everyone will be confused, depending on how long you have been out.

A few days ago, I saw Xixi, a small partner in the writing camp, sharing her story. I like being in Guangzhou very much. I can do what I want to do, become what I want to be, and realize my true value.

cece knows what she wants and keeps writing. But there are still many people who may not be so clear about their goals now and don't know what they want.

They are in a confused period. They are hesitating and struggling about what to do.

My best friend is one of them. She is the one who hasn't made it clear what she really wants or what she really likes.

She likes working outside and thinks we are still young, so we should fight together. Her family wants her to go back to work in Xi 'an so that she can be closer to home. However, she was unwilling, chose to follow her inner thoughts, and resolutely returned to Shenzhen after the New Year, ready to roll up her sleeves and do another job.

Although it is very tiring outside, she is not really ready to meet the hardships. First of all, she seems to have not adapted to the "being alone" thing. So, she hesitated.

It's easier to exercise one's will outside, and it's easier to destroy one's will.

Going out exercises one's independence and ability to withstand pressure, but if one can't adapt to "being alone" and needs personal company as one's encouragement, it's really not ready for this "battle". Not only can one not get exercise, but one will feel more inferior.

My best friend called me to chat the night before yesterday. She said that she had three ideas about career planning at present, and asked me which one to choose.

She prefers the second option herself, and then asks me if this is the right choice.

I didn't directly say whether it was right or wrong after listening to it, so I asked her what was the reason behind each choice?

she asked me while talking about me, asking several questions in succession. Pushing a choice to the original starting point, why come to Shenzhen?

The reason why I came to Shenzhen is to exercise myself, so don't think about going back to Xi 'an, at least not now. After all, I will go back later.

well, the above three choices are directly discarded as one and only one choice, that is, to find a job in Shenzhen first.

The most important thing at present is to find a job before you have a job.

My best friend is no longer obsessed with the above three choices, but she has questions for me again.

is it safe to be both ways? It can not only take care of other people's feelings, but also satisfy their own wishes.

My best friend asked me the second question. She interviewed for a job and managed it, but it's far from her friend who lives with her. What should she do?

She said that she didn't want to leave her friend alone, thinking that she would hurt her friend if she did so. Moreover, some friends who lived with her before didn't consider her in doing things. She knew that her friends were doing something wrong, so she couldn't make her own decisions in a wrong way like her friends.

I just asked my best friend, so do you think it's right to continue living with friends?

it's not necessarily what your best friend says. Because my friend has told her, my friend will not stay in Shenzhen after a while, and she may go back to her hometown to make other plans.

that's right. after all, one person will leave each other. at that time, it's better to get used to leaving now. At that time, I suffered from loneliness, so it is better to learn to be alone now.

if you can't open your mouth, others will open it for you, and if you can't make a choice, others will choose it for you. Then I have no choice.

when I first entered our company, I really wanted to integrate into the group atmosphere through my own efforts. At noon, everyone ordered takeout, so I added it and ate with everyone. But I found that when they were chatting, I couldn't find the right words and couldn't get in the mouth.

then it's good for me to listen to them carefully, nod my head and support them. Prove that I am on the same side as their thoughts. I often order takeout with them, but it backfires.

I found that the harder I tried to get close to them, the less I could squeeze in.

I found that I prefer the feeling of going downstairs to eat in a restaurant, so I went downstairs to eat by myself. Every day, I found different restaurants, looked for different foods, walked around a little and looked at the trees on both sides of the road, which was quite comfortable.

gradually, I feel more relaxed and feel that this is who I am. Later, I met three friends. We had dinner together, played table tennis together on weekends, and sang in teams. We talked about everything, gossiped about things, and beat and scolded others.

it's strange that I stopped squeezing into the circle, but I accidentally got a small circle that suits me.

focus on yourself and the rest will come naturally. It's not crowded in, but attracted.

I am here to freely release my ideas and absorb their advantages. Be a happy little girl.

this kind of life is not bad.

it is better to encourage the other party to make a decision in good faith than to analyze the wrong and right of the facts themselves.

Mr. Huai Zuo really admires me and has taught me a lot.

Xiao Di, a student in the writing training camp, has a problem with multiple-choice items. Which one is better to ask the teacher?

The teacher didn't directly say which is better, but let Xiao Di choose: three titles. Let's evaluate which one do you think is the best, and choose one first.

Xiao Di chose one of them, and the teacher then made an analysis from the second topic, made some slight changes, and put forward better suggestions than the second topic.

Finally, the teacher gave Xiao Di the choice: OK, this is a thinking mode, and the final result is up to you. Give you this analysis, on the one hand, you can use this thinking to analyze the title, on the other hand, pay more attention to the title in the future. Ok, you decide the final result.

This move made me fully aware and moved. I learned not only the choice of the title of the article, but also a kind reminder with temperature.

Actually, I would like to thank another person, a senior, who taught me different thinking when I was in college. I am like a blank sheet of paper, on which my senior drew a flower.

the four words that impressed me most were "serious and lively". These two words are really not a pair of contradictory words.

serious behavior and lively thinking.

do things strictly and seriously. As serious. ; Divergent and diverse thinking is regarded as lively.

When I was facing employment, he told me what preparations I should make before the interview, the problems I would encounter in the interview, and how to make a resume to better highlight my advantages.

more importantly, encourage me to interview different companies, a city's talent recruitment market, a campus job fair, and a company. Go and act.

I've been there, and I've seen different scenes in the interview. I'm not afraid. I prepare before the interview again and again, check the company's background culture and understand the job information, so that I am no longer shy in the face of personnel recruiters.

I'm really grateful to meet these people who make me strong invisibly.

The day before yesterday, my best friend and I chatted for more than four hours, the longest conversation. When she was confused, I found that I couldn't really help anything substantial.

Because we all go our own way. I only have the right to suggest, not to decide.

when I was chatting with my best friend, I found that the advice and help my seniors gave me before, and I also applied it to my best friend here. The help of my seniors has continued here. I helped people who were as confused as I was before and I could help them within my ability.

My best friend spoke to me by voice again today, adding more confidence to her voice. She was basically comfortable with the interview because she made a lot of preparations before the interview.

I am very happy to say to her: You see, in fact, you have the ability to do well.

she went on to say, I have no hesitation now, just waiting for the probation period to show my skills, seize the opportunity to become a full member and work hard to make money!

Well, it's getting late. She said she would watch another issue of Qipa, so we all hung up separately.

In life, most ordinary people like me are more or less confused, and can quickly transition this period of confusion and be themselves. Is my best wish.

If you still can't make a decision and are still confused, please share this with your good friend and trusted person. If you speak your mind and he speaks his mind, maybe you will come to your senses.

I believe that the thinking mode of 1+1 will definitely be greater than two.