Women are often more vulnerable than men in marriage, so it is very important to learn to protect yourself in marriage. The first point is that women should learn to be independent. What I mean by independence has multiple meanings. If a woman wants to have a certain say in a marriage, she must be completely or nearly financially independent. Only when a woman can support herself, when she speaks, when she fights for her own rights, can she straighten her back and speak with sufficient confidence. Just imagine, if a woman is completely dependent on the other person at home, to put it nicely, this is the man’s pampering of the woman, and he wants to “support you for the rest of his life.” However, if one day the man who once said that he will support you for the rest of his life is tired and exhausted, If you have a change of heart, how can a woman with no financial resources support herself? But he can only beg for mercy. Financial independence does not mean to draw a clear line with the other party, nor does it mean to regard all things related to property as more important than the marriage itself. It just allows the woman to be on an equal footing with the man financially, so that once the marriage relationship breaks down, the woman You can leave in style instead of worrying about your future. In my opinion, it does not hinder the marital relationship, but is an important guarantee for a harmonious and happy marriage. In addition to being financially independent, the woman must also achieve personal independence. Many women choose to be the little woman behind their man after marriage. There is nothing wrong with this. Everyone's choice is different and we should respect it. However, what I must say is that even if a woman is willing to be a young woman after marriage, the woman and the man must respect each other in terms of personality, understand each other and support each other, and must not blindly worship each other and lose their own dignity. . A woman cannot obey a man's words. She must have her own opinion. She can respect a man, but she must not bow down in front of him. She must not let him feel that she is his captive pet. She can be playful when she is happy, but cold when she is unhappy. relatively. Women must let men know that both parties are equal, independent individuals who need to respect each other and be considerate, and no one needs to obey the other. The second important point is that the woman must have her own career and life plan. Many of us take it for granted that a woman’s purpose in life is to have a good home, to find a good family to marry, and to care for her husband and raise children. It seems that women are born with this mission. But I want to say that this idea is completely wrong. Women should also have their own life. Women can temporarily give up their careers after marriage and focus on their children and family. However, after the transition period, women should pursue their dreams again or find and persist in their hobbies. Women should learn to arrange their lives reasonably and make their lives fulfilling, instead of just hanging around their husbands and children all day long, and not only having firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea when communicating with their husbands. A truly wise woman knows how to keep in line with society at all times and not let herself be abandoned by the times.