The importance and influence of the first impression is related to one's future views and cognition, which will affect one's success. Blind date may miss a marriage because of a bad first impression, and interview may lose a job because of a bad first impression. On the contrary, the first impression is good, but the effect is the opposite. Of course, this is not comprehensive. After all, it's a long way to go. How to deal with the situation caused by good or bad first impressions? The first impression is good: seize the opportunity and go further. If you make a good first impression, you will make the other person very satisfied. At this point, you should keep your image in the other person's mind. Never be conceited and arrogant. We should pay more attention to our words and deeds and seize the opportunity to have a good room for improvement.
Poor first impression: treat each other sincerely and be down-to-earth
What should you do if your first impression is not very good? Many people attach great importance to first impressions. In the process of communication, sometimes there may be problems in some small details, which will leave you with a bad first impression. For example, crossing your legs when meeting, eyes or tone of voice are all reasons for losing points. After being rejected by the other party, you should reflect and correct your behavior. If you are still in an organization, then you should work in a down-to-earth manner, treat every colleague sincerely and impress everyone with sincere feelings.
First impressions have a great influence on everyone. From here we can see some problems or abilities of a person. The first impression does not mean that a person can rise to the top or be sentenced to death. The key to success in anything depends on yourself. There is no shortcut to success, only through hard work can we win.
Let me tell you another story about a white man in the workplace.
Anyone who often looks for a job knows how important the first impression is. But Zhu didn't know that his education paved the way for him to become a fortune 500 enterprise.
So, I told Xiao Bai:
When you meet a woman and have had several exchanges with her, you have left her with your first impression. If she doesn't feel your attraction, you can't start a relationship. Even if you work hard, calling and shopping every day will only cause the other person's disgust, which is not conducive to the promotion of feelings.
When you meet a woman and have a pleasant communication with her, the first impression about you will remain in her mind. If this first impression makes her feel that you are a very attractive person. Then, she can't help but start fantasizing about everything about you.
Women at this time are the most blind and can't think rationally at all. The opposition of family members and the dissuasion of peers will only strengthen women's rebellious psychology. They were even deeply moved by themselves: I betrayed the whole world just for you. In fact, this woman is a terrible animal. Even if they are insulted and denied, and other excessive things, they can't overcome their deep attraction to men. Even if these men have no money, no car, no house, no status and no handsome.
For another kind of man, having the excellent conditions, good reputation and good prospects of an ideal man may not be attractive to women. For example, Zhu's hard conditions are attractive to men, but she still can't impress women.
I asked Xiaobai: Do you know why women and children often talk together? In ancient times, there was a saying that "all women and children know", and now there are organizations that protect the rights and interests of women and children?
Xiao Bai said: children are born to women. Only when women have children, children will naturally be linked.
I silently shook my head and continued to stare at his face, as if the answer was written on his face.
Xiao Bai thought for a moment and said, "Is it because they are weak and need protection?" ?
I don't think he will get any results if he keeps thinking about it, so I told him that women's mentality is actually extremely immature, just like children. They can't control their inner thoughts at all. Even if the theory is absurd and untenable, they will believe and work hard for it.
This theory is more powerful than logical thinking, so don't try to tell women anything. Once attraction takes root in a woman's heart, this power will break all constraints and imprisonments without any excuse. All previous experiences are floating clouds in front of the scenic spots.
Therefore, this scenic spot can be said to be bad or even dangerous. Once influenced by attraction, women will do things that outsiders can't understand, even if these things violate their own interests and even moral norms.
In order to verify my statement, I told Zhu a classic case in psychology.
A pair of sisters who lived together held a funeral for their mother. At the funeral, my sister met a man and fell in love with him at first sight. After the funeral, she never found the man again, and she had no contact information. A week later, my sister killed my sister.
The reason is that another funeral will enable her to meet the man again.
Hearing this, Zhu couldn't help interrupting: That's ridiculous. You made up this story.
I stared at Zhu Xiaobai seriously and told him that the truth of the story was not important. I have seen women take greater risks and losses because of their attractiveness.
After talking about the danger of attraction, I need to implant a concept into Zhu's thought again-the exclusiveness of attraction. Attraction has nothing to do with people's feelings, but only for their own survival needs. Since it came into being, it has hijacked a woman's body and mind.
Attractive working methods are extremely secretive.
For example, 100 years ago, when communication was far less convenient than it is now, Morse code became popular all over the world. This code uses different dots, dashes and unique intervals to represent numbers, characters and special symbols. Different combinations of dots, strokes and intervals have different ways of receiving and interpreting.
So is attraction. If you send it in the wrong way, or the other person's receiving status is off, then she will never feel your attraction.
But once the other person feels it, there is no obstacle, and no logical thinking can change this feeling.
Since the first impression is so important, what are the factors that affect the first impression?
Media planning experts have a famous saying: If you want to make a good impression, you only need 7 seconds. Through maximum analysis, people come to the conclusion that the factors that affect the first impression include the following aspects:
(1) More than half of first impressions are related to appearance. However, appearance not only refers to a beautiful face, but also includes posture, temperament, expression and clothing.
For example, experiments show that when people meet for the first time, they pay more attention to their hair than their faces. Long hair means health and sexy, short hair looks confident and successful, and natural, medium-long hair without a specific style makes people feel smart and real. For another example, shaking hands can also convey important information. Those who shake hands with focused eyes and strong palms can not only make you feel good, but also gain your trust.
(2) About 40% of first impressions are related to sound. Tone, intonation, speed and rhythm will all affect the formation of the first impression. The voice of telemarketers recruited by many companies is crisp and pleasant, because the voice on the phone is the main factor that determines their first impression for customers who have never met before. If the unfamiliar voice is hoarse and dry, then the customer is likely to hang up before listening. Therefore, shaping a charming voice is very important for people's first communication.
(3) Less than 10% of first impressions are related to words and manners. Although words and manners do not play a decisive role in the formation of first impressions, they are also very important. When others contact you for the first time, your first sentence and your first action will be a strong basis for them to judge you.
Xifeng in A Dream of Red Mansions is a person with strong social skills. She is exquisite in every way. She makes everyone happy. When she first met Lin Daiyu, she first shaped her first image through her voice.
While everyone was talking to Daiyu, Xifeng's laughter came from a distance: "I came late and didn't pick up my guests!" " Daiyu was puzzled when she heard this, and felt that this person was provocative and presumptuous. “。 Although she didn't see Xi's face, she knew from her voice that this was a powerful role.
Visible sound plays a great role in the first impression.
Therefore, in order to make a good first impression on others, we should practice our way of speaking. In many cases, a clear and unified voice is more important than the content of the speech. The ideal speech speed is 230 per minute? 300 words is appropriate. Moreover, when we meet for the first time, it is better to have a higher tone in the first 10 second, which is easier to attract the other party's favor.