I am a fan of Red Mansions, a girl, and now my mother.

With the advent of the dual era of self-exploration and refinement of education, re-reading The Red Mansion has a different opening.

What was once ignored by youth and ignorance - the thematic dimension of girls' family education, suddenly unfolded slowly.

This is also the magical thing about Red Mansion: when viewed horizontally, it can be a peak on the edge of a ridge, varying in distance.

Without further ado, let’s talk about the eternal dispute between Chai and Dai.

Before the game, we must formulate the rules for refereeing.

How is a girl’s tutor calculated?

I think there are three levels: the first is talent; the second is emotional intelligence, which means knowing how to be measured; but the most important thing is the third: having a kind heart.

Well, let’s compare according to this rule.

Cai Qing and Chai Dai are in a draw.

Daiyu is spiritual, Baochai is noble.

Daiyu has "the proud people are hidden in the world, and the same flowers bloom late"; Baochai has "the good wind can send me to the blue clouds with strength".

What about emotional intelligence?

Many people probably saw these two words and already concluded that Sister Lin must have lost.

Actually not.

The book says that Sister Bao is a better person than Sister Lin, but there are only three people's evaluations: an old lady, who is self-effacing; Aunt Zhao, who is ignorant; and the third one is Xiangyun.

Well, I think most of it is sour.

But others' attitudes towards them: Li Wan has always pitied Sister Lin, Tan Chun is obviously closer to Daiyu than Baochai, and Baochai's sister Baoqin and Daiyu hit it off immediately.

Even Miaoyu, who has a high self-esteem, was also invited by Daiyu and Daiyu to have their own tea.

It can be seen that although Sister Lin is young, she only lives in Baoyu.

When she left Baoyu, she was a lady in front of outsiders.

Like Baochai, she has a well-proportioned figure and decent manners.

For a good family, there is another key point in appropriate restrictions, which is the appropriate restrictions on men.

Speaking of this, tsk tsk tsk, Sister Bao was shocked.

One is that she appears in Baoyu's Yihong Courtyard regardless of time or occasion. Qingwen, who is so diligent that she is so outspoken, can say this: "She comes to sit down when something happens, which keeps us awake in the middle of the night!"; Lie sits alone and sleeps half-naked

Baoyu embroidered a mandarin duck bellyband in front of the bed, and even Daiyu and Xiangyun looked like a fool; and when talking to Baoyu, "I only said half a sentence, and then I hurriedly swallowed it. My eye circles were slightly red, and my cheeks were red.

He lowered his head with tears in his eyes and just tied his belt. "This is simply a slap in the face!"

Very different from our dignified and virtuous sister Bao.

It's Sister Lin, only a layer of window paper away from Baoyu, and it's also because the other party's frivolous remarks are more true: "You bully me by saying such stupid things. Tell your uncle and aunt!" A truly full person does not know that a hungry person is hungry

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Therefore, Miss Bao is said to be a better person than Miss Lin.

In fact, being a human being is also a matter of shrimps having their own paths and crabs having their own path.

Judging from the results, the only people who really want to see Sister Bao surpass him are his concubine Mrs. Wang and the one who is jealous of Baoyu.

In terms of emotional intelligence and appropriate limits, Chai Dai is still on par.

Finally, there is the core factor in the evaluation of female mentors: kindness.

Under such circumstances, even the Baochai faction in "The Fans of Red Mansions" probably had to admit that Baochai was completely defeated.

The most authoritative judge comes from Cao Xueqin himself. He wrote this sentence in Sister Bao's file summary: "Tao has no love but a lover has love."

Ruthless, utilitarian, ambitious and purposeful, these are Baochai's portraits.

Instead, it is Daiyu’s appearance.

When she taught Xiang Ling to write poems to attack people, she did not consider her own gains and losses, but out of her true nature and kindness.

To sum up, there are two draws and one win. Sister Lin’s tutoring is better than that of Sister Bao.

Therefore, the accident was not unexpected.

Many people have analyzed that compared with Daiyu, Baochai is just the daughter of a nouveau riche.

Which brings us to the hot word of the moment: nutritious.

To be materially rich, there is no shortage of twelve women.

It can be said that only Miss Lin can achieve spiritual enrichment.

Only she was educated by her beloved parents, the rest Baochai and Xiangyun were self-taught.

In Baochai's words, when Lin Daiyu was seven or eight years old, when she was studying the Four Books and Five Classics under the leadership of her mentor Jia Yucun, she was hanging out with her sisters and brothers and watching the ancient songs of "The Romance of the West Chamber".

Speaking of which, there is another invisible keyword: the relationship between father, daughter and parent-child.

Psychologically speaking, a girl who has a good parent-child relationship with her father is more likely to develop a brave and independent character.

In "The Legend of Baochai", Daiyu was praised by Baoyu as "Sister Lin never says such stupid things".

The so-called words of a f***ing king are words to persuade him to seek fame and fortune.

But why does Sister Lin want to wear it, but Sister Bao and Sister Yun don’t?

Perhaps after all, they lack the independent personality that comes with deep fatherly love.

After talking about the two heroines, let’s talk about the first female supporting character: Shi Xiangyun.

Fans should know that this female supporting character is actually the real female prototype - classmate Zhi Yanzhai who has been adding fragrance to Cao Xueqin's red sleeves all her life.

So, how did Cao Xueqin write the mentor of the ultimate boss?

It should be said: It is true.

It's too awful.

Sister Lin's life experience is really not miserable.

Sister Yun was miserable: "My parents were disobedient when they were still in their infancy." She was born an orphan.

Most orphans lack tutoring, and Xiangyun is no exception.

Although as a historian of "Afang Palace, the entire history of Jinling where three hundred people lived", she has never been short of people around her, but neither her biological father like Sister Lin nor her biological mother like Sister Bao would do anything for her.

Plan her studies, let alone take care of her in every possible way.

As a result, Sister Yun’s appearance in Twelve Hairpins became such a unique scene: “She usually holds a snow coat, but she deliberately made up a small and bold color.