcissism, you will be more pessimistic than active, and you are prone to inferiority or other mental diseases. So, first of all, you must be sure of yourself.

Secondly, there is appropriate "narcissism".

Proper narcissism is called healthy narcissism. If you take appropriate narcissistic behavior, you can admit your own shortcomings more frankly to some extent, leaving room for the other party or others.

Because, only when there is room to accept people who are better than you, can you have the heart to learn and keep updating iterations.

Finally, it is excessive narcissism, which is what we call "very abnormal" ...

Because excessive narcissism is easy to make people feel grandiose and conceited, which will prevent their sense of shame from coming from their inner perception.

Solidify thinking, regardless of black and white.

Of course, the most important point is that because of excessive narcissism, there is a greater chance of forming a potential "dark trio".

If you don't know much about it, you can think about the "Sister Feng" incident a few years ago.

Of course, later, "Feng Jie" gradually faded out of the media perspective, also because of her proper grasp of internal moderate narcissism, thus returning to a healthy psychological state, which made people have different opinions.

Generally speaking, for narcissism, you certainly have the freedom and power to choose not narcissism, appropriate narcissism and excessive narcissism.

However, different choices will bring you different results. Just like everything has a potential degree, only moderate survival is the most ideal state.

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