There is a dialogue in the movie Forrest Gump: "What kind of person do you want to be in the future?" "What do you mean, I can't be myself in the future?"

"Nothing", can't you live well?

In the recently hit Taiwanese drama "A Tale of Vulgar Cultivation", 4-year-old Chen Jialing, dressed in professional clothes and high heels, is the special assistant of the chairman, which sounds very high-end. To put it bluntly, she does odd jobs for the boss.

Chen Jialing has been wandering in Taipei for 2 years, working hard as a "private nanny" for 24 hours, and her boss's private affairs are waiting for her to deal with.

What impressed Sister Xin was that Chen Jialing couldn't even squeeze out the time to go to the toilet. Holding a pregnancy test stick in her hand, she smiled and patiently answered questions for her clients.

Chen Jialing suffered a heavy blow at her ex-boyfriend's wedding. She learned that many students are doing well in the workplace and showed off everywhere. They are just enviable winners in life.

and she: she has a bad job, no car, no house, no husband and no children, and her love life with her boyfriend has long lost her passion.

Chen Jialing was so drunk that the classmates who sent her away laughed at her behind her back: "Being drunk at the age of 2 is cute, and being drunk at the age of 4 is pitiful".

But the days have to go on, and Chen Jialing has to endure the helplessness of reality. She began to lose sleep all night, and finally broke out. She stopped pretending to be a lady to please her mother-in-law, stopped being respectful to her boss and resigned directly.

In the days when she lived with her family, she learned to let go and gradually reconciled with herself.

She found that not only herself, but also the people around her seemed to be not really successful. Ordinary life is just the background of life.

Frankly speaking, Sister Xin appreciates Chen Jialing's behavior. Although she has accomplished nothing at present, she is brave compared with the cowardice of most people.

I am not ashamed to admit that I am ordinary.

Middle-aged people who have no car, no house, no marriage and no job will be defined as losers by social standards. But Chen Jialing has a strong self, so she doesn't have to be what others expect and have the courage to start a new life.

In the past, many people were restricted and couldn't be themselves. Now, more and more modern people can grasp the rhythm of life and become the masters of their own lives.

it really doesn't matter what others say.

For life, Sister Xin thinks that most people have to go through three stages of psychological development:

The first stage is when they are young, they have a lot of ideas, and they are constantly chasing what they want, busy with their work and working hard for their lives. You envy those who have a good life. You always feel that what others have is better than yourself. It is easy for you to be blinded by fame and fortune, and you are anxious while working hard.

In the second stage, you often compare yourself with others, and you are very concerned about all kinds of external evaluations of yourself. Others' comments make you think too much. However, people know that they are drinking warm water and cold water, so you still have to pretend to be strong and show me good looks. You are tired and full of confusion and confusion: what do you really want in life?

when you realize that you want to be yourself, the third stage comes.

gradually, you understand that a mature person will not dwell on bad people and things, abandon the views imposed on you by others, look at problems rationally, and be himself with a simple and pure mind.

Jiang, a famous teenager, has been a "child of others' family" since he was a child, but he is a typical "ingratiating personality". Because she cares too much about each other's feelings, she is afraid to show her true feelings in front of others and leads a particularly depressed life.

Later, Jiang tried not to care about other people's eyes, and tried to act like a real ideal of living high.

As she said,

"Everyone has his unique value. In the process of realizing this value, he may be bared his teeth, and he may appear clumsy. But if you give up the pursuit of personal unique value and build a person who is liked by others, it is actually very risky. The people you attract are not the people you really appreciate. Those who really appreciate you will always appreciate your pride. "

it is better to please others than to love yourself.

if you are not strong, who will be brave for you?

Many of us are working hard every day, rushing between home and work, silently swallowing grievances at work; For my family, I am always used to reporting good news instead of bad news, trying to satisfy everyone, trying to live my life as I want, but forgetting to be kind to myself.

There are also many people who repeat the monotonous and boring life every day. They have been numb in the plain daily necessities and unconsciously lost themselves.

years are short and getting old. Many people, like Chen Jialing, find that they have accomplished nothing in life and cannot move forward.

as we all know, it's never too late to learn to love yourself.

Some people know how to invest in themselves at the age of 2, while others begin to care about what they want at the age of 4. It's just a matter of time. We live in different situations, and how we love ourselves will be different, but it is always right to love ourselves, and it is more worthwhile to concentrate on business than to cater to the orientation of the world.

You may not be a modest lady full of poetry books, an independent strong woman, or Gao Fushuai in others' eyes, but you are you, the unique one.

people don't live to find their own sins. The quality of a person's life is closely related to whether he can treat himself well. Love is a life-long event.

there is a saying, don't chase a horse, but spend the time chasing it on planting grass. When spring blossoms, there will be a group of good horses for you to choose from.

I'm impressed.

life will treat you the way you choose to treat life.

in Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, people's needs can be divided into five types from low to high, namely, physiological needs, security needs, social needs, respect needs and self-realization needs.

Modern people are more aware of the importance of self-worth.

Therefore, no matter how old you are or how busy your life is, you should love yourself, such as:

clean and decent clothes and fresh and elegant makeup;

put down the phone and enjoy the food with your taste;

chat with interesting people and share happiness;

learn to give up, throw things or delete things regularly.

Give your life a sense of ceremony. Don't be influenced by others, don't be entangled in unworthy things, and don't lose yourself because of work and family.

as time goes by, before we can embrace the morning, we have held the night in our hands. You always take care of others. Who will take care of you? Don't find yourself exhausted until you are in your fifties. Life doesn't have to be rich and expensive, but you must come to live high to feel comfortable!

Sister, please remember what Luo Zhenyu said:

There is only one value of success, and that is to live the way you want.

People who live a good life always bring their own light. Ta can choose any way to live a good life and make it shine.