Text/Man Xiaofei Xiaofei is recognized by the circle of friends as a person with good fortune. She has known her current husband since college. The two have been married for many years and are still sweet.

Her husband is successful in starting a business, and her son is sensible. She just printed that sentence, the years are quiet, and she only needs to be responsible for being as beautiful as a flower.

At a party some time ago, I saw that she had lost some of her former glory, and there was a faint sadness between her eyebrows.

Looking through her circle of friends, I haven't seen her update for a long time. You must know that she is a show of affection and a lover of showing off her children. She spends her days eating, traveling, and showing off her husband.

01 After asking her about her current situation, I found out that in the adult world, perhaps no one has the word "easy". Even those who appear to be glorious on the surface have unsatisfactory things that are unknown to others in private.

Xiaofei said that she understands her husband less and less now, and they can't speak more than a few words every day.

When my husband comes home, he either eats or sleeps. Except for asking about the children, there is almost no communication between the two.

You must know that when they were together in college, her husband would squat in a phone booth on a snowy day to make a midnight phone call to her.

Later, they got mobile phones and could send text messages. The messages continued every day.

Later, with the advent of smartphones and WeChat, the two of them wanted to share chats, videos, delicious food, and fun things with each other.

I just don’t know since when, her husband became less and less willing to talk to her. She protested, but her husband said she was too pretentious.

Xiaofei said that sometimes his home was like a hotel. He could not come back a few times a week, and there was no communication when he came back. The only communication between the couple was quarreling.

There is nothing bad about life now, it just feels suffocating.

02 Jordan Chan and Cai'er Ying are recognized as a loving couple in the industry, but in a reality show, the two people's daily greeting was "Hello".

Their marriage has reached the critical stage of the seven-year itch.

Because I'm usually too busy, I don't have time to chat at all, but now that I'm finally not busy, I don't know what to talk about.

Every time Cai'er Ying talks to Jordan Chan, Jordan Chan responds with "oh", "ah" and "hmm".

Finally Ying Cai'er finally got angry, can you say something to me, don't just use modal particles.

How many people's emotional alienation often starts from saying everything when they are in love, to having nothing to say in the end.

03 Recently, a 2018 marriage and family happiness survey showed that among the nine major factors affecting marital happiness: "communication, willingness and ability to understand", "income", and "mutual loyalty" ranked in the top three, among which communication and understanding

Ability comes first.

I have to say that many relationships that come to an end are not what you do, but what you do. Refusal to communicate is the biggest invisible killer in relationships.

The normal state of many couples is that in front of outsiders, he may be a joker, joker, and the focus of the lively atmosphere. He can chat with anyone. He can say hello to neighbors and chat happily for a long time.

Only when facing my partner, I have nothing to say.

The normal situation at home is that everyone plays with their mobile phones and computers, and they don’t say a word while lying on the same bed.

Other couples are unwilling to share and talk to each other.

If you don't tell, I won't ask, or if I ask, you won't tell. The two sides rely solely on suspicion and speculation, and in the end they are no longer willing to even try to figure out the other person's thoughts.

A survey on the divorce rate shows that in recent years, the divorce rate has remained high, and the biggest reason for divorce is "emotional discord." A large part of the reason for emotional discord is because there is nothing to say and not wanting to

Can't speak, can't say a word.

04 He Jiong once said: In a relationship, the most important thing is not appearance, nor bread, nor even loyalty, but sharing.

Because whether you are in the passionate stage of a relationship or in a stable marriage, if you don't share, two people will act like strangers even if they live under the same roof.

Then that powerful feeling of emptiness is the biggest killer that hurts the relationship between two people.

The most difficult thing in a marriage is not the endless housework, the difficulty in handling conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or the naughty children, but having nothing to say.

There is a difference between companionship and companionship. Companionship involves response, interaction and sharing. Falling in love with someone may be instantaneous, but not falling in love is a process of accumulation. Long-term nothing to say is slowly killing the two.

personal feelings.

The saddest thing is not dying alone, but dying with someone who makes you feel lonely.

So, starting from today, try to chat with the other person for 10 minutes every day, no more than 10 minutes. No matter how busy you are, you still have 10 minutes to spare. Try chatting with the other person. Slowly you will find that the relationship between two people

Get closer and don’t let having nothing to say ruin your happiness.