Don't! Isn't Tong Liya beautiful and gentle? Chen Sicheng is not derailed as usual; Is Yang Mi not beautiful or excellent? Liu Haozhi, like other women, is faced with the "luminous script" in the hotel. It seems that it is not necessarily the fault of women that men cheat, so why do men cheat?
1. Why do men cheat?
Guliezhi effect: It is said that Guliezhi is the head of state of the West. One day, when she took her wife to a chicken farm, it suddenly occurred to her to ask the farmer: How many times does the rooster do the duty of "husband" to the hen every day? Answer: A dozen times a day. Madame asked the farmer to tell the Fuehrer this conclusion.
As soon as the farmer finished talking to the Fuehrer, the Fuehrer asked: Does the rooster always do his duty to the same hen? The farmer replied: Change partners every time. As a result, the Fuehrer asked him to tell his wife this conclusion. Since then, this psychological effect has been called "cheating effect". It shows that it is very difficult to ask mammals to be faithful to sex, so it has become synonymous with men's impetuousness. Therefore, men are prone to derailment and are also affected by congenital factors.
Second, the analysis of the deep reasons for men's infidelity
Social reasons: Although national statistics have been published in recent years, there are more men than women in China. But in cities, you will find that the reality is often that there are more women than men. Such conditions make men face more temptations. In the past, men chased women over mountains and mountains, but also became modern men chased women through gauze. Faced with more temptations from the opposite sex, a kind of "comparative cognition" secretly rises in men's hearts. He may unconsciously compare his wife or girlfriend with his girlfriend outside. If he thinks that women outside are more attractive to him in some ways, then he may cheat.
Morality: Polygamy has been practiced in ancient China, and monogamy did not begin until modern times. In China society, men's cheating is not immoral, but romantic.
Are cheating men all bad people? They are not bad people, but have low sexual morality and loyalty. As long as friends around him are cheating, this man is easily influenced by incorrect values. And if a man's friend cheats but is not punished, then he is more likely to cheat. This is the so-called "broken window effect". If a good car breaks a window, someone will start stealing from it.
psychological cause
(1) Conquest: Men are born to hunt. Cheating, for them, is to conquer another woman. It's just that some men put the desire to conquer on their careers, while others put it on sexual relations.
(2) Sexual desire: Women are affected by ovulation, and most of the time their sexual desire is lower than that of men. In order to satisfy their lower body, some men will choose to cheat. Therefore, the wife's pregnancy is often the peak of men's derailment.
(3) Freshness: The Buddha jumps over the wall and tastes better overnight, which is not as good as fresh stir-fried meat. There are wild flowers at home, and the feelings are weak. People are tired of watching, and men who are eager for novelty are ready to move.
(4) Emotional dissatisfaction: When the wife's attention is not on herself, when the wife doesn't understand herself, when the wife cares more about the children and the man is not valued at home, she will go outside to look for sustenance.
(5) There are no consequences, and there is no need to take risks when cheating: some men dare to cheat because they know that they don't have to bear the consequences, so they don't have to be responsible for the mistress, and they are not afraid of the wife's condemnation. If you are a housewife who can't make money or have other abilities, and have a small family, he doesn't worry about what he will lose, and even the quality of life will be higher after cheating, then why doesn't he cheat?
Seeing this, unmarried women probably don't want to get married; I'm afraid all married women want a divorce. Since men are so gullible, no matter whether women are good-looking or excellent, why should they get married? No, not all men cheat. After all, cheating is not your idea, you can come up with it! Cheating also requires many conditions. He should have the right object, the right psychology and the right opportunity. Moreover, the handsome depends on the face, the rich depends on the money, and the ugly and poor can only slowly grind their feelings by time. If you want your man not to cheat, what should you do?
Three measures to prevent men from cheating
Instill correct values in morality. If you often mention in his ear that cheating is immoral and what kind of punishment you will get, then when he wants to cheat, he will form a conditioned reflex and your voice will echo in his mind.
You have a lot of money at your disposal: there is a saying that men become bad when they have money. If the financial power is in the hands of women, can men still get worse? Even if a man files for divorce because of cheating, you have a lot of disposable money and don't worry about a bad life in the future.
1, there are fewer women around, and these men face fewer temptations.
2. People who have less love experience have no "unfinished complex" and know how to cherish the people in front of them.
3, time and opportunities are few, which goes without saying ~ In any case, it is not necessarily a woman's fault or a woman's fault for a man to cheat. Marriage is the decision of two people who love each other to stay together for a long time. Marriage itself is beautiful. I only wish you husband and wife love each other. I hope to win a heart and never leave each other.
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