Text/Obeige

Summer is here, and for 23-year-old Nan Nan, it means it’s time to eat ice cream. She eats at least one ice cream every day, even during her menstrual period. Have to eat one too. Her refrigerator was filled with ice cream of various flavors, but she still wanted to buy it when she saw it.

It is also summer, and 3-year-old Xiaotong is not as happy as Nannan. When she passes the ice cream shop, she always carefully asks her mother next to her: "Mom, can I have ice cream?" And every time she got a negative answer.

After many times, Xiaotong stopped asking. Her mother thought that the child finally understood the good intentions of her parents, and she was very pleased. In fact, Xiaotong just swore silently in her heart: When I grow up, when I get rich, I will definitely buy a lot of ice cream. I have a strawberry flavor in my left hand and a mango flavor in my right hand...

20 years Finally, there may be another "Nan Nan" in the world who is addicted to the world of ice cream and can't extricate himself. After all, not getting what he wants can easily make children feel frustrated. Once he can break free from the shackles of his parents, he will be capable again. Revenge eating may occur.

If we always refuse our children's requests for ice cream without giving a reasonable reason, the "Adam and Eve effect" will eventually occur.

God created a Garden of Eden in the east and filled it with many kinds of living creatures. There are two trees in the center of the garden: the tree of life and the tree of wisdom. God created Adam, told him to go into the garden, and told him that he could eat all the fruit except the tree of life and the tree of knowledge. As everyone knows, in the end Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit from the tree of knowledge.

The Soviet psychologist Platunov wrote a book called "The Psychology of Fun". In the preface of the book, he specifically reminded readers not to read Chapter 8, Section 5 first. However, most readers But he adopts an attitude contrary to the author's warning - first read Chapter 8, Section 5.

Because when faced with “banned” things, people will first become curious: Why is this kind of thing “banned”? Will it really harm us? If this curiosity is not addressed (the reasons for the ban are often vague and unconvincing), people tend to rebel and try the forbidden fruit themselves.

Even children who have never eaten ice cream will instinctively feel that this thing is delicious after seeing mouth-watering pictures of ice cream, but their parents tell their children that eating this thing will make them sick. Children cannot associate good food with illness, so they are doubtful about their parents' words and cannot be completely convinced.

There is a proverb: "The forbidden fruit is sweeter." The more parents prevent their children from eating ice cream, especially when the ice cream looks so delicious and tempting, the more children want to eat it.

First of all, agree unconditionally

We first respect the child's yearning for delicious things and tell the child that when he wants to eat ice cream or other snacks, please tell us and we will Buy appropriate snacks with him.

Then, study the ingredient list of the snack with the child

We can take the ice cream or snack packaging bag and read the ingredient list to the child, and tell the child the possible problems with the snack and what is added in it. What are the bad additives, and what adverse effects will it have on the body if we consume them regularly.

Don’t think that children don’t understand or are not interested. If we really read the ingredient list to them seriously, they will study it seriously and their curiosity will be no less than that of dinosaurs.

Letting children understand the composition of ice cream and snacks will eliminate their curiosity about ice cream and snacks. Children will lose their interest and desire to control, and they will not have such a big desire to have them.

Again, encourage your children to eat better

Let your children know that ice cream and snacks that look the same are made from the same materials used by street stalls and regular manufacturers. Not the same.

Tell your children that snacks are okay to eat, but we have to go to regular shopping malls to choose some snacks with guaranteed quality. We would rather eat less than eat better.

Finally, agree on the quantity with the child.

Blocking is worse than sparing. When we make the mystery of snacks transparent and the feelings transparent, the children will lose their curiosity and desire for control. At this time, if we discuss the amount of snacks with our children carefully, it will be easy to achieve consensus.

For example, I made an agreement with my children that they can eat ice cream in the hot summer, and they can eat one children’s version of ice cream every day; they can eat three lollipops a week; they can eat one small pack of French fries a week. ...However, when you are sick, you cannot eat snacks such as ice cream and lollipops. You can still eat them after you recover - first meet the child's requirements, and then ask for ours. The degree to which the child will accept it will make the child obediently accept it. We were surprised.

I take my children to regular supermarkets every month to buy snacks. They don’t have to be expensive, but the quality must be good.

I asked her to pick 10 favorite snacks and put them in her exclusive snack cabinet when she got home. The height of this cabinet allows her to reach snacks at any time, but she always gets my permission before eating.

When I set up a special snack cabinet for her, I was also worried that she would eat a lot of snacks in one go because of the indulgence. The result was beyond my expectation. Not only did she not open her belly to eat snacks, I also plan to only eat a small bag of snacks every day. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I told her this is your snack for a month. Unexpectedly, this move also taught the children to plan ahead.

I remember reading a piece of news that said that a family has a snack day every month. That is to say, on that day, the children can eat the snacks at home, and the parents cannot stop them. Nor can I preach.

The results also surprised parents - the children did not eat snacks as meals as their parents imagined, but ate them selectively and still ate when it was time to eat.

It can be seen that blindly suppressing children's desires and prohibiting children from trying will make children full of desire for snacks. However, if we understand children's needs and meet their needs within our abilities, children will instead Learn restraint.

Do you still remember the sweetness of the White Rabbit when you were a child? Do you still remember the sourness of pomelo bark when you were a kid? Do you still remember how spicy Tang Monk’s meat was when you were a kid? Do you still remember the fun of sugar popsicles when you were a kid?

Snacks are an integral part of beautiful childhood memories. But for today's children, how come eating ice cream and snacks has become a luxury?

Although parents have good intentions, in order to prevent their children from accumulating food or getting sick, this approach of strictly prohibiting children from eating ice cream or snacks seems to go too far.

There is a saying that goes well: children who have eaten Baiwei will not only care about candies, and children who have seen the world will not only care about the ice cream in front of them.

Let our children’s childhood be filled with the taste of snacks, which is the taste of happiness. Otherwise, when they grow up, they will find another way to supplement their snacks, but it will never be the same taste.

——END——