Between lovers in love, there is an emotion that is the easiest to produce, and it is also the reason why many lovers who were originally indifferent to each other finally parted ways. This kind of emotion is people's "heart of comparison".
Xiaoyun is a girl spoiled by her parents since she was a child. Because she has never been wronged since she was a child, she hopes to find a man who has always spoiled and loved her when she grows up.
Later, she found Forrest Gump, an obedient person. When Xiaoyun is ill, Forrest Gump always runs before and after. Forrest Gump always buys her what he likes in Xiaoyun without hesitation. Even so, Xiaoyun is still not satisfied. When Xiaoyun found out that Cher, her best friend, was carrying a limited edition bag from her boyfriend and eating the most expensive food with her boyfriend, she subconsciously hoped Forrest Gump could do the same for her, but there was nothing she could do for Forrest Gump.
Forrest Gump's family is not rich. His monthly salary is basically spent on Xiaoyun. Faced with Xiaoyun's unreasonable demands, he borrowed money from his friends, but he still couldn't meet Xiaoyun's needs. Gradually, he didn't want to do this, but he broke up with Xiaoyun very reluctantly.
It was not until half a year later that Xiaoyun talked about a new boyfriend. He always compared his new boyfriend with Forrest Gump from time to time, only to find out how good Forrest Gump was to her, but he could never get it back.
Occasionally comparison may be interesting, but excessive comparison is often a carving knife that can wear away feelings.
Feelings really can't stand comparison. Many times, it is an imbalance of mentality and life out of control.
My brother Ling He is an ordinary working class. They have been on good terms since they got married. They work hard to make money and raise their daughter together. Originally, the family lived happily until their daughter was sent to kindergarten at the age of two and a half.
Shortly after my daughter went to kindergarten, the kindergarten held a parent-child activity and asked all three people in the family to participate in the activity. At the event site, Dong Ge happened to be a mixed-race family. The man said that all the housework in their family was done by his Japanese wife, who was very gentle and beautiful. He seldom saw her speak loudly, let alone quarrel.
Brother Dong didn't say anything at that time, but his heart was filled with indignation. At this moment, seeing his wife's chubby figure, slightly vicissitudes, and talking loudly to the children, he felt that his life was in vain. Since then, Dong Ge has intentionally or unintentionally "reminded" his wife to do more housework and let her eat less when eating to control her weight.
Gradually, because Dong Ge didn't like it, there were more and more quarrels between them. Finally, Sister Ling couldn't stand it and filed for divorce. After the divorce, Dong Ge found that the man who once envied him for marrying a Japanese woman had borne all the economic expenses at home, and he was under great pressure at work every day, but he could not complain to his wife.
In life, many people have the idea of keeping up with the joneses, especially when they see that others are better off than themselves. They always hope that they can be like him/her, but everyone forgets that when a person is doing well in a certain aspect, he/she will definitely be dissatisfied. In fact, it is normal to compare occasionally in feelings, which can be understood as the other person's small emotions or the other person's hope that you will become better.
But if it's excessive comparison, it's easy to get worse, and over time it becomes what others can do and you can't do it, then you don't love me. Force your boyfriend and girlfriend to be better than others in any way, then the final result can only be "lovers break up", and a good couple becomes bad karma husband and wife.
If your love must be compared with others to be happy, then maybe you will never be happy.