The other side of the inspirational story

An elderly man told two stories that sounded familiar and had unexpected endings.

a general lost the battle, almost completely annihilated, and he was injured himself. He curled up in a ruined temple, and the pain of failure was even worse in the stormy weather. He was almost desperate. At this time, he saw a broken spider web under the eaves, and a spider was trying to repair the broken web. The general watched the spider's every move. Tired, he fell asleep unconsciously. When he woke up, he found that the spider had rewound the web and was sitting in the middle of the web waiting for the delicious food to come. The general was deeply encouraged by the spider's tenacity. He regained his confidence and quickly rallied and won the war.

Actually, the general didn't know that the spider he saw struggling to mend the net at night had been blown down by the wind and drowned in a puddle. The net he saw was built by another spider after the rain cleared.

A young man who has repeatedly failed to start a business is sitting under a tree in a depressed mood. He found a crow not far away, trying to drink water from a glass bottle, but because the bottle mouth was too small and there was not enough water, the crow could not drink it all the time. Seeing such a scene, young people immediately think of themselves. He felt that he was like the crow, and his dream was like water in a bottle, which seemed close at hand, but was doomed to be out of reach. The lost young man stood up and walked away. He decided to give in to reality and be a mediocre man without ideals.

In fact, the young man didn't know: after he left, the clever crow brought pebbles and put them in the bottle one by one, so the water in the bottle rose. The crow drank the water as he wished and left happily.

The general gained confidence in the tragedy of a spider, but in the wisdom of a crow, the young man only saw abandonment and despair. It is not only the generals and young people who don't know the final ending of the story, but we often don't know whether there is another side of the inspirational story that we can't see. Two stories of the elders made me realize: we always think that we need external encouragement and role models to support ourselves, but the real strength is hidden in our hearts.

it is undeniable that inspirational stories make many people feel warm and encouraged, but these inspirational stories are more just the source of arousing our own strength, and can't really decide right or wrong. That's why some people are always inspired, but they have never been to generate. Some people can get permanent motivation to move forward with just one touch. In the final analysis, a strong inner cry of dreams pushes our life forward, which can't be compared with any amount of encouragement.

Nowadays, chicken soup for the soul is popular, and more and more people need inspirational stories and famous sayings to urge them to move forward. In fact, the real motivation for moving forward will only come from our hearts: that is, determination and persistence in life.

After you left, I was proud of you.

If I hadn't moved recently, I would never have remembered these letters from the last century. It was a letter my family wrote to me 2 years ago when I was studying in college. I feel that it has been as long as a century, and it looks a little trance and almost unreal. But when I read these letters again, everything in the past gradually became clear, as if it had happened yesterday.

I was born and raised in Harbin. Although it is not an economically developed city, people have a strong sense of happiness. People are keen on festivals and parties. In my memory, every family has a large population. Every holiday, relatives and friends get together again and again, which also makes me feel the ubiquitous affection since I was a child. What this city has given me is not only the unique beautiful scenery, but also the friendship between people.

As I have never left home before, when I first went to college, I was not used to living independently and was always homesick. And looking forward to a letter from home has become an indispensable part of my campus life. Every day after school, I look for my name on the desk where letters pile up in the reception room. In fact, the content of each letter from home is roughly the same, and I always take the trouble to read it over and over again. In the letter from home, besides telling me to study hard and pay attention to my health, I was told not to be afraid of spending money. At that time, everyone's family situation was similar, and they were not very rich. Especially, we had three children at home, and the process of raising them was like climbing a slope, which was somewhat laborious. However, in the letters, my mother often reveals intentionally or unintentionally that the family's economic situation is very good, which makes me feel at ease to study, and I also try my best to find out something that may make them happy, and even describe my imagination about the future.

In 1995, I went to Hong Kong to perform with the school art troupe. At that time, Hong Kong had not returned to China. Going to Hong Kong was equivalent to going abroad, and everything I saw was very novel. In my letter, I described Hong Kong to my parents and told them that one of the universities liked me very much and might go there for postgraduate study in the future. Mother wrote that the news excited the whole family for several days, and said that she would build her hometown well when she returned from school, and that her hometown would catch up with Hong Kong in the future.

Tsinghua University is a great honor for an ordinary family, and this family honor won by me makes me feel more responsible to protect it. This is a school with heavy homework, especially our department of electronics, which is famous for its great learning pressure. When I was in the third year of college, I began to be tired of studying, and the idea of quitting school flashed in my heart, and I was depressed all day.

I remember one day, when I was sorting out letters in my dormitory, I read the letters from my freshman family. The joy and pride from my parents made me feel ashamed and burst into tears. I thought to myself, I can't embarrass my kind parents, I can't hurt their self-confidence just established in social life, and I can't let my family be full of gloom. I secretly made up my mind that I must persist until graduation and get my degree.

In retrospect, I should thank those letters and my ordinary and warm family for giving me initial strength. Facts have proved that many things are just a matter of thought, and many results are only one step away.

At that time, I often performed in college and wrote songs and composers. My mother was worried that this would affect my studies. She wrote in the letter: "You should still focus on your studies now and don't always think about being a singer. Those are dreams and unrealistic. Our family are ordinary people. You have to learn a skill, find a good job after graduation, and be a useful person to the country. Parents don't expect you to be famous and earn money. "

Actually, I just loved music at that time, and I was active on campus. I didn't think about taking music as a career, because as my mother said, such a career is too far away from our family, and I can't be a person who often appears on TV. She also knows how difficult it is to make a living by singing, because my father is a Peking Opera actor, and he knows the price of artistic work.

My father is the most honest and kind person I have ever met. In today's words, it is "completely pollution-free". In my memory, my first impression about him was in early winter, when I was about 3 years old. I remember standing on the bed, my father dressed me in cotton trousers and said, "It's snowing, and winter is coming." I still remember watching the snow falling from the sky outside the window, which is my first memory of snow. But in this memory, there is no feeling about cold at all.

In a cold winter a few years later, I often wake up in the middle of the night and find my father writing something, sometimes clutching his chest. I feel very strange. It turns out that the unit has given many actors a raise, but there is no father. It is said that a person who gave a gift to the leader occupied the quota that should belong to his father, and his father was writing a letter to the higher authorities to complain.

because of his bad mood, he suffered from stomach trouble. I think, my father cares about not only the salary of several grades, but also an actor's recognition of professional titles and respect for art. It was the first time I felt his melancholy, and I can still remember his expression.

I can't remember the result of this incident, and I can't remember when his melancholy dissipated. Ordinary people's family is like a boat floating on the sea, which can be shaken by the wind and rain at any time, but for me, what I feel is more warmth in the boat.

When I graduated from junior high school, I was admitted to the best high school in the city, which was equivalent to Tsinghua in the middle school.

Once my father was going to perform in Russia, my mother asked me to see him off at the railway station that day, and I was a little surprised. He used to go to the station by himself when he was on a business trip, because his father didn't talk much and never asked me to do anything for him. Later, I learned that his father wanted to show off his son in front of his colleagues. Because my uncles and aunts liked me very much when I was a child, I haven't seen you for many years now, and I have been admitted to the best high school. My father especially wants them to meet me. I still remember when they praised me, my father showed a satisfied expression, and then I really realized that he was proud of me. At the same time, I also found that he was a little old, slightly different from the former father of Wusheng, who was in high spirits. My heart tightened vaguely.

Children's expectations are different from yours.

Do you think children love to play with iPad and mobile phones? Actually, they are not. They are just afraid of loneliness. Do you think children are most proud of their good academic performance? Actually, it's not. What they are most proud of is their good popularity.

Children in our eyes may not be what they are.

Peer relationship is the most important

After children enter school age, parents pay more attention to: How is the homework done? Have you mastered all the classroom knowledge? Have you cultivated your study habits? For a long time, academic performance has been regarded as an indicator to measure whether students are excellent or not. What children value most is the relationship with their peers. What they care about is whether they can realize their value in the collective. 46.19% of the children said that they are most proud of being able to help people around them solve problems and having a group of good friends. Only about 2% of children think that getting good grades in exams or winning in competitions is the most proud thing.

In fact, children have communication skills since childhood, and whether they are happy in childhood often comes from their relationship with their friends. Experts say: "children are not as snobbish as adults when making friends." Teachers have found that children with good personality and helpfulness have good popularity in school, regardless of their academic performance. Adults should encourage children to serve the collective, help their classmates and make them feel that they are a useful person. This kind of value is the source of children's true happiness. "

Teachers with feelings are the most popular

In the survey, there is an interesting question. When asked what would happen if you were a teacher, about 4% of the children said that they would treat their students like friends and listen to them. In fact, this is exactly what children expect from teachers.

Children like teachers who are humorous, happy, kind, peaceful and considerate, pay attention to each student, and are impartial and democratic. Shanghai Huangpu District Luwan No.1 Central Primary School recently selected the "Star of Teachers' Morality" according to children's standards. Different from parents' eyes, some of the most popular teachers selected by children are not even famous teachers, and there are many other minor teachers such as sports and music. One of the criteria for children's choice is whether teachers treat them as friends.

Teenagers are in the growth stage of emotional cognition, and sometimes it is more useful to talk about emotions than to reason. Experts said: "especially for primary school students, teachers may wish to meet their emotional needs first, and then ask them." A special Chinese teacher in Shanghai said: "Nowadays, many teachers have only textbooks and standard answers in their eyes, but no emotion. How can such teachers teach students well? The most classic case is that when asked what melting snow is, children's answer is that melting snow is spring, while boring teachers insist that melting snow is the standard answer to water. The teacher's teaching has no emotion, and it is difficult to really approach the students if they are regarded as containers of knowledge. "

I care about parents' attitudes

According to a survey, children are most worried about: poor grades and falling class rankings; Poor performance, the teacher called parents to come to school; Lose interest in learning, etc. Almost all things are related to study. In the face of difficulties, about 42% of children want their parents to "solve it calmly with themselves" and don't restrict other activities; About 2 3% of the children said: "Although I can't reach the expected goal, please affirm my efforts and progress."

For children, growth is a process full of confusion and pressure. Parents' attitudes and practices are very important to children when they encounter difficulties in growing up. The expert said: "In fact, for parents, they understand many educational principles, but it is more difficult to do them, mainly because they have no patience and their parents are not doing well enough. A mother taught her children:' Listen carefully in class and don't be half-hearted.' As a result, she talked to the children while playing with her mobile phone. How can parents who are not attentive when communicating with their children educate their children to be attentive in class?

On the issue of education, parents should first have a good attitude in order to guide their children. Perhaps children have many shortcomings in the eyes of adults, even naive ideas, but adults must learn to wait, put down the yardstick of adults and wait for their children to grow up. There is no perfect child in the world, and there is no need for parents to shape their children impeccably.

Don't tell your children's dreams that they are not under investigation. About 4 8% of them said that they hope to do what they like and realize their dreams in the future. Every child has his own dream. Adults should not scoff at children's dreams.

An education expert in Shanghai recently vomited a story: an 11-year-old child likes to stir-fry and can cook cooked pork and Mapo tofu. He also studies the cooking method himself, knows how to foam soybeans, stir-fry them with seasonings, and then add tofu. The fried Mapo tofu is particularly fragrant, and sometimes cooks several dishes for his parents who come home late from work. The child's parents are more open-minded and even think that if the child always likes it, he can be sent to a cooking school in the future. However, enlightened parents met an enlightened teacher, and the teacher criticized the parents: "It's not as good as doing well in the English exam as cooking well, so we can't let our children do nothing." Parents had to forbid their children to cook.

In parents' view, it is better for children to have a decent and promising job in the future, which is much more important than their so-called dreams. As everyone knows, what parents may kill is the happiness that children love life and look for value. Adults should not suppress children's dreams in a hurry. Why not accompany children, pay sweat and tears for their dreams, go through tests, learn knowledge and accumulate experience, so that they can have a full and happy childhood.

Failure is only 1 meters away from success

Guo Wei, a young man full of sunshine and vigor, is an angel investor in China after 198s in Silicon Valley of the United States. On Highway 11, 1 kilometers away from San Francisco and San Jose, he sought and supported the next "Billion Company" in the name of an angel. In the past two years, he has contacted more than 1,6 projects and invested in 26 projects. This dazzling star soon attracted the attention of the industry.

Guo Wei's contact with business was the earliest.