Recently I rewatched a favorite movie, "Under the Tuscan Sun."

The movie tells the story of a female writer, Francesco, who encountered a change in her marriage and came to Tuscany, Italy, to rediscover her passion for life.

I like this kind of healing movie very much. When I think of a few years ago, when my life was in a mess, I really want to find answers from other people's stories.

Want to know how those people spent the darkest moments in their lives? How to regain the courage to love? How to believe that the future is actually better? How do you try to get through the current suffering, or persevere?

Many movies will tell us that travel is a good way to heal. New scenery and new people can open the window for you to see the world again.

Watching this movie again a few years later, I found that what can truly heal a person is your curiosity about life and the childlike innocence you can retain at any time.

I often chat with Xiaozhi and feel that I have changed a lot in the past few years.

Xiaozhi replies every time: Is it a transformation?

Sometimes, if we look at the past few years, we don’t have much money, so we can’t call it a success. It can even be said that we have nothing. And what do I have?

If there must be, it is the current state and mood, the attitude of not being surprised when dealing with some things, and the true understanding of subtraction in life, no longer casually comparing with anyone, no longer casually belittle oneself.

Be able to sleep, wake up, and cherish every day. In ordinary life, every little bit is a surprise.

In the movie "Under the Tuscan Sun", Frances came to Tuscany alone. She was so desperate and heartbroken that she never wanted to return to San Francisco and bought a 300-year-old old house. , I saw the same person laying flowers to the same place at the same time every day;

A man spent a thunderstorm night with an owl.

Become friends with people who help you renovate, and get the courage and inspiration for life from your own real estate agent.

The girl she met in Italy told her personally how to love life and how to work hard to enjoy life.

She was also lucky enough to meet love in Italy, although it was only for a short day.

When love comes, she enjoys it wholeheartedly. When love passes, she accepts it calmly.

At the end of the movie, the real estate agent reminded her: all the wishes you made have come true.

You said you wanted a wedding in this house and that you wanted to have your family.

Yes, Francis suddenly realized that all my wishes have come true.

In fact, many times, we get too caught up in sadness and forget that life has already arranged everything for us. We just need to let nature take its course and enjoy it with peace of mind.

After arriving in Tuscany, Francis was more beautiful than when he was young and happier than before. This is the power of innocence and curiosity. Stay curious and innocent. You never know at what moment in your life you will meet the right life and the right person.

Just like what is said in the movie:

I especially like Katherine who always dresses herself exquisitely and beautifully, wearing a charming hat. She shares her own beauty with Francis Story:

When I was a little girl,

I would spend hours looking for ladybugs.

Finally, I gave up and fell asleep on the grass.

When I woke up, I was covered in ladybugs.

What beautiful words, so when you feel exhausted in pursuit of something, why not give up the process of searching and persisting, enjoy it, sleep peacefully, and when you wake up, you want , will all come.

Like a little girl who falls asleep and wakes up to see a ladybug. Needless to say, good things will come. And when it comes late, it's a surprise. So, until then, no matter what happens, stay childlike and innocent.

I accidentally saw a speech by Bai Yansong today. He said that when doing anything, use your curiosity instead of persistence.

I remember the time when I was taking the postgraduate entrance examination a few years ago. I lived a life of asceticism and hatred every day. I didn’t dare to have fun or relax. I wished I could take a nap in the library 24/7. I always felt that this way I would have no regrets.

And I am actually in the same state now. I always feel guilty for indulging myself.

Maybe there are people like me! I always persevere for a goal, but rarely stop and ask myself why?

I remember that at that time, I always made a lot of plans for myself. After I finished the exam, where would I go to travel, what movies would I watch, and what delicious food would I want to eat? Now if I could, I would Ask yourself: Why must it be done after the exam?

When you know that the real reason why you are trying to do something is pure love and curiosity, you will regard the whole process as a process of enjoying happiness rather than a process of persistence.

For the first time, I discovered that, in fact, persistence may not necessarily be correct sometimes.

What really makes you do something well is curiosity and love.

Persistence is sometimes a kind of ego, and ego is the source of pain.

Wrong persistence is actually a kind of self-punishment.

Just like Sister Fan said, to stick to something, the important thing is to do everything possible to reduce the difficulty of doing it, the degree of pain, and even create pleasure.

Enjoyment is the source of progress.

Just like losing weight does not mean forcing yourself to boil cabbage every day, enjoying food is one of the great pleasures of life. If you suppress the fun because you want to lose weight, the gain will actually outweigh the loss.

Hu Jianbiao said, why is he so keen on fitness? Because he loves food very much.

And any exam, any study that requires effort, if it really makes you feel painful, then you might as well ask yourself, why should I do this? Why do I set out?

If the result is what you want, then enjoy the process instead of making it more painful the longer you persist.

Just like what is advocated in minimalist life, you must leave some space for your life. In fact, you must leave some space for yourself and time at all times.

You need time to relax, have fun, and be in a daze.

Only then can we continue on the road better.

Just like in the past few years, every trip takes a long time. When I first go out, I am very excited, but after a few days, I can't wait to go back to work.

I always feel that the most energetic time is after the New Year every year. After a long holiday with nothing to do, I have made a bunch of New Year's resolutions for myself. I can't wait to sit in front of the computer 24 hours a day and work hard non-stop. .

There is really no need to worry that you will fall if you relax too much. As long as you really love it, you will find inspiration in resting and experience happiness in learning.

Regarding curiosity, I have a deep understanding recently, which is to do subtraction and abandon separation.

When I am in my 30s, especially in the past two years, I suddenly feel that time is extremely precious. When I meet a person who has no nutrition or participate in a useless activity, I will feel sorry for myself for a long time: Why should I go?

Yes, before making any decision, ask yourself why you want to go?

Curiosity should be reserved for the vast world, not the bad tastes and unhealthy lifestyles in life.

When someone says to you, being young means being indulgent and dissolute. If you don’t go crazy, you will become old, so let’s go sing all night long!

Then don’t contact such friends if you can.

I have talked a lot about life, life, relationships, and friend circles before, but now I have a deeper understanding that it is important to do one thing well at a time.

Also, never compare with anyone, and never believe what you see with your eyes, because what you see is what others want you to see.

Bai Yansong doesn’t have WeChat. He said something very sharp: What are everyone posting in their Moments? Nothing more than where I went and what I ate.

However, I don’t even understand how I am alive. Why should I care about how you are alive?

In the past, I would post some of my feelings on Moments, but I never visited Moments. Now I simply don’t post anything. Whether it’s chicken soup for the soul or self-motivation, your life doesn’t need to be proven by other people’s likes.

Bai Yansong said that modern people know more and more, but they know less and less about how to live.

Maybe I don’t know how to live yet, but what I have abandoned is definitely not the lifestyle I want.

When chatting with the children around me, I often joke that I am an old aunt. But sometimes I feel that whenever I joke about my age, I don't really feel old. It's just a fun way of chatting. And in the process, I gradually discovered that I could accept my physical age calmly enough, and then work non-stop to enrich my mental age.

Nowadays, there are many elderly people in their 20s and young people in their 70s. As long as they maintain their never-ending curiosity about the world and the various interests of being a human being, every time they see the flowing white clouds, it will be sunny. The weather, even if I got up early this morning and went for a run, I can exude a sense of accomplishment from deep in my heart, and let out an exclamation of wow, this kind of life is beautiful enough, and this kind of myself is young enough.