Cai Kangyong is considered to be well versed in "the way of speaking". His classic quotations once occupied the top three positions in the overall popularity index of Sina Weibo, and the forwarding rate also topped the list, forming a "Kangyong fashion" of speaking. Therefore, Cai Kangyong tried to publish his first practical book, Cai Kangyong's Way of Speaking, for the first time, and summed up his many years' "punch line" experience into a "reference book". Cai Kangyong also reminded fans not to imitate his way of speaking on the show. He also wrote this book with the psychology of atonement. I hope everyone knows that the usual way of speaking is very different from the way the host speaks on TV. The following is Cai Kangyong's way of talking about interpersonal relationships!
Cai Kangyong's interpersonal relationship "You are what you say"
Will you really fall to your death when you trip over your sneakers? Hard to say. Tripping your sneakers at the corner of the stairs, and then rolling smoothly from the tenth floor to the first floor, you may die. So this is not necessarily too exaggerated. But Gugu must have something else to say when he tripped over the sneakers that A Nan took off. Gugu can reason: "Why did you take off your sneakers here? You must have been drunk again last night! " Gugu can complain: "Didn't you agree not to buy this pair of sneakers? The money for these sneakers is enough for me to buy a microwave oven! " Gugu can also coquetry: "What to do! I tripped over your sneakers! It hurts to pinch ... "What Gugu will say depends on what kind of person she wants to play in the eyes of the man. She wants to play Obasan, and she will say what Obasan loves to say; If she wants to play the role of fiancee, she will say what her fiancee should say; If she wants to be a beautiful girl, she will say what a beautiful girl should say.
Many people think that what you say reveals who you are. But I think it's more than that. I think: you are what you say. “You are what you say。” You always think that you are a poor wretch, and others are bullying you, so you really often say things with a poor mentality. But not only that, but the reverse is also true: you say everything that a poor man can say, and if you say it for a long time, you will be a poor man.
When GuGu roared, "You want to make me fall to death", A Nan must think that this crazy woman is delusional. Believe me, even if I'm a total loser in the "killing world", I don't want to kill people by throwing my sneakers around like this.
Since then, Gugu in A Nan's mind has added a small post-it note that reads: "The victim is delusional". The next time they quarrel, "Bei *" will become a basis for a man to complain about antiquity. A man will say, "You always think that I will be sorry for you, and you love to wronged me so much. Why don't I just go out and fool around with others!" Yes, what Gugu said is not only a "fruit", but also reveals how Gugu sees things, and it will turn into a "cause" in reverse, "guiding" Gugu to see things, and then "guiding" important people around Gugu to see Gugu in this way. If you complain, you will become a "complaining woman". If you love to play cheap, you become a "cheap mouth". If you always tell jokes, you will become a bedroom uncle ... Although, we all know that you may not be such a person in your bones.
Do you really want to be a little sun that warms others? Then you can start by talking and make some simple things that you can really do. For example, you must send a short message every Wednesday at noon to greet a friend in your address book, and after the other person replies to your short message, you must reply a short message to cheer for the other person.
Cai Kangyong's interpersonal relationship is "seeing the other person in the eye and keeping the other person in the heart"
According to many instructions of "books to teach speaking", when dating Gugu, Xiaoge worked very hard and kept his eyes on Gugu's eyes. Maybe it's really tiring to do so. After five minutes, Xiao Ge felt that he was almost cross-eyed.
however, what is more tiring is being watched. Ancient ancient heart actually in a cold sweat, worried about whether he was seen what flaw? Is the powder puff on the nose not enough, and is it seen that the pores are a bit thick? Didn't the false eyelashes stick well? Crow's feet? Eyedroppings
Gugu is so nervous because the way Xiao Ge looks at her is too much like an autopsy. Look, there are many kinds of "studying", "examining" and "examining", which are different from "paying attention to", "staring at" and "looking at". When dating, of course, it is best to look at each other with emotion at three o'clock, so that the other party feels that there is an ambiguous current passing between the two people, instead of "two hungry people get together to fill their stomachs." Some people carefully choose French restaurants suitable for conversation and French red wine and white wine from Xian Yi, old and young, but they study the menu "seriously" as soon as they sit down in the restaurant and discuss the dishes with the waiter "seriously" after studying the menu. Then, when the wine comes, taste the wine "seriously" and eat the food "seriously" when the food comes. How's that? Do you think you are a food spy sent by Michelin restaurant guide?
Dating is dating, which means being affectionate. Eating, drinking and ordering food are all good opportunities. In the face of foreign language menu, you can laugh at what jokes you have made in foreign languages, so that you can be kind to *; You can also take the opportunity to tell a little custom you saw when you traveled, so that you can be well informed. In doing so, of course, you should look at each other from time to time, with a little observation, so that the other party can fully feel her presence in your eyes.
when it comes to how spicy hot pot is, see if she frowns? Seeing that she is about to get up, although there is no need to exaggerate to help her pull the chair, you might as well tell her intimately which direction the dressing room of the restaurant is. These, all need you to keep "eye observation", but you don't have to "look carefully". Many people think that people who know food and wine are people with taste. I don't agree at all. I've seen many boring eggs who know food and wine. You will never feel like a spring breeze when you get together with such people, because they don't respect you, but they respect eating and drinking.
if a person can "see each other in his eyes and put them in his heart", even if he stays in this state for only one meal, he can make the other person feel "valued", like a spring breeze. See? "Being valued" is the key word. What matters is the word "depending".