Experts interpret low sexual desire Liang Weibo: Low male sexual desire leads to psychological barriers and is easy to fall into a vicious circle.
Professor Liang Weibo pointed out that the low sexual desire of men means that adult men are not interested in sexual fantasies and sexual activities continuously or repeatedly, resulting in sexual desire and interest that are not in line with their age, and then the level of sexual expression is reduced, the ability of sexual activity is weakened, and even sexual desire is completely lost. Throughout history and the world, it is an honor for men to have good sexual function or even a little excitement. The weakening of sexual activity makes patients with low sexual desire easily feel inferior and humiliated, causing psychological barriers such as depression and falling into a vicious circle of "low sexual desire → depression → increased sexual desire → more depression". For male patients, low sexual desire is more likely to endanger their lives and social interaction.
Take stock of five factors that lead to low sexual desire in men.
Mental stress bears the brunt, and bad personal habits cannot be ignored.
Professor Liang Weibo pointed out that there are many reasons for male low sexual desire, such as psychological factors, low androgen level, chronic diseases, drug factors and personal bad habits, among which psychological factors are the main ones.
Mental and psychological pressure is great. The fast pace of modern life, fierce competition, heavy work pressure and complicated interpersonal relationships have caused great psychological pressure on adult men, especially those with fragile and nervous psychological quality, resulting in a state of psychological disorder intertwined with anxiety and depression, which interferes with the function of cerebral cortex and leads to low sexual desire. More attention should be paid to such patients and the positive role of female spouses in treatment should be emphasized.
Androgen levels are low. Androgen can not only maintain male spermatogenic function and secondary sexual characteristics, but also improve the excitability of cerebral cortex center, stimulate sexual desire and produce sexual response. Low androgen level will directly lead to low sexual desire in men, sometimes accompanied by erectile dysfunction.
Chronic diseases. Severe general impatience and chronic diseases can lead to low sexual desire in men. Chronic active hepatitis, cirrhosis, chronic renal failure, congestive heart failure, etc. It can also destroy the normal process of hormone metabolism, make patients' physiological and psychological functions decline or even fail, thus leading to the decline or even disappearance of subjective desire and interest in sexual activities.
Drugs. Many drugs are directly related to low libido, such as antipsychotics, antihypertensive drugs (reserpine, antihypertensive drugs, spironolactone, etc. ), hormonal drugs (estrogen, antiandrogen drugs), etc. If necessary, you can communicate with relevant specialists to adjust the types and doses of drugs.
Personal living habits are not good. Long-term alcoholism will lead to chronic liver poisoning, which will increase the level of estrogen and decrease the level of androgen in the blood, thus leading to low sexual desire. In addition, lack of sleep and malnutrition may also lead to low sexual desire. It is possible to improve bad living habits.
Low sexual desire, if not handled properly, is easy to induce depression.
Detection can be divided into four levels to distinguish them.
Some men with low libido have reduced their active life, but their passive life aimed at satisfying women's demands or maintaining men's dignity rather than enjoying sexual pleasure has increased, and the total number of sexual activities has not decreased, which has no obvious impact on families and spouses. However, if mental and psychological problems are not solved, maintaining this passive life for a long time will easily lead to depression.
In order to let everyone better test whether they have low sexual desire, Professor Liang Weibo listed the following four levels:
Grade I: Sexual desire is weaker than normal, but the sexual requirements of the spouse are acceptable.
Secondary: sexual desire is weakened at a certain stage or only under certain circumstances.
Level 3: persistent low sexual desire, less than twice a month or passive obedience.
Grade Ⅳ: persistent low libido and sexual activity interruption for ≥6 months.
Professor Liang Weibo specially reminded that the diagnosis of low libido should be distinguished from psychosomatic or organic. In clinic, low libido needs to be distinguished from natural libido reduction (especially after entering old age). Generally speaking, after the age of 50, with the increase of age, male testicular function naturally declines, androgen secretion decreases, and sexual desire gradually weakens, which should not be regarded as pathological.
It is very important to treat hyposexuality differently and prevent recurrence.
Can people with low sexual desire be cured? Professor Liang Weibo pointed out that the treatment of low libido should adopt different treatment methods according to different causes. But the general principle is: relieve symptoms, control the disease, eradicate the cause and prevent recurrence.
Treatment of organic hyposexuality-treat systemic organic lesions first, and then treat hyposexuality after systemic function is improved. Patients with decreased androgen secretion can be given androgen adjuvant therapy, but it must be noted that the dose of hormone replacement therapy should be strictly controlled, and the level of sex hormones should be determined regularly by going back to the hospital, adjusting the dose in time and stopping the drug in time.
Treatment of sexual psychological apathy-mainly psychotherapy, supplemented by counseling and guidance. Popularize sex education and relieve their sexual concerns; Those who have had unsuccessful experiences should analyze the reasons and rebuild their confidence; People with psychological barriers such as excessive psychological pressure and depression must first clear their psychological barriers. Some patients can be given a small dose of phosphodiesterase inhibitor such as sildenafil in stages, which can improve the erection hardness of penis, improve the sensitivity of their own development area and enhance sexual desire.
Treatment of low libido caused by chemical factors such as drugs-prevent taking drugs and foods that reduce nerve excitability, gonadotropin and testosterone. Reduce smoking and refuse drugs.
Drug therapy to improve libido-Some drugs, including antipsychotics, can be used to treat low libido. Its mechanism is to enhance the body's response to sexual stimulation, reduce patients' depression, and enhance patients' pleasure from sexual activities, thus improving their sexual interest and increasing their active living ability.
People with low sexual desire and high mental stress bear the brunt of low sexual desire and are prone to depression. "Patients have uncoordinated sexual desire that is not suitable for their age, and then the level of sexual expression is reduced, the sexual activity ability is weakened, and the frequency of sexual activity is low. For example, having sex less than 1 time or less per month; Sometimes, although it is a little more, it is not voluntarily requested, but it is forced by the pressure of sexual partners, that is, the active life is reduced. " Professor Liang Weibo mentioned that some men with low sexual desire have reduced their active life, but their passive life aimed at satisfying women's demands or maintaining men's dignity rather than enjoying sexual pleasure has increased. The number of sexual activities has not decreased, and the impact on their families and spouses is not obvious. However, if mental and psychological problems are not solved, maintaining this passive life for a long time will easily lead to depression. Professor Liang Weibo pointed out that there are many reasons for male low sexual desire, such as psychological factors, low androgen level, chronic diseases, drug factors and personal bad habits, among which psychological factors are the main ones. The following is a detailed introduction.
Many people think that frigidity is just a common sexual dysfunction problem for women. Recently, however, experts from the School of Public Health of the Chinese University of Hong Kong conducted a survey on the sexual health status of 4678 adult men and women, and found that 20% of men said they had sexual dysfunction, of which premature ejaculation was the most common, accounting for 30%; Secondly, the problem of sexual apathy.
Many women think that men have a strong sexual desire. This idea stems from their girlhood experience, because at that time, boys of the same age were in a period of strong sexual desire. In fact, 20-year-old boys may always want to be "that", but for adult married men, they prefer different levels of communication, not just satisfying sexual requirements.
Dr Charles, a psychologist at the University of California, said: "Needless to say, adolescent men are more full of sexual fantasies than women. They often confuse emotional needs with sexual needs and want to satisfy emotional needs through sex. However, with the increase of age, work pressure and family burden will weaken the exuberant sexual desire in adolescence. Of course, a few people have always had a strong sexual desire and cannot be generalized. "
Professor Levin of the University of Los Angeles found through investigation that among couples with disharmony in sexual life, it is often the husband who produces sexual apathy. A middle-aged man just needs a hug, a kiss or an intimate whisper. Simple sexual intercourse is not very attractive to married men.
There are many reasons for men's low sexual desire.
When a man is not interested in sex continuously or repeatedly, lacks the subjective desire to engage in sexual activities, including sexual dreams and fantasies, and lacks the consciousness of participating in sexual activities, even if he is deprived of sexual activities, he has no sense of frustration. We call it "frigidity" There are many psychological and physiological factors that cause this state in men:
Lack of sexual knowledge
It is believed that "one drop of essence, ten drops of blood", sexual activity (including masturbation) will affect people's life span and damage people's vitality.
Bad life and sexual life style
Irregular working hours, poor living conditions, lack of freshness in sexual life, insufficient communication between sexual needs and feelings, lack of mutual interest and trust between husband and wife, and men often feel depressed and anxious because they can't satisfy their wives, all of which will make men's sexual desire low.
Age factor
Men's orgasm is usually before the age of 30, and then it goes downhill. And their partners may just get rid of the shy attitude towards sex and have a stronger demand.
Endocrine system diseases
Human sexual desire is closely related to the endocrine system. After getting sick, the balance of sex hormone secretion is disrupted, and people's sexual desire will be abnormal, even frigidity or hyperthyroidism. The common problems of men are insufficient androgen secretion in menopause, hypothyroidism and hyperprolactinemia.
sexual dysfunction
ED (erectile dysfunction), premature ejaculation and other problems will dampen men's self-esteem. After a long time, they will gradually avoid or even refuse sex life, which will eventually lead to low sexual desire.
In addition, systemic diseases, such as tumors, chronic diseases, nervous system diseases, malnutrition, fatigue and so on. , can cause low sexual desire. Overnutrition and obesity will also make men less interested in sex. Some drugs, such as some antihypertensive drugs, sedatives or psychotropic drugs, alcoholism, smoking, drug abuse, etc. , are one of the reasons for low sexual desire.
What about male frigidity?
Treat your expectations of sex life correctly.
In fact, we don't need to feel stressed because of the occasional disorder, because the actual situation is that it is impossible to have perfect sex every time. Generally, only 40% to 50% of sexual life is perfect and harmonious. So, when you just laugh at a bad performance, it is your other half who feels stressed and guilty. Of course, she is more looking forward to the next wonderful performance than blaming you for your poor performance this time.
Talk to your partner about your sexual interests.
We also know that it is a bit difficult for a person who has avoided sex. If you are too nervous, try to pick a book about sex, just turn a page, read it with your partner, point to the contents or illustrations, and everyone laughs together. The most important thing is to let your partner know that you are becoming cheerful and working hard for your relationship. And carefully prepare for every one-time life.
Stimulate sensitive parts and enhance sexual desire
Spend more time with friends.
Sexual desire needs novelty to stimulate. When you have dinner with your friends, you will have a chance to see the other side of your partner on another occasion. You'll find her so humorous and charming ―― maybe she thinks the same about you. At the same time, you will regain your confidence and find yourself so attractive in your circle of friends. These are all very helpful to enhance sexual desire.
Doctors or experts can provide a lot of help.
If there is something wrong with the circuit at home, you will think of asking an electrician for help. In the same way, when you encounter the confusion of frigidity, don't be shy to find a marriage expert, they will give you a lot of useful advice. For example, you can have a physical examination under the guidance of a doctor to see if it is caused by drug problems. If you are taking antidepressants, it may lead to frigidity. At this time, you can discuss with your doctor to change another medicine.
Press "Golden Triangle" more often.
Chinese medicine believes that moderate massage of the "Golden Triangle" can help to keep the meridians unobstructed, thus "helping", and can also alleviate the symptoms of common male diseases such as chronic prostatitis and erectile dysfunction.
Connect the upper edge of pubic bone with two thigh roots (groin) with a line, just like an inverted isosceles triangle. Among them, the center of the bottom is Qugu point of Ren meridian, the two endpoints of the bottom are Chongmen point belonging to spleen meridian, and the vertex of this triangle is Yin Hui point of Ren meridian. Five meridians, namely Ren Meridian, Kidney Meridian, Stomach Meridian, Spleen Meridian and Liver Meridian, converge here.
The massage technique is very simple. Every night before going to bed, you can start from Qugu point, and then use your thumb and fingertips to go straight out of your groin to Chongmen point. Then about two inches below the groin, there is an acute pulse point of pulse beating; Finally, massage the Yin Hui point under the scrotum with the fingertips of the index finger and middle finger.
Warm up before massage, that is, massage the lower abdomen with your palm for one or two minutes, and then start acupoint massage after you feel the heat spread from the lower abdomen to your palm. Press each acupoint with your fingertips for about 1 min. It is best to feel sore, numb and swollen. If you feel pain, stop immediately. In addition, if you have burning sensation, pain or white urine when urinating, or when you are waiting for urine, you should not massage at will.
Mental and psychological stress with the accelerated pace of life, fierce competition, heavy work pressure and uncoordinated interpersonal relationships have caused great psychological pressure to adult men. Many people think that frigidity is just a common sexual dysfunction problem for women. Recently, however, experts from the School of Public Health of the Chinese University of Hong Kong conducted a survey on the sexual health status of 4678 adult men and women, and found that 20% of men said they had sexual dysfunction, of which premature ejaculation was the most common, accounting for 30%; Secondly, the problem of sexual apathy.
Many women think that men have a strong sexual desire. This idea stems from their girlhood experience, because at that time, boys of the same age were in a period of strong sexual desire. In fact, 20-year-old boys may always want to be "that", but for adult married men, they prefer different levels of communication, not just satisfying sexual requirements.
Dr Charles, a psychologist at the University of California, said: "Needless to say, adolescent men are more full of sexual fantasies than women. They often confuse emotional needs with sexual needs and want to satisfy emotional needs through sex. However, with the increase of age, work pressure and family burden will weaken the exuberant sexual desire in adolescence. Of course, a few people have always had a strong sexual desire and cannot be generalized. "
Professor Levin of the University of Los Angeles found through investigation that among couples with disharmony in sexual life, it is often the husband who produces sexual apathy. A middle-aged man just needs a hug, a kiss or an intimate whisper. Simple sexual intercourse is not very attractive to married men.
There are many reasons for men's low sexual desire.
When a man is not interested in sex continuously or repeatedly, lacks the subjective desire to engage in sexual activities, including sexual dreams and fantasies, and lacks the consciousness of participating in sexual activities, even if he is deprived of sexual activities, he has no sense of frustration. We call it "frigidity" There are many psychological and physiological factors that cause this state in men:
Lack of sexual knowledge
It is believed that "one drop of essence, ten drops of blood", sexual activity (including masturbation) will affect people's life span and damage people's vitality.
Bad life and sexual life style
Irregular working hours, poor living conditions, lack of freshness in sexual life, insufficient communication between sexual needs and feelings, lack of mutual interest and trust between husband and wife, and men often feel depressed and anxious because they can't satisfy their wives, all of which will make men's sexual desire low.
Age factor
Men's orgasm is usually before the age of 30, and then it goes downhill. And their partners may just get rid of the shy attitude towards sex and have a stronger demand.
Endocrine system diseases
Human sexual desire is closely related to the endocrine system. After getting sick, the balance of sex hormone secretion is disrupted, and people's sexual desire will be abnormal, even frigidity or hyperthyroidism. The common problems of men are insufficient androgen secretion in menopause, hypothyroidism and hyperprolactinemia.
sexual dysfunction
ED (erectile dysfunction), premature ejaculation and other problems will dampen men's self-esteem. After a long time, they will gradually avoid or even refuse sex life, which will eventually lead to low sexual desire.
In addition, systemic diseases, such as tumors, chronic diseases, nervous system diseases, malnutrition, fatigue and so on. , can cause low sexual desire. Overnutrition and obesity will also make men less interested in sex. Some drugs, such as some antihypertensive drugs, sedatives or psychotropic drugs, alcoholism, smoking, drug abuse, etc. , are one of the reasons for low sexual desire.
Low androgen level can not only maintain male spermatogenesis function, but also improve the excitability of cerebral cortex center, stimulate sexual desire and produce sexual response.
Systemic diseases Severe acute and chronic diseases can lead to low sexual desire in men. Chronic active hepatitis, liver cirrhosis, chronic renal failure
Chemical factors such as drugs are directly related to low sexual desire, such as antipsychotics and antihypertensive drugs (antihypertensive drugs, spironolactone, etc.). ) hormone drugs.
Personal bad living habits and long-term drinking will lead to chronic liver poisoning, which will increase the level of estrogen in the blood and decrease the level of androgen, thus leading to low sexual desire.
Low libido can be divided into four levels, and detection can also be divided into four levels. In order to let people better test whether they have low sexual desire, Professor Liang Weibo cited (1993, the diagnostic criteria of low sexual desire put forward by professors and others) and divided them into the following four grades: level 1: sexual desire is normal, but the sexual requirements of spouses are acceptable. Secondary: sexual desire is weakened at a certain stage or only under certain circumstances. Level 3: persistent low sexual desire, less than twice a month or passive obedience. Grade Ⅳ: persistent low libido and sexual activity interruption for ≥6 months. Professor Liang Weibo specially reminded that the diagnosis of low libido should be distinguished from psychosomatic or organic. In clinic, low libido needs to be distinguished from natural libido reduction (especially after entering old age). With the increase of age (generally speaking, after the age of 50), male testicular function naturally declines, androgen secretion decreases, and sexual desire gradually weakens, which should not be regarded as pathological.
Psychotherapy based on counseling and guidance is mainly used to treat psychosexual hyposexuality according to different causes. Popularize sex education and relieve their sexual concerns; Those who have had unsuccessful experiences should analyze the reasons and rebuild their confidence; Those with excessive psychological pressure must first eliminate psychological barriers.
Can people with low sexual desire be cured? Professor Liang Weibo pointed out that the treatment of low libido should adopt different treatment methods according to different causes. But the general principle is: relieve symptoms, control the disease, eradicate the cause and prevent recurrence. Read the full text
The treatment of organic hyposexuality should first treat systemic organic lesions, and then treat hyposexuality after systemic function is improved.
The treatment of low libido caused by chemical factors prevents taking drugs and foods that reduce nerve excitability, gonadotropin and testosterone. reduce smoking
Some drugs, including antipsychotics, can treat low libido by strengthening the body.
Eight preventive measures to keep a good mood
Husband and wife should strengthen emotional communication.
In order to ensure adequate sleep
balanced diet
Use drugs carefully.
Moderate exercise
control one's blood pressure
stop smoking and refrain from drinking
Experts answer questions from users with low sexual desire Q: Due to some objective factors, I am temporarily not interested in sex life. Will I be able to participate in sex life in the future?
A: This kind of thinking confuses the state of sexual acceptance and sexual arousal. In fact, the satisfaction and pleasure of sexual life are not necessarily related to the initial sexual desire. Clinical practice shows that patients who are not interested in sexual life can change their sexual desire through normal sexual life experience.
Q: Will changing the inherent sexual life style lead to a decrease in sexual desire?
A: The social prejudice holds that men should be the active initiators of sexual life and quickly show sexual excitement. If the man's sexual desire is low, the woman should get rid of this prejudice, take the initiative to propose sexual life and encourage patients to actively participate.
Q: Does sexual life have to have sexual intercourse and orgasm? Doesn't this mean failure?
A: This view denies the autonomy of sexual life. In fact, patients with low sexual desire do not need to put forward high requirements for themselves. Patients can try a "special" way of sexual life to promote the feelings between husband and wife, thus improving sexual desire.
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