A little girl with long pigtails naively sat on a small bench at the door, shaking her head and reciting nursery rhymes, one after another, telling the story of time from dawn to darkness in a tireless and immature voice. ...
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This is me when I was a child. In addition to entering kindergarten, one of the main contents of pre-school education is that grandma has taught me countless nursery rhymes. I repeat every day like a treasure, imagine the characters and stories in nursery rhymes, and ask questions from time to time. The memory of childhood is boundless. My memory is very long, and I can even recall some fragments about 2 years old. In every memory, I always see grandma's kind smile and feel her warm embrace. I was brought up by my grandmother.
? I don't know what my grandmother was like when she was young, because since I knew her, she has been an old man, a kind and gentle little lady with a bun. According to my grandmother, she was born in the year of Renzi (the first year of the Republic of China 19 12). Her maiden name was Deng, and then her husband's name was Xu, so she became a family. Every time I lie in my grandmother's arms, I always ask her my own story, and she will be happy to tell me. I often fall asleep when I listen and think about those distant worlds, so I get familiar with them again and again, just like a seed that takes root and sprouts in my memory and still flourishes today.
? My grandmother was born in a small town in western sichuan bazi. My grandmother's mother is a young and capable widow. She runs a famous Deng's Big Burning House (the name of the old winery). Many long-term and short-term workers are invited to work in the combustion workshop, which is often crowded with people. Every year 1 month 15, the burning shop ends its meat-eating, and the kitchen is particularly lively and prosperous. Business in the hands of the widow bodhi old zu, thriving, buying land, day by day to the peak.
Grandma has four brothers and sisters, three women and one man, eldest brother, elder sister, grandmother and third sister, so she used to be called grandma Deng Erjie. Teacher Xue was invited to teach her four brothers and sisters to read in the backyard. Grandma said she was the dumbest and most afraid of being beaten by the teacher. By the end of the year, the teacher will put all the books she has learned on the list and type them one by one, which is called "guaranteed books". If she can't recite them, she will be beaten by the ruler, so grandma often has an idea that she would rather work than study. Although she also has the idea of being tired of learning, she was forced to learn Daughter's Classics, Hundred Family Names, Four Books, Lao Zi, Zhuangzi and so on. When I was a child, I worshipped my grandmother because she went to college! Later, I learned that this "university" is not a "university".
? The most painful thing for grandma when she was a child was foot binding. At first, it was so painful that she couldn't eat any food. Except for her thumb and little finger, her other fingers were either broken and stepped on the soles of her feet, or deformed, so you can imagine the degree of pain at that time. Later, I often helped my grandmother pedicure, and I was always glad that I was not born in her time.
? Grandma's marriage was a major turning point in her life. In grandma's words, marriage is never wrong. At first, the matchmaker introduced Master Xu to the county seat. Because he felt that the Xu family's grandmother was too powerful and was afraid that her grandmother would suffer in the past, Deng refused. Later, other matchmakers came to introduce Master Xu, and said that the great grandmother had passed away, and she would not suffer in the past, so the marriage became. Who knows that marriage is the beginning of suffering.
? Grandpa is also unlucky. He was adopted as a grandson by Xu Jiangshi, the widow of the family, and lived with his grandmother Xu Jiang. Life is very rich, because Xu Jiang's family has money. After Xu Jiangshi's husband died, he was guarding a pair of children. Some people with ulterior motives poisoned these children in order to get her property, leaving the widow Jiang alone and trying to force her to remarry in order to embezzle her property. But the widow Jiang resolutely stayed and reluctantly adopted my grandfather as a grandson after losing her husband and children. In the early stage of adoption, I was reminded to apply for adoption documents as soon as possible, so as not to be rejected by my family in the future. However, Xu Jiangshi was resolute in character and hated him because of his children, so he decided for himself regardless of whether they agreed or not. In this way, two grandparents lived alone, grandpa grew up day by day, and Xu Jiangshi was dying, and finally one day he fell ill. At this time, it was repeatedly reminded that the adoption documents needed to be written before they could be legalized, so the litigation lawyers were asked to establish the adoption documents for the clan to sign and approve. But halfway through the signing of the document, she traveled to the west by crane, and the clan took advantage of the situation to retract the confession, denying it, so the famous Xu family case began. The Xu family, far and near, are involved. A whole street in the west street of the county has become a Dojo. All silk shops, bright fire shops (now grocery stores) and all restaurants have been cut off. Anyone who claims to come to mourn will develop mourning clothes, distribute commemorative items and provide food. The running water mat was held for more than a month and the property was sold. Valuable furniture in the house was looted. My grandfather is in his twenties. Afterwards, the clansmen kindly left my grandfather dozens of acres of land, but the rent for the next three years was collected in advance, and my grandfather became penniless and lived a precarious life.
? Grandma promised the matchmaker. After asking about the result of the property case, although she regretted it, she kept her promise and didn't break her word. She just secretly supplemented her grandfather. Even the wedding dresses are sent to the Xu family in the middle of the night and then sent back to the Deng family to hide their eyes and ears. When my grandmother got married, it was the heyday of the Deng family's career, so my grandmother prepared all the dowry, full of furniture, and even the clothes for the future children aged 7 or 8. My mother said that she was still wearing grandma's dowry when she went to school. Grandma's brother is a helmsman in robes, and his brothers are numerous, all armed with live ammunition. On my grandmother's wedding day, she was in a big sedan chair. Along the way, in addition to seeing off relatives, my uncle also arranged for brothers to escort them with guns to Xujia, a county town more than 20 miles away.
? After a beautiful wedding, grandparents often accept charity from their parents, and they can't recover the rent until three years later. Their relationship is very harmonious and respectful. Grandpa can't do business in person because of his physical injury. Maybe he lacks business sense. He is constantly cheated by his partners or buddies, and often ends up losing money, so his life is normal, but he is often depressed, so he gets worse. Grandpa is extremely kind, but whenever someone comes to the door, he says, xu teacher, we can't open a pot in our house. Can we buy some rice on credit? Grandpa is always on credit, just asking the other person to leave his name, and he doesn't even know where he lives. Later, I turned over the old account books kept by my mother's family and found several large credit slips.
? My grandmother's brother, that is, my uncle, is very clever. He is a good hand in business, he can talk and calculate. He is famous for his ability to calculate accounts by hand. Every time I pay the rent and pay the imperial grain, I ask him for help in all directions. My uncle is also very proud. He once owned the first foreign carriage (bicycle) in the county and rode it around the world. His name is Deng Meili. Moreover, people also attached great importance to righteousness and joined Paoge, a folk society in western sichuan bazi, and became a helmsman. Deng's well-off family has aroused the envy of others, and the villain has taken it to heart. When his uncle was a teenager, he was lured into an opium den and became addicted to opium. When his family is rich, he is not worried. Later, with the decline of business, his uncle embarked on the road of losing his family.
? My grandfather was sickly and died at the age of 40 because of repeated business failures, leaving my grandmother in her thirties to take care of four children, the oldest 12 years old and the youngest just over 2 years old. At that time, my grandmother was very anxious, her eyesight dropped sharply, and at the worst, she couldn't see the road clearly. As a family member, my uncle came forward to help manage the fields in order to support my grandmother and orphans and widows. Life went smoothly in the first two years, and my uncle and mother went to school normally. Two years later, my uncle not only lost his huge Deng family industry, but also lost his grandmother's dozens of acres of mother land. Every time I hear this, I always ask my grandmother, why not let my uncle pay? Grandma kindly touched my head and told me, "I owe soot." I had a bad time when I got married and should give it back to him. I never hated him. " In my grandmother's mouth, I have never heard her call uncle "ash". She told me that after liberation, "Ashe" was arrested, but because there was no bloody case, she just accompanied the killing field and was put in prison. Later, she didn't know she was dead. After listening to my uncle, I don't know what to say, so every time I talk, I always bring the topic to my uncle's rickshaw and ask many things I want to ask.
? From 1946, grandma's family of four began to live a hard life. The old lady with little feet has poor eyesight and can't go out to make a living. So my uncle began to do some odd jobs with my uncle, and my mother learned to play sandals with my aunt. At that time, my mother was only 10 years old and her hands were weak. Even if her hands are blistered, the sandals she kicks can only sell for half the price of others. Good neighbors help them live from time to time. In those hard years, my grandmother spoke peacefully, but I often burst into tears when I heard it. Finally arrived 1949, my uncle and mother have jobs, and my family has alleviated hunger.
? Nevertheless, during the Cultural Revolution, grandma did not escape the treatment of "landlord", stood on a high bench to feed mosquitoes and was criticized for wearing a pointed hat. Grandma tells these stories just like telling other people's stories, without a trace of complaint. I have no regrets when telling the story that everything in my family was moved away by others in the name of Lao Si. Instead, I often feel aggrieved and rude. My grandmother always caresses my head and says to me, "Three poor and three rich are not old."
? Grandma often praises me for my good memory, and I can recite everything I have said, but I marvel at her ability. Although she said that self-reported reading is not as good as the other three brothers and sisters, I found that there are too many mysterious things in her mind and her memory is superior. She is our family's almanac and computer repository. Anyone who can't figure it out can ask her old man. Neighbors and children sometimes ask me in surprise: "Your mother-in-law can actually speak idioms"? I always proudly say, "My mother-in-law studied in a private school."
? Grandma has been living with us. I have slept with my grandmother since I was weaned. Every night before going to bed, I like to enjoy her pat. She will always pat me on the back to put me to sleep while watching things I can't understand. I often eavesdrop on grandma's words with a half-squint, but I only hear and remember one sentence: Too old gentleman, anxious as a spring (homophonic). I once asked her, what is "rushing in"? She just laughed and didn't answer, so it was fruitless. When I grew up, I found that only Taoist priests can exorcise ghosts and avoid evil spirits, and my slogan: "Too old gentleman, urgent as a law" can correspond. From this perspective, regular grandma is calming my nerves and making me safe in my dreams. Because I was too young and her voice was too small, I vaguely heard "rushing in." At that time, I wondered why I had to be called too old gentleman every time I slept. Now that I think about it, I regret forgetting to ask grandma about it when I grow up.
? No matter how hard life is, grandma's style has not changed, and family etiquette has not been abolished. She always prepares a suit for herself and her children to wear on important occasions. Etiquette is never slow, and our etiquette is completed in a certain discipline. She is good at managing skin, cream and honey, and even in the most difficult time, she has to wipe her face with "mash floating" (water floating on mash). In our memory, we often see the "orange" (grapefruit) on her face, which makes us laugh.
? Grandma always lights a clear oil lamp with a clean pot on New Year's Eve. In the early morning of the first day of the first month, we will cook jiaozi to worship ancestors and gods, and then eat vegetarian food for one day on the first day; The fifteenth day of the first month will show us the lights; I will wear wormwood on Dragon Boat Festival and teach me to be a red monkey and carry a melon. Worship ancestors on July 15; Mid-Autumn Festival; Laba porridge; On the twenty-third day of the twelfth lunar month, she sacrificed to the kitchen god ... all the year round, she came like this until she left.
? Grandma still has some cold humor, and she was suddenly amused. Once my grandmother asked me to do something, and I replied impatiently, "I know." Grandma didn't blame me for being rude. She just said to me, "You know better than me, you know better than me, and you know better than me." I laughed as soon as I heard it, so I quickly spoiled and apologized.
? Since junior high school, I have gone out to school and stayed at school. The joy of leaving home always replaces the melancholy of homesickness. Only when I go home every weekend and see my grandmother waiting for hope at the door can I arouse a kind of emotion, so I ran back in three steps and held her tightly until she said that I was killing her. Every week when I go home, she will take out the good things left for me, either food or clothes.
? When I was a child, my feet were covered with chilblains every winter, and I slept warmly at night, itchy as hell. My grandmother always pinches frostbite for me at the other end of the bed. I use my mouth for a while, my thumb for a while, my heel for a while, and my little finger for a while. My grandmother can accurately locate it, which is also very suitable, otherwise I will howl and I don't know how long I will sleep every night. The next day, I was lying in bed, and grandma couldn't wait to call me. Every time I ask my grandmother to count to 123, I pull it up with my hand. This habit was kept until my grandmother couldn't pull it.
My childhood was a happy child, because my grandmother took care of me. Grandma is a delicate woman, dressed to the fullest. She always asks her mother to buy me all kinds of beautiful "curlers" (long ribbon scarves) to tie my hair, buy hair bands and velvet snow hats, and dress me up beautifully. I remember when I graduated from high school that year, my grandmother asked my mother to prepare a set of gold ornaments for me and let me wear earrings, saying, "I don't look good without earrings." At that time, I was an angry youth. How did these feudal and vulgar ideas get into my eyes? But now I have kept the habit of wearing earrings, but I think I seem to be missing something without earrings. Grandma wouldn't let me wash my face with cold water, saying it would turn yellow and black, and wouldn't let me do housework, saying that "fingers are like mushrooms after rain" is good.
? Grandma's discipline: polish your shoes before going out, because "there are no shoes under your feet"; Do things rationally, "it is reasonable to travel all over the world, and it is difficult to move without reason"; To be a man, you must have character, not be greedy for petty gains, and "be hungry for food, so aim high"; Be friendly to people, "when people are grateful for a little water, they will be rewarded"; Be charitable, "don't forget to repay kindness"; Keep a low profile and don't "wear fancy shoes to lift your feet"; Filial piety, or "dripping from the eaves, dripping from the old nest" ...
Grandma, a gentle and kind old lady with little feet, I gave her a good temperament when I grew up and knew what "temperament" was.
? Grandma has been a widow all her life except for her impaired eyesight. When she was over 80 years old, many young people asked my grandmother the secret of skin care, because almost baby skin can be used to describe her face, and our family always replied with a smile: honey, fermented glutinous rice, tangerine. In fact, my grandmother's secret should be her inner nursery rhymes, strong backbone and peaceful mind, which I can't reach.
? As far as I can remember, I have never heard my grandmother complain. She was very kind to others all her life and always faced ups and downs with a calm heart until her death.
It snowed heavily in Chengdu today, and I felt a little happy. Looking at the distant sky, it was gray, and my memory once again brought me back to the snowy day of my childhood. The house is covered with thick snow. I'm wearing a cotton-padded coat, a snow hat and gloves. I stood on a high bench and in front of a low eaves. I shoveled the snow off the roof with a cauldron and put it in a basin. The man with the basin is my grandmother. My grandmother said to shovel the snow home to soak salted eggs. There will be delicious salted duck eggs on the Dragon Boat Festival next year. While working hard, I look forward to it ...
Now I'm not confused, grandma's nursery rhymes are still engraved in my mind, so long, so long, and I will remember them for life. If I have a grandson, I will say before he goes to bed: Are you in a hurry, Grandfather? I can't help laughing at the thought.
"Green bamboo ya, purple bamboo ya, call the concierge's in-laws, the son of the green family can race horses, the woman of the Ma family can spin flowers, the elder sister can spin Ganoderma lucidum, the second sister can spin peony flowers, and the third sister can't spin yarn, so she won't pick high materials ..."
? "I passed by my mother-in-law, who invited me to sit in the house, my mother-in-law invited me to sit by the bed, my father-in-law invited me to sit on the bench, my uncle invited me to sit in front of the stove, and my aunt invited me to sit on the threshold." ...
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