There are many colleagues in the company, but in terms of marriage, it has shown me different directions, some are happy and some are unhappy.

one: unhappy people are all because men "fail to live up to expectations".

In a department, two female colleagues have almost the same experience. After getting married, they take care of their own children and have their own babies. For them, the existence of their husbands or mother-in-law is like air.

Colleague A, in her thirties, brought a kindergarten child, and she was heavily in debt and sold her house because of her husband's business. Children, mother-in-law, husband and elder sister live together in an old community.

Later, my husband was hospitalized unexpectedly, and all the financial pressure fell on my colleague. Although my colleague was in sales, her performance was not so good. I have to pay more than 2, yuan for children in kindergarten every month, and I have to bear more than 4, yuan for rehabilitation medical expenses for my husband every month.

During all this time, his mother-in-law didn't seem to understand him very much, and she took her son back to the countryside to recover. And a person runs between the company and the kindergarten every day, once on Saturday. The child was alone at home. Because he was afraid, he went outside the community. Fortunately, the security guard stopped the child, otherwise something really happened that day.

colleague b, since the moment of pregnancy, she has not been paid much attention by her husband or mother-in-law. On rainy days, I rode an electric car to the company alone. After giving birth, neither my husband nor my mother-in-law helped her with the children.

The experience of these two colleagues is almost the same, that is, the husband failed to live up to expectations, and the mother-in-law didn't help much after marriage. Whether it is the cost of raising a family or taking care of children in all aspects, it all falls on women. For men, it seems that everything in this family has nothing to do with him, but more is just a quarrel and incomprehension between husband and wife.

two: happy people and family atmosphere are the key.

Let's take a look at other colleagues' happier marriages. At the same time, C has regarded it as a treasure since she was pregnant. Everything is the best, even the usual sweeping the floor, washing clothes and getting a glass of water are all done by her husband's skirt.

There are also some happy colleagues who not only get the respect of their in-laws, but also get a lot of support, and this support does not only refer to financial resources. But some consideration and meticulous care. Although the daughter-in-law is an outsider, for many public servants, she is treated like her own daughter.

In such an environment, the happiness index between parents-in-law and daughter-in-law or between husband and wife will be higher. Because they can constantly understand each other's difficulties and are willing to take care of them. Instead of complaining blindly or feeling dragged down.

There is a female colleague whose husband is not only very nice, but also her in-laws cook different dishes every day. Although they are not married, they are not pregnant or anything.

But for the in-laws, it is to treat them like their own daughters. My colleagues will buy gifts for the future in-laws, and the in-laws will remember her birthday and know what tastes she likes.

three: a happy marriage must depend on the efforts of both parties.

So after witnessing the marriages of many colleagues or friends around me, I really found those happy marriages.

There is really a big similarity, that is, husband and wife help each other and understand each other, because married people belong to the closest relationship.

If there is no trust and understanding between two people, everything will be a constant quarrel, and the woman will be the one who is tired in the end.

A woman should take care of her children, her family and her in-laws' feelings. But for men, playing games and going out to eat, drink and sleep every day. Doing these things repeatedly, it seems that some responsibilities in life have nothing to do with him.

more importantly, to maintain a family, the most important foundation is the guarantee of economic resources. If a man has no responsibility and responsibility, all the expenses and sources of income will fall on the woman.