How big is the difference between men and women's thinking?

Recently, I heard two things from my classmates, which almost killed me.

Xiaoru, a liberal arts student, said that when she first got married, she once wanted to be romantic on a whim and said to her husband, "Go home for dinner at night ~"

The husband of science and engineering said, oh.

Xiaoru deliberately left work early, bought food and red wine, and went home for a long time.

Then she thought, since you want to play romance, why don't you go through with it?

So she put steak and red wine on the floating window of the bedroom, then lit a beautiful candlestick and put on a beautiful skirt, waiting for her husband to come home.

My husband finally came back.

As soon as I entered the door, my eyes swept to the dining table and I asked, "Where is the food?"

Xiaoru is as shy as a 18-year-old girl, pulling her husband and saying, "Come with me."

In the bedroom, the husband saw the steak, red wine and candlestick on the floating window, and even made an action: he took down the wedding photo on the wall, put it behind the food, and then bowed three times.

Then he said, "Stop messing with these moths and have a good meal in the living room!" " "

"From then on, I swear I will never be romantic with him again!" Xiaoru snapped.

When I was about to laugh, Xiao Juan said, Your husband is still very humorous. Do you know my husband?

"When I first got married, my husband wanted to be romantic. One day, my husband said, honey, let's have a candlelight dinner at home tonight, and I'll prepare it! "

"I was so touched that I went home happily after work."

"At home, my husband took me and said, honey, you sit down and rest with your eyes closed first. I'll be right there. "

"After a while, I opened my eyes and saw my husband's carefully prepared candlelight dinner: peanuts, beer, and-two white candles, you know, big white wax candles for power failure emergency ..."

"I was petrified instantly."

We laughed our heads off. It seems that men and women are really creatures from two planets, and their brain circuits are very different.

Women are more delicate and sensitive, and men are simpler and more direct.

When it comes to romance, women's intuition is flowers, wine and jewelry, while men may really think it is peanut beer and chicken legs.

Women like to let you guess, beat around the bush, bury burdens and set suspense. Women think this is the interest of life; Men, on the other hand, are completely at a loss and often look confused.

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Men and women are also very different in coping with stress.

Recently, several male visitors talked about the troubles in their lives, that is, all kinds of pressures that have nowhere to put them.

When I asked them if they would tell their wives about your stress, 100% of men said no.

I asked them why, and their answers were surprisingly similar: it was useless to talk about it, and I couldn't help worrying.

I then asked them if they would complain to their good brothers, and most of them shook their heads.

Faced with pressure, men prefer to hide in their own "caves" and think alone; On the other hand, women vent their emotions through conversation and contact.

Psychological research shows that men speak an average of 2000 words a day, but women speak 7000 words a day.

Men have written 2000 words when they go to work during the day, but women, even if they can work with 2000 words, what should they do if there are still 5000 places? I have to wait for my husband to come home and tell him that when I am unhappy, 5000 is definitely not enough, which is the physiological reason why women love to nag.

This is the focus of contradiction.

Men don't want to talk, women want to listen; Women want to talk, men don't want to listen.

That's how the quarrel happened.

The sky is falling apart.

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In fact, if men and women can better understand the product attributes of the other planet and learn from each other's advantages, they will find that many problems can be solved.

For example, men think that women "love chatting", but this way is very effective, which helps a person to vent their emotions and relieve tension and stress.

Women seem to be men's "cold avoidance", precisely because they are looking for a space to talk to themselves alone, so that they can find a solution to the problem more efficiently.

But both men and women are too love stand's team, and the self-defense war in the Chuhe Han Dynasty is either life or death.

Many men think it is "useless" to complain to others, but my sister thinks it is not a crime for men to cry. Really not good. Isn't there a counselor?

Only by dredging one's inner emotions can we solve problems more efficiently.

Of course, I don't think women just need someone to complain about.

Because the workplace doesn't believe in tears, women should work as hard as men, and you need to keep your scattered emotions in your hands, so at this time, you must learn to be calm and think.

The mode of crying and hanging in life has long been thrown into the trash can. Nowadays, women also need to use reason and wisdom to solve contradictions in their families.

Opening your heart is "letting go"; Independent thinking is "absorption". Only when you come in and out freely can you gain a sense of control and grow up, from superficial understanding of yourself to complete self-awareness.

In other words, you can clearly understand yourself, what are my strengths and weaknesses, what I am good at and what I avoid. I'm not as good or as bad as you think.

The crooked sister thinks that a person who lives normally must live like a woman and think like a man.

Become a neutral person who doesn't distort his heart.

And neutral people must be the best species.