When it comes to parent-child homework assigned by kindergarten teachers, many parents feel headaches and helplessness. Some time ago, the teacher in my daughter’s class asked her to complete a handiwork of “making a slide out of paper.” When receiving the homework, some parents complained privately: "I thought I would be relieved when my child went to kindergarten; I didn't expect all kinds of parent-child homework to be really tiring for parents."

Indeed, many parent-child homework assignments in kindergartens are either paper-cutting or painting, and sometimes there are also costume design and talent performances... which are far beyond the children's abilities. In order for the children not to be compared with their classmates, Go down and gain the teacher's favor, and many parents directly do it for them. After asking the parents around him, Wenwen's dad found that most of the parent-child homework is basically done by the parents, with the children doing the homework next to them.

Some time ago, the teacher of Tongtong’s kindergarten assigned a parent-child homework, asking the children to go home and carefully observe a fish, and then draw it, and then have it judged by the class to see who can draw more like it.

Tongtong was serious. After getting home from school, he put down his schoolbag and squatted next to his goldfish tank to carefully observe the shape of the little goldfish. Then he took out the paper and pen and started to draw the fish. After drawing it several times, Tongtong felt bad. In the end, Tongtong was a little discouraged and almost cried.

The grandfather on the side, watching his grandson scratching his head, ran to the kitchen, took out a fish he just bought in the morning, put it on the dining table, then ran to the study to take out the ink, and prepared a piece of white paper.

Then, Grandpa smeared the ink all over the fish. When the ink was half dry, he placed the fish on the white paper and pressed it until the whole body of the fish was pressed on the paper.

When grandpa took the fish away from the paper, a fish appeared vividly on the paper. Grandpa picked up the pen and drew a pair of eyes for the fish. Seeing his grandpa's amazing painting skills, his grandson Tongtong hugged his grandpa happily and shouted: "Grandpa is great, he painted so well."

Sure enough, when Tongtong brought the fish to school, he was not only praised by the teacher, but also envied by his classmates, which made Tongtong instantly feel that Beier had some face.

When the teacher posted the painting online, it immediately aroused heated discussions among netizens. Some netizens complained: "Grandpa is really amazing at painting, a master." Others joked: "What if the teacher asked me to draw a fish this time and a dinosaur next time?" At the same time, some parents questioned: "This is a parent-child homework. Is it really okay for parents to do all the work for them? ”

Both adults and children have self-esteem and hope that the homework they submit is excellent and can be praised by teachers and envied by classmates. But as a parent, Wenwen’s dad has always felt that we should help our children build an “excellent” process rather than achieve “excellent” results.

If parents do all the parent-child homework in kindergarten, their children will get a good ranking. Then when the child goes to elementary school, will she say: "Dad, please help me with my homework, otherwise I won't get 100 points." At that time, will you still help with my homework?

Some parents will definitely say: Parent-child homework in kindergarten, if parents do not help their children, it will definitely be miserable if the children do it based on their own abilities. At the same time, teachers will also think that parents do not cooperate and do not pay attention.

Some parents once analyzed such a case: the teacher asked the children to use plastic bags to make clothes, and the family made one very honestly. It was not particularly beautiful, but other parents bought it online. very beautiful. As a result, when the clothes were displayed, the child looked at the clothes he had made and burst into tears...

In fact, this phenomenon exists. Children think that the clothes of their classmates are good-looking. But if my own is not so pretty, my self-esteem will be hit, so I burst into tears.

But just because the child cries, do parents do the homework instead?

Wenwen’s father does not agree. On the contrary, the child crying at this time shows that he has a clear understanding of himself and knows that he is not as good as others. This is actually a process of self-understanding. Only when you clearly understand your shortcomings can you make up for them and catch up with outstanding people.

Relevant data surveys have found that: More than 50% of parents have been the "shooters" of their children's homework. On the one hand, the reason is: They are afraid of leaving a bad impression on the teacher and making the teacher feel that they are not good at parenting. On the other hand, they are afraid that their children will not be praised by teachers if they do not do well at school, which will make them sad and hurt their self-esteem.

·From the perspective of parents and teachers

In fact, the purpose of parent-child homework in kindergarten is to provide parent-child opportunities and encourage high-quality interaction between parents and children. At home, teachers cannot intuitively feel the interaction between parents and children.

If only the interaction process between parents and children could be intuitively displayed in front of the teacher. Even if the child cannot complete the homework well based on his or her ability, I believe the teacher can feel the intentions of the parents and children.

In this regard, every time Wen Wen's father completes handwork with his daughter, he will put a small card in the homework to share his daughter's creative ideas or highlights of the process of completing the homework.

The purpose of the small card is to let the teacher see the process of her daughter's hard work in completing her homework, and also see the care of Wenwen's parents in accompanying her. She has received public praise from the teacher several times, and Wenwen was immediately Dad has become a "man of the hour" among parents.

·From the perspective of the children themselves

When children do their own homework and do not get a teacher, they will inevitably show "unhappiness". In fact, in Wenwen's father's opinion, parents should be happy. Although their children are unhappy, it is also an opportunity for their children to grow.

One time, my daughter took a homemade jack-o'-lantern to kindergarten. When she came back from school, she was a little unhappy because she felt that the jack-o'-lantern did not look good.

When Wenwen’s father heard this, he felt secretly happy because his daughter knew how to compare. As the saying goes: Only by comparison can we make progress! So I asked my daughter: Do the jack-o'-lanterns made by others look good in color? Or does it look good? What's wrong with what I did? Guide the child to tell the details, and finally encourage the child.

Wenwen’s father said at the beginning: “Dad likes the pumpkin lantern you made very much. The color combination is very innovative. Other people’s pumpkin lanterns are all orange, but the one you made is colorful; and You completed this pumpkin lantern by yourself. I remember that you used a glue stick to paste the bottom of the pumpkin lantern several times without giving up. It’s great! Many children can’t complete it independently.”

By comparing others' strengths and guiding children to discover their own strengths, children can understand that if others do well, they are not bad at what they do; while they can learn from others, they also have advantages.

Dad Wenwen believes that parent-child homework should focus on exercising children's abilities while being parent-child. First of all, when teachers assign homework, they should combine the children's actual practical abilities and do not "go beyond the outline."

Secondly, parents should learn to let go and do not have to do it for their children to get a good ranking. They can help by preparing preliminary materials, understanding the production steps, mobilizing children's enthusiasm, and focusing on getting children to participate.

All in all, in parent-child homework, the process is more important than the result, what do you think?