Parents are loving and happy, and children are exposed. He knows what a happy love marriage is like. In the future, he will look for a suitable and beautiful love and know how to manage a beautiful marriage.
Young writer Li Jing has a happy and warm family. Her parents have been married for more than 30 years, and they have never been red-faced or separated for a day. Because there is a word "plum" in my mother's name, my father has studied plum blossoms for 30 years and planted them in his own yard. The daily objects at home are plum blossom patterns.
Jing Li said that his father looked at Mei and his mother looked at Mei. The tenderness in the eyes is the sweetest life. My father is a cook, my mother loves fish, and my father's specialty is braised whole fish. Jing Li has always believed that there is beautiful love in this world, because, from an early age, her parents let her see what really beautiful love looks like. Jing Li said that if there is love, it must be the way her parents love each other.
Now Jing Li has her own love and marriage. She and her husband, Yan Ling, have never been apart for a day since they were together. Her husband dotes on her very much and loves her. For a long time, she was never allowed to worry about housework. Her husband does most trivial daily work in the family. Mr. Wang always cuts the fruit for her to eat. Every time, he will carefully cut it and put it neatly, just like a fruit platter in a restaurant.
Yan Ling is a global traveler. In eight years, he traveled to seven continents 100 countries alone, and walked 20,000 steps with his backpack every day. Every time he travels to a brand-new place, he will do the action of "a word horse" and take a commemorative photo of trapeze. However, it is precisely because of this long walk and the lack of warm-up exercise that meniscus tear needs surgery on his right leg.
In the days after the operation, Jing Li took care of her husband's daily life and did all the housework. But Mr. Wang doesn't think these are what women should do. For Jing Li's labor, Mr. Wang always kisses her tenderly and sweetly, and says thank you Jingjing.
When Yanling suffers from pain and falls asleep after the operation, Jing Li will gently kiss her husband's forehead. This is how her mother loves her every time she falls ill and sleeps. Now she loves her other half in the way that her mother loves her, which is a kind of inheritance of love.
The love between parents will have a positive and beautiful influence on children, so that children can have the ability to love and find true love. It took Jing Li only five minutes to confirm that Yanling was the soul mate she had been waiting for, and she was willing to join hands with him for life.
On the contrary, parents are indifferent to domestic violence and even quarrel endlessly. It is difficult for children to find happy love in the future, because they have never seen a happy marriage and love daily life, and they don't know how to love others.
Mei Mei's parents are indifferent and often quarrel. Growing up, Meimei heard what her mother said the most: "How did I marry someone like your father? Really blind. "According to my mother, she wanted to drink water during her confinement, but my father didn't give it to her. The next month, in winter, I went to the pond to wash diapers myself. Dad is either indifferent and silent to mom, or it hurts to say it.
Between parents, Mei Mei can't see the beautiful love. There is only endless indifference and quarrel between them. Mei Mei once asked her mother, since she was so unhappy with her father, why not part? Mom's answer is that it's all because of Mei Mei.
Meimei has been looking for many years, and her boyfriends have changed one after another, still not knowing what kind of love she really needs. Later, after being introduced, they got married not long after getting along. Married life is exactly like her parents. Her husband has a bad temper, always blowing his beard and glaring, without a gentle word. Mei Mei also became cold and determined, and showed no concern for her husband. They have no other feelings except their parents. But they still live together because of the children.
"For children" is the reason why many marriage choices will continue. However, such a marriage will ruin the future happiness of children. If you let your child see a marriage without love all day, it will be difficult for him to find true love in the future because he doesn't know what a marriage with love looks like.
The marriage and love between Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu have always been envied by the world. They have been together for more than 60 years, from their school days to the end of their lives. Qian Zhongshu said: I never thought about getting married before I met her; I have been married to her for decades, and I have never regretted marrying her, and I have never thought about marrying another woman. Jiang Yang has the same idea.
Qian Zhongshu is over 70 years old and still writes to Jiang Yang to express his love. Their love never faded one day, but became stronger with the passage of time. Just like old wine, the longer it takes, the more mellow it becomes.
After reading Jiang Yang's "Drinking Tea", I know that Jiang Yang's parents have deep feelings. There are two paragraphs about parents' feelings in the book:
My parents seem to be old friends, and our children have never heard them quarrel once since they were children. It is common for old-school couples not to quarrel, but there will be resentment in the woman's heart, and there is not much language between husband and wife. My parents talk about everything.
My father was in tears in the wilderness and wrote his name on coffins, tiles, bricks, surrounding trees, and underground masonry-wherever he could. This is even a contact line left by the mountain fire, so as not to leave my mother behind and get back.
This shows that Jiang Yang's parents have deep feelings and love each other deeply. Therefore, Jiang Yang naturally has the ability to find love and knows how to manage a beautiful marriage. Her marriage, like that of her parents, was not exhausted by trivial matters of life, but the longer Mika stayed.
Children are a mirror of their parents. They are just like their parents. Parents' attitude towards love and marriage determines their children's future happiness in love and marriage.
I always advise my unmarried relatives and friends to wait until they are really suitable for their soul mates. Don't believe those absurd remarks that "living is the same as marrying anyone" and "two people will definitely have a long and painful running-in period together", which are used to deceive people and paralyze people. It's really different to marry different people. A truly suitable soul mate has no painful running-in.
For your own happiness, and for the happiness of your future children, please unmarried people carefully and correctly choose the other half, and married people take good care of their marriage.