Don't wait for girls to come to you. Although it is possible, it is really rare. In fact, choosing a boyfriend for a girl is very similar to buying clothes. No one will count them shelf by shelf. They just browsed a shop. If there is nothing that catches their attention, they will go to the next store immediately. What attracts them most is print advertisements or clothes displayed by models. Although you don't have to buy it, your eyes stay a lot.
So, even if you are an honest and boring boy, don't be a dress on the shelf in the corner. Show yourself and let others see you! Participate in various activities in schools, institutions and society, and give full play to your abilities and advantages, ranging from challenging, creative and unusual things, such as your own dress, hairstyle, desk layout and so on. Although these are not in direct contact with girls, more girls can have more opportunities to notice you. Your statement may not be perfect, so it doesn't matter. You don't have to think about how many people who notice you will appreciate you, because as long as a few or even only one girl shows appreciation for you, you will have a successful start.
Second, take the first step bravely.
The hardest part is actually in the beginning Don't let men who are surrounded by girls oppress you and make you feel ashamed. The secret you need to know is that the number of times they kick the iron plate is actually much greater than the number of times they succeed. Although men who are good at chasing women have their own tricks, they all have two things in common: courage and thick skin.
Be bold and take the initiative. The extroversion, reserve and arrogance of girls are often just a shell to protect themselves. As long as you are polite and generous, they will not refuse your friendly greetings and sunny smiles. This may be your first step towards love.
Third, don't be afraid of many failures, because you only need one success.
Don't be afraid of rejection. It's definitely not your fault that a girl doesn't appreciate you, just as it's not her fault that you don't appreciate a girl. Even if you have been rejected by a hundred girls, it doesn't matter. Being rejected will not degrade your character and quality, but all you need is one success, one time is enough.
Sometimes, although a girl appreciates you and likes you, she doesn't love you, which makes you fall into the pain of unrequited love, but it is also very good and rare to take a step back and let go of your feelings and keep a confidante.
Only a playboy can calculate the success rate of chasing a woman, and a sincere man only yearns for a lifetime fate.
Fourth, normal mind, patience and tolerance.
Honest and dull boys will be nervous when facing girls, afraid of saying the wrong thing, expressing the wrong feelings and doing the wrong thing. Actually, you don't have to do this. What you have to do is to be yourself, let others clearly see your strengths, characteristics and weaknesses, and at the same time see your frankness. There is no perfect man in the world. You don't have to cover up your shortcomings at the expense of your honesty. This is neither possible nor worthwhile. Even if you can hide it for a while, you can hide it for a lifetime. The result is nothing more than wasting each other's time and feelings.
Don't make yourself nervous by thinking about falling in love as soon as you come into contact with girls. Be normal, start with your friends and let nature take its course, and you will have the best performance and the greatest opportunity. There is a saying that it is not unreasonable to chase girls insincerely (not to say that you are insincere, but to have a normal heart).
There is no clear boundary between appreciation, liking and liking, and girls themselves are often confused. Boys should be patient and give girls enough fuzzy space. Women sometimes like or even indulge in this ambiguity, which is a good time for men with rich love experience to play hazy emotional games, but for honest boys, it is inevitable to be anxious. Another secret you need to know is that a woman's love is actually like a turtle. When she feels danger and is afraid of being caught, she tightens up in the hard shell and only shakes her head and dances when she doesn't feel danger. This is the origin of the so-called "playing hard to get", and patience is important.
There is no perfect woman in the world. If you love a girl, you should be ready to accept all her advantages and disadvantages. A cynical man just wants to put a girl to bed, but he can turn a blind eye to her shortcomings, and even sweetly say that it is an advantage, which makes the girl very happy. Honest and dull boys cherish their feelings very much, and often can't tolerate places that are not pleasing to the eye, and fall into the pain of accepting and reluctant to give up. Think clearly, can you tolerate her shortcomings for a lifetime? Don't force yourself for a while, make a good timetable for your future life, Bob! ! ! .
Fifth, enter the world of girls.
Although you may be a financial expert, IT elite and entrepreneurial genius, your world with girls does not necessarily intersect. Many excellent boys are talented, but their knowledge field makes girls unable to find a door.
No way, you must take the initiative to enter her world, use your wisdom to find out the most popular styles of women's boots this autumn, and remember which superstars she is chasing, when they will release their albums, what concerts, beauty cosmetics, clothing tastes, and photography skills. Even if you don't know anything at present, you should stay up late to make up for it. Fortunately, at least these things are not more difficult and boring than your major. When these things are integrated and familiar, you can constantly surprise her one after another, and then enjoy her infatuation with you.
Sixth, the glory of being a girl.
Women are vain, and women are always comparing their men. You must be an honor to her. Tell her all the beautiful things about your talent, strengths, achievements and knowledge, and she will turn around and exaggerate for ten times before telling her girlfriends. The envy of others is your plus point. In terms of money, maybe she doesn't care how much you spend for her, but you must not let her best friend think you are a cheapskate. The same bouquet of flowers may be better sent to her office than to her dormitory, and face is often more important than lining.
Sixth, walk into the place leading to the soul.
With Lust, Caution, the earth people finally know where the road to a woman's heart is. Although there are still many moral controversies, it is a wonderful fact that women's love can be "made". When you make me wish, don't hesitate to shoot the door of love. Imagine that if you give up an opportunity, there will be many other dishonest and stupid people to win or cheat. A kind heart may not guarantee a happy ending, but who will regret it then? Who's hurt?