Is this really the character of pine nuts? Next, I will analyze it from three angles: family, interpersonal communication and career:
1. Family
As the eldest daughter of the family, Matsuko has a younger brother and a weak sister. He longed for his father's favor, but he couldn't get it. Even if he gave up his dream to enter a liberal arts university and become a teacher, he could not get more fatherly love. His father always focuses on his sister, which leads to a gap between Matsuko's expectation and reality. He will think that his sister has taken away his father's love, which leads to jealousy.
On the other hand, the relevant research results show that the self-awareness of non-only children is significantly lower than that of only children. For the acquisition of a toy or food, non-only children will think more about the needs of their brothers and sisters, rather than taking them for themselves and relying more on each other. I don't think Matsuko is a self-centered person. She must have deep feelings for her brother and sister, but in the end she had to face the indifference of her father and sister's death, and her brother turned her away. This is undoubtedly a big blow to pine nuts, resulting in the feeling of being abandoned.
2. Interpersonal communication
2. 1 love
Looking back on Matsuko's life, we can find that her communication with men follows the same pattern. She is easy to trust others and regards other men as her spiritual pillar, but sadly, almost all men have betrayed her, which is the second gap between expectation and reality.
2.2 Friendship
The friendship between Matsuko and Hui is a good example. She has a friendship with Hui for many years, but in order to maintain the relationship with her boyfriend, Matsuko chose to refuse Hui's help. When she saw Hui, who was still full of energy after her old age, the dignity and pride in her heart made her refuse Hui's help again and throw away her business card, which indirectly led to her accidental death. But in Matsuko's memory, it is obviously unreasonable to blame Ah Hui for giving up her, which also shows Matsuko's weakness of being too emotional and sensitive.
3. Occupation
As mentioned above, pine nuts take the man they love as their spiritual pillar, and the motivation for their work all comes from the desire to maintain this intimate relationship. So the disappointment of these men directly led Matsuko to choose to give up his career. For example, she chose to become a barber because of Shimadzu, and finally gave up this career; The fact that Yang Long began to give up after he got out of prison confirmed this. The failure of career once again made pine nuts feel strongly frustrated and powerless, which can be said to be a vicious circle.
Finally, Matsuko's question about his tragic life can be said to be quite classic:
It can be said that after a series of events, she always focused on the negative results and thought that what caused her nothing was the malice from others. Here I want to mention the theory of time view in time psychology. Zimbardo, an American psychologist, divides individual time views into six categories: negative time view, positive time view, fatalistic time view, hedonistic time view, future time view and transcendental time view.
Pine nuts obviously belong to a negative view of time and focus on the past. For such people, the past is like a cup hanging in the air. They are easily anxious, always full of despair, easily out of control, and difficult to control their emotions (for example, pine nuts scream alone in the apartment at the end of the article).
So I think the problem of pine nuts is not self-centered, arbitrary, and the short-sightedness of establishing interpersonal relationships can be simply summarized. She is not such a bad woman. Matsuko's life must be quite miserable, but this series of tragedies has both environmental reasons and Matsuko's own reasons. While lamenting his unfortunate experience, we should also think deeply about how to avoid these misunderstandings in life and avoid repeating the same mistakes.