0 1, fragile love, in fact, much more than you think.

Tingting was hospitalized because she found out that her husband Ronaldinho was cheating, and her mood collapsed several times. As a result, the child was not saved. She went from Mrs. Luo, who was about to welcome a family of three, to a woman lying alone in the hospital. You know, she used to be beautiful, and she pursued a lot.

And ronaldinho? Hotel coolies, poor, outsiders, ugly, few words, always hunched when walking. But Tingting said that Ronaldinho took care of her and was a conscientious person. So he secretly took the household registration book at home to get the certificate, and the two resigned from the hotel together and opened a small restaurant.

02. Behind every derailment is the loss of control of desire.

Who knew that this man who had nothing and looked bored was actually with the newly recruited waitress in the restaurant when Tingting was pregnant. Tingting's illusions about the happiness of marriage were all shattered. Tingting doesn't understand: How can Ronaldinho, an ordinary person who looks honest, cheat? We were so in love at first. Why should we change now?

This story mainly tells us: once, we thought that honest people would not cheat, but it turned out that honest people would cheat. We thought that as long as we love each other enough, our married partner would not cheat, but the reality let us down again. No matter how beautiful Tingting is, Ronaldinho will get tired of watching it, because it is a man's animal instinct. No matter how young and beautiful a woman is, it will also make men feel aesthetic fatigue. When they meet other different women, they will make men feel excited again. In popular terms, it is: old love is not as good as new love.

03. Uncontrollable animal instinct

As many people say, it is natural for men to cheat. Not only Ronaldinho, but Jackie Chan also said that he made a mistake that men all over the world would make. Some men cheat just for fun and to satisfy their sexual needs. So if you find that your husband belongs to this kind of person, you must think twice and ask yourself calmly whether this marriage should continue.

If you want to live with him, don't expect him to change. At best, he'll hide. The only thing you can do is to accept, like Feng-Chiao Lin, and choose to forgive and tolerate for many years. But this man, I still advise you to leave as soon as possible. Because they can't control their desires.

04. Dissatisfaction with the existing marriage relationship

"I feel more and more alienated from her. Sometimes when we return to our own business, we can finish it without saying a word. " "Once I was in the store dealing with things until the early hours of the morning and forgot her mother's birthday. When I got home, what I was waiting for was not a "tired", but a real scolding. I ignored her and went straight to bed, but she just kept nagging in my ear. The next night, I decided to cheat. "

You see, it's not a matter of principle that leads to the derailment. Maybe it's just an inconspicuous little detail in marriage. It is not so much this detail that makes men have the idea of cheating, but rather this detail acts as a fuse and detonates the accumulated contradiction bomb.

If we want a happy and stable marriage, we should use our brains as well as our hearts.

Love like fish and water is easy, but it is difficult to be together. Cheating can get short-term happiness with temporary passion, but marriage has witnessed each other's embarrassment and unbearable, and still chooses to stay together for a long time. It is difficult for a third party to compete with the ever-changing marriage with the mood of taking part in accidental amusement.

Because the wife maintains the whole family, when the third party seriously affects life, if the wife's attitude is firm enough, most men will often stand on her side and fight against the enemy together. However, no one can easily let go of the pain of being betrayed by his lover. The trust between husband and wife has collapsed, and it is easy to go back to the past. Cheating is the biggest marriage crisis, but it is also an important opportunity for both sides to grow emotionally and personally.

1. Emotional first aid, adjust mentality

Minimize the damage. When a man has an affair in marriage, crying, making trouble and hanging himself are the most powerless accusations and the second torture to himself. Smart women don't just get angry or fly into a rage, but give themselves some breathing time and try to find a way to make themselves comfortable first.

If you want to talk, talk to your girlfriend or family and tell them your emotional state. It's okay to cry. If you want to be alone, stay alone, stay at home and watch movies or cook food, and adjust your mood first.

A cup of warm hot water, a hug from a good friend, a warm dinner, or encouragement from some family members, all these comforts can relax my nervous nerves first. Instead of randomly sending friends, or bombing each other by phone, crying and shouting to make a mess of life.

2. Make a clear choice and evaluate the emotional state.

Make the right decision. After adjusting the mentality, it is necessary to objectively evaluate the emotional state of the husband and wife and the performance of the man after the derailment. Ask yourself: Does he still love me? Is this an accidental derailment or overeating? Do I still love him? Are you willing to give up your feelings for so many years? Is it necessary for marriage to continue? If so, what changes should we make?

Reorganize your life, think rationally and make your own decisions. In short, we should carefully understand each other's thoughts, express our demands, work together to improve the relationship between husband and wife, find the most suitable way to fall in love with you, and add a sense of ceremony to our lives. Twisted melons are not sweet. If he doesn't love you, you should love yourself more.

3. Heal growth and get out of the shadows

Get happiness again. Whether you are still awake after the storm or not, you should learn to grow up and get out of this injury in time. Forget the past and embrace the future. If you choose to forgive your husband, you can take your marriage more seriously. A hug when you go out in the morning and a good night before you go to bed at night can make you closer and learn hobbies outside of life together.

You know, marriage is not only about making money together to raise children and share housework, but also about creating a sense of meaning for both husband and wife at the spiritual level. If you choose to leave, you can turn around wisely to develop your own career and meet more people. Especially in exercise, when people are exercising, dopamine will also accelerate secretion, which will help relieve pain and adjust mental state. In short, actively recover and live a wonderful life after the injury.