Yesterday, Little T's mother sent a message to Duoma that Little T always talked in class and was complained by the teacher. What should Duoma do?

I can't help but get lost in thought. What if blossoming is complained by the teacher?

When problems occur, we should first control our emotions and calm ourselves down. We can't preach to children without asking indiscriminately, which can only be counterproductive.

Secondly, it is necessary to analyze whether children talk as often as the teacher says. I remember when I was in the first grade, I was usually certified in my class and got good grades in all subjects. Once, a new biology teacher came to see me. In class, she suddenly came up to me and wanted to write down my name. I thought she was trying to compliment me. I didn't expect her to say that I kept talking in class and fooled me. I am also afraid that she will complain to my class teacher. I still don't understand how I left her the impression of "always talking in class" Maybe she had a casual fight with her deskmate in class, and she found out.

Therefore, when a teacher complains, we must first understand whether the child really talks in class as the teacher said, and has never wronged the child. It is unnecessary if children are listening attentively most of the time in class, but only occasionally absent-minded. However, the teacher's emotions still need to be taken care of, and he can apologize to the teacher on behalf of the child.

If the child really has this problem, we should not abuse and criticize the child. We should find out the cause of the problem first. Only by finding the reason can we solve the problem from the root. Generally speaking, children like to talk in class for the following reasons:

First, interpersonal relationship is not good. Bad interpersonal relationships will make children feel insecure and emotionally alienated from their parents, teachers and peers, and these bad relationships will be manifested through undisciplined forms such as speaking in class.

Second, lack of interest in learning. Children will pay more attention to what they like, invest more energy and observe discipline in class; Things you don't like may be responded with a more casual attitude, and you may talk nonsense in class.

Third, seek the attention of others. It is found that some students who have strong self-esteem but are not recognized by their classmates and teachers because of poor grades or other reasons often deliberately create some troubles in class to attract the attention of teachers and classmates.

Fourth, influenced by other children.

The solution is to prescribe the right medicine:

1. Find reasons from parents themselves, improve parents' self-cultivation and create a good family atmosphere. Taking time out to participate in recreational activities and learning activities with children, respecting and understanding children in this process will gradually create a harmonious family atmosphere, and children will naturally settle down gradually.

2. Actively encourage the substitution of improper evaluation. Psychological research and a large number of life examples show that the behavior after being actively stimulated can be repeated. For some positive behaviors of children, such as doing things quietly (even playing), we should strengthen and encourage them in time, so that children can have more good behaviors and gradually become interested in learning, instead of seeking improper behaviors to attract others' attention. At the same time, actively communicate with teachers, so that teachers can cooperate with parents to praise and reward their children when they perform well.

As for how to communicate with children in a positive way, I thought of the story "Tom Rabbit was punished" that Duoduo's mother told Duoduo before. Tom Rabbit made a mistake in kindergarten and was criticized by the teacher. He told his father about it, but his father didn't criticize him. But from the beginning, I said that everyone would be annoyed by making mistakes, and when I was a child, my grandfather punished me for being naughty. Then we were persuaded that we should all obey the rules, for example, we should obey the traffic lights.

In this story, Tom Rabbit's father first understood the child's behavior of making mistakes: "Everyone makes mistakes", and then told him that he was punished by his grandfather when he was a child. These two steps immediately relieved little Tom of his guilt and vigilance. Finally, Tom Rabbit's father taught Tom to obey the traffic rules.

Similarly, it will not solve the problem to grasp all the lecture contents in class and criticize them. The correct treatment method is as follows:

Did you feel wronged when you heard that the teacher criticized you for speaking in class? It's okay, kids. Everyone makes mistakes. Mom and dad also made many mistakes when they were young and were criticized by teachers. Once, I was scolded by the teacher in class ... Later, I corrected my mistake and the teacher praised me.

Is it hard for the teacher to lecture? If the child speaks, it will not only hurt the teacher, but also affect other students. And if you talk in class, you won't hear the teacher and you may not learn a lot of knowledge. Do you think there is nothing wrong with this?

But mom and dad believe that you will correct your mistakes. Let's make a little agreement that we will listen carefully and not talk in class tomorrow. As long as you make progress, your parents and teachers will be happy.

Well, we are a little depressed today. Go to the park for a day at the weekend to adjust your mood.

The key points mentioned above include: 1. Understand the child's mood and resonate with the child; 2. Let children consider problems from the perspective of others and cultivate empathy; 3. Trust your child and give him encouragement. 4. Appropriate rewards.