The whole film revolves around two words-heartbeat.
In the film, Xiao Han, played by Shawn, is a married uncle with a typical "middle-aged crisis". The sudden death of his best friend made him suddenly feel that life was too short and he lost his passion for work and family. By chance, he met yoyo, a girl in red who came to the company for print publicity. Since then, he has been infatuated and unable to extricate himself.
In order to get married, Xiao Han completely ignored the fact that he was married and launched a crazy pursuit of yoyo. After the telephone invitation was spoiled by the female boss, he went to the school, the racecourse and the yoga class to chase after him. Several "friends and friends" around him tried their best and staged one farce after another that made people laugh.
In reality, Xiao Han's perseverance and the help of these gods around him must have successfully won the goddess, both mentally and physically derailed. However, after all, this is a film that has been reviewed by radio and television, and it is necessary to have a correct view. Therefore, the story that followed was teased by the film side as a dream of spring, which was used to explain everything, so that the male prodigal son could repent and return to the beauty of his family. Then tell us a simple truth:
The temptations outside are illusory, and life should also cherish the present, which is plain and true.
Well, this routine is simply a B version of goodbye mr. loser. Reality is reality after all. If we can solve the emotional crisis in real marriage by dreaming, then everyone is afraid of cheating in marriage. Let's just dream and go to work honestly.
In the final analysis, why do men fall into a midlife crisis after marriage? In fact, it's just that the time is long, the novelty is gone, and the passion has faded. No matter how you say it, it has nothing to do with the word "love", but a capitalized word "sex" We all know that a woman who is in her prime of life, once married, is the beginning of her devaluation. Trivial life, rice, oil and salt will consume a woman's most precious youth, and since then she has become a housewife who can only bargain with a vegetable seller on the street.
Men, on the other hand, stand at the age of 30 and are not confused at the age of 40. At this age, their career and value will rise linearly, and their expectations for life will gradually increase. They will be more and more dissatisfied with the status quo, and more and more want to find novelty and excitement. At this time, whether beautiful as Che Xiao or a smart and capable woman, Sao Lang base is the muse in their hearts. Later, men found that the consequence of idleness was that they lost their reputation, lost their lives, and suddenly woke up after losing the warmth of their families:
No matter how good the outside world is, I still sleep soundly at home.
Just like Xiao Han, he can do nothing but feel guilty and take his wife and children to the zoo. Maybe you will still live like a walking corpse in the future, or you may get over the scar and forget the pain and cheat again. At this time, women, whether they make a hullabaloo about divorce or silently endure for their children, have become innocent victims and their lives are bleak.
So, how to deal with these problems or how to escape from this strange circle?
In my opinion, the way to solve this kind of problem is just like Dayu's water control. It is not a permanent cure but a temporary solution to prevent it by simply chasing and intercepting. And the only way to effectively treat men's "middle-aged crisis" may be only one:
That is to be his goddess, that is, to be the best self.
Just as the saying goes: the smartest woman is the one who learns to invest in herself and cultivate her own temperament.
For a long time, under the traditional education of parents and teachers, women have to assume the responsibility of a nanny after marriage and pay unconditionally to wait on men. As a result, many women no longer pay attention to their dressing as they did before marriage, nor do they study and travel to cultivate their hobbies as before. They only know how to cook rice, oil and salt every day and live themselves into a "conch girl". The previous charm was completely consumed by the years, so that it became the object of her husband's dislike.
Let alone a woman, if a man is married, he will be unkempt, have no ambition, have no hobbies and unique charm, and only know how to turn around the children in a pot, and few wives can stand it.
Therefore, to keep love fresh for a long time, we must learn to invest in ourselves and always maintain a charm that others do not have to attract each other.
When I say charm, I don't mean that women should buy expensive cosmetics and bags to arm themselves. Everyone's family environment is different. If you don't have a certain economic strength, you will blindly compare and give yourself extravagance. This is not investment, it is death. When we rebuild our charm, we must be in line with reality. After all, not all rich women who wear mink are full of charm.
As a man, the goddess in my heart must have a distinctive temperament. This temperament comes from a simple and decent dress, an elegant conversation, a unique self-restraint and self-confidence.
As the saying goes, reading is definitely the cheapest investment for everyone. Reading more books can really bring a change from the inside out. In the process of accepting the collision of knowledge and ideas, we will refresh our views on the world again and again, gain a new understanding of life again and again, establish self-confidence in it again and again, and live a new height of life.
Think about it, a knowledgeable and cultured seven lonely days is sitting opposite, with endless topics and fresh and interesting contents. The other party will naturally be attracted by this woman, and then open the door to the new world and expand the desire to explore further. In this way, the basic prototype of a goddess is completed.
Furthermore, to grasp a man's heart forever, we must let him live in a sense of crisis forever.
The reason why the goddess is a goddess is because she has countless ministers under her skirt. To do this, we must equal or surpass each other's own value. No matter women or men, no one will be interested in a person who has been held in his hand. The most direct way to guard against each other's marital infidelity is to let each other be swayed by considerations of gain and loss.
Note that when I say "be swayed by considerations of gain and loss", I don't mean to encourage any of you to get to know the opposite sex through social softness and make the other person afraid. I mean simply, to enhance the value of self.
Regardless of love and marriage, the most important foundation of a good relationship is reciprocity. Men show their value by their career wealth, especially women. Having one's own career is an important guarantee for married life. The economic foundation determines the superstructure. If a woman always wants to rely on men to achieve wealth control, she will put herself in a weak position from the beginning.
When we were young, we all had the experience of asking our parents for money. As long as our parents stared, we could only walk away in despair. At that time, we had no ability to control our own lives, so we had to rely on our parents. And parents, after all, are not our generation, and they will not fully understand and understand your inner thoughts. They will think more about their future life.
Therefore, parents may not understand you, let alone lovers who have only known each other for several years. Instead of passively looking forward to each other's understanding and compassion, it is better to win dignity for yourself by relying on both hands.
A good career can not only bring you economic income, but more importantly, it will bring you continuous support and self-confidence. When your own value can be effectively brought into play, when you are acclaimed as a benchmark in the industry, the other party will look at you with special respect and admit your position in their hearts. At that time, will you still sit on the sofa opposite the TV and look at the ceiling every day? It's too late for him to go home and watch your big BOSS, and he has no idea to make trouble.
So, stop worrying about men's "middle-aged crisis" and think about how to be his goddess first ~
In fact, it is never wrong for both men and women to invest in themselves and treat themselves better. Always remember this sentence:
When you get better, everything you want will naturally come to you.
Finally, let me say one more thing:
Clara is so goddess-like, she is ashamed of her face ~
I hope you like this article, good night, huh ~